tay
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Post by tay on Aug 22, 2002 18:26:27 GMT -5
Yep, it's good they know... but every time my boyfriend does something that has to do with me (one time he bought a ring for me and put it on his credit card, for example), his mom calls and complains. She tries to control everything. One time she called and gave me a lecture. Now THAT was fun. Anyway. My mom thinks she's pretty stupid and off. Hehe, one of my friends always says, 'It's like Romeo and Juliet, except Juliet's parents agree with it.'
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Aug 22, 2002 21:34:47 GMT -5
^^^^^^ lol. That's a good one (about the R&J thing) , hehe ;D
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Post by x n0ise on Aug 24, 2002 21:40:04 GMT -5
Yeah, Heather, my parents knew. But we're not together antmore anyways. So it doesn't really matter now.
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Aug 25, 2002 20:05:05 GMT -5
omg. atleast you guys are honest.....
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Post by julinka on Sept 11, 2002 13:08:20 GMT -5
Age is a number. It doesn't count when you're in love. It takes more than love to make a relationship work, especially long-term. Idealism is great when you first fall for someone, but it won't get you through the really rough spots. You have to realize that sometimes being with someone, no matter how much you love them, is going to suck ass, and there has to be a lot of other things backing up the relationship for it to work through those. Fairy tales tell us that love conquors all, in real life it's more likely to be communication and compromise.
And a large age difference can make both of those more difficult, especially early in life when it usually implies a large difference in life experience.
And not every 20 year old is mature like you think. My boyfriend's step-brother is 22. He's lived at home all his life. Of course not every 22-year-old is mature. The point is, if they *aren't*, how likely are they to grow up later? If you were 16 and dating that guy, what will you do when you're 18, and (hopefully) acting like a mature adult, and he's *still* immature?
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tay
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Post by tay on Oct 2, 2002 9:36:23 GMT -5
^^ In my case, it doesn't matter. Age doesn't matter when applied to our situation. People should look at things carefully when deciding what's 'good' and what's 'bad' (this wasn't directed at you; I could just see it that way). And ultimately, it's up to the people in the relationship, it's up to the people, because they have to live their lives. Are they being hurt by being in that relationship? Do they want to be in it? Is it hurting them to be in it? Those are questions that they have to answer for themselves.
For us, there isn't a large difference in life experiences either. I've got a lot to say, he's got it too. It's not a big difference in my situation. So, speaking from my relationship, age is only a number.
Heh, see, but I *wouldn't* date someone like that. That's just not someone I'd go for, like maybe someone else would. In that case, I wouldn't find myself with someone like him, and if I did, I'd be out of it pretty quickly.
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tam
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Post by tam on Nov 3, 2002 8:32:23 GMT -5
If you are the same maturity level or similar then age isn't really a problem...
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Post by pinacolada on Apr 28, 2003 17:56:42 GMT -5
I don't think that age really matters all that much. It's more about maturity and love. Nobody can tell you if a relationship is right or wrong, if it feels right go for it. I know if I listened to everyone who told me that my boyfriend was too old for me I wouldn't be in the wonderful relationship that I am in now.
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Post by hallowsorange on Aug 31, 2003 21:06:37 GMT -5
Yes! Dur...
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