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Post by x n0ise on Feb 12, 2002 13:28:44 GMT -5
Does age matter to you? I don't think it does. I'm 13...going out with a 17 year old. We're getting along great...he's the coolest person I've ever met.
Age is but a number..nothing more..nothing less. It's the maturity level that counts.
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Feb 12, 2002 23:26:01 GMT -5
In all honesty, I think it does matter in 99 out of 100 cases. When people are still in school, even a year or two can make a difference, unfortunately. Adult relationships, however, tend to vary more in age.
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Post by horsesalltheway on Feb 13, 2002 1:00:37 GMT -5
Age is so over rated... It's the most over rated thing in the world in my opinion. If it was up to me, the world would be run in maturity level not in grades! Like, at school they would be tested and put into a class that was with their IQ rather then the more illeterate ones with the genius. It's what's up there in your head what matters not some numbers calculated by what day you were born. Who knows... I really don't think it matters. And to agree with Lisa, above me, yeah age does seem to vary more in adults. I think that's because there are NO grades and classes when you're an adult and most people are put on the same playing field. But when you're in school people are seperated into different sections and people seem to try not to assosciate with people in more of an age range from them as 1. It's quite complicated so I don't know if the words that I just typed came out properly but hay, I try. NiKKi
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Post by Fyre on Feb 13, 2002 4:09:30 GMT -5
Yes and no. I'll try to explain.
Say you're 15 and with an 18 year old. Three years is not a lot, and I myself, and 3 years apart from my fiancée, but in this situation, what if the couple had sex? The 18 year old could be charged with statutory rape, even if it was willing. Thus, age makes a difference.
Now say that you're 15 and you fall for a 10 year old. Again, five years is not a lot, but that 15 year old would get a lot of crap for it, and the 10 year old would probably be forbidden to see the 15 year old. Again, age makes a difference.
I guess if you're both over the age of 18, then no, it doesn't matter, because you're both adults by law, but if you're both under 18, or if one of you is under and one is over, it depends on the situation at hand. More often that not, I'd say that no, it doesn't matter, so long as there is love involved.
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Post by CloudOfMist on Feb 14, 2002 19:36:35 GMT -5
I tend to go for older guys because they're that much more mature. But I'm 16, and sex is legal from age 16 in Britain, so if I entered into a sexual relationship with someone older, no-one would bat an eyelid. I find generally 16 year old guys still have very much the same qualities they had at age 12 (thinking bodily noises and functions are funny, and hitting girls to show their attraction etc) while by the age of say 18, they have usually matured to such a point that you can actually talk to them. BUT believe it or not, there are some mature 16 year olds out there! There's still hope .
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 14, 2002 22:41:19 GMT -5
Horsesalltheway, I agree. Age IS VERY overrated. And I also see Fyre's point. The legal thing would make a difference. But as long as there's love involved, it wouldn't make a difference to me.
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Post by Soleluna on Feb 18, 2002 10:46:04 GMT -5
No, I don't think age matters... my best friend(i hope she still is my best friend, but I posted that in friend problems) is 16 and her boyfriend is 25... They get along perfectly. They are the best couple...
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Post by zonacruz6 on Feb 18, 2002 19:50:22 GMT -5
To me, age is NOTHING but a number. Nothing at all. Someone above spoke about legal issues. This could be a problem, but if sex was left out UNTIL it was legal-if it wasn't-then age is nothing. That same person also said that a 15 year old would get crap for being with a 10 year old. I think that if the 15 year old truly loves/likes that person, he/she shouldn't give a damn what others think and/or say. Now reverse the situation. The 10 year old would be forbidden to see the 15 year old. This however, does make sense. And that is sad because maybe the couple really do care about each other. The parents of the 15 year old would accuse him/her of not really liking the 10 year old, and the 10-year-old's parents would say the 15-year-old is too old for him/her. Sometimes, though, people judge too quickly. People think(mainly parents) age will effect the relationship. It won't! Some people refuse to be with someone _ years older/younger than them because it's not "cool". I, personally, would date anyone, as long as I truly loved them and they loved me. I am in love with a 16 year old, and I am 15. That is not a major age difference to anyone, so there really is no problems for my parents, etc. BUT, I had a crush on my 17 year old friend until a couple month ago, my mom told me I was forbidden to ever go out with him. And, my friend (she is 14) liked a 12 year old for a while. She got a lot of shit for it, not from me, but from others. I think age is so over rated, and I hate it!!! I wish people would open up their minds and realize it's maturity, not your age. Where I live, if your at least 16 with an 18 (or older) year old, it's legal for them to have sex. So, it shouldn't be legal issues once that age requirement is met, at least not where I live. Get a life, people, open your minds!!
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 18, 2002 22:27:31 GMT -5
^EXACTLY. I think parents(along with other people, mainly adults)judge wayy too quickly. I'm going out with a 17 year old...and my mom seems a lot better about it than my dad. Dad's are always more overprotective...argh.
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Post by Queen_of_Hollywood on Feb 19, 2002 13:11:49 GMT -5
when ur a kid/teen, age DOES matter. when ur an adult, it doesn't....
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 19, 2002 20:51:27 GMT -5
^^I'd have to disagree with that statement. But, eh...I guess that's your opinion.
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Post by horsesalltheway on Feb 20, 2002 1:47:17 GMT -5
^^ Spastic, I agree about disagreeing to! Age never matters and is SO over rated!
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Post by Queen_of_Hollywood on Feb 20, 2002 11:31:29 GMT -5
so it's ok if a 13 yr old goes out w/ a 19 yr old?! i don't think so...there's even laws against it. but it IS ok if a 20 yr old goes out w/ a 26 yr old....
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Post by girlpoet21 on Feb 21, 2002 7:53:10 GMT -5
^^I understand what she's saying. A 19 yr old esp a guy would most likely have more expectations of sex. That would be difficult for a 13 yr old. It's generally not fair to her. Also, a lot of times they don't last because of a difference in likes and dislikes. Unless the younger one is incredibly mature, it's not fair to either one.
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Post by Queen_of_Hollywood on Feb 21, 2002 9:48:59 GMT -5
girlpoet, THANK YOU!!
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