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Post by x n0ise on Apr 1, 2002 22:12:29 GMT -5
Aren't you 13 right now, Linkin??
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on May 2, 2002 16:49:29 GMT -5
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Post by ageofsolar on May 25, 2002 2:00:50 GMT -5
Age matters, some of the time. It really depends on the situation and your maturity level.
For example, if you are 14 years old and the guy your dating is 20 or 21, then I'm sorry but your relationship is not going to work out. You want different things in life, and the guy could end up in jail for touching you. Now in a case like that YES age matters.
When you're adults, I don't think it does. You have both been through the same stages in life and are ready to have a serious relationship.
I speak about this through personal experiences, I used to always say how age did not matter until after the whole relationship was over.. now I know it does.
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Post by Annie on May 25, 2002 4:14:49 GMT -5
For example, if you are 14 years old and the guy your dating is 20 or 21, then I'm sorry but your relationship is not going to work out. If you think it depends on the situation, stating that 14-year-olds cannot have a relationship with someone six or seven years older is a contradiction of what you've said.
You want different things in life, and the guy could end up in jail for touching you. Now in a case like that YES age matters. Not all 20- and 21-year-olds are fixated on having sex with his girlfriend because she happens to be younger than him. If he is taking advantage of his girlfriend, in that case, the relationship won't work out. When you're adults, I don't think it does. You have both been through the same stages in life and are ready to have a serious relationship. What do you define as an 'adult?' One of adult maturity or of one of choronological maturity?
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Post by x n0ise on May 25, 2002 15:25:58 GMT -5
Before I've said that age doesn't matter at all. Well, I've come to realize that that's not totally true. I am in a realationship where my guys is about 3.5 - 4 years older than me and I can see some situations where that age difference really does show through. But he likes me enough to stay with me through those times. He's aware of the age difference and how different we are. But in the end, it's worth every minute of it.
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Post by PrettyGirl_Is_Suffering on Jul 15, 2002 20:07:57 GMT -5
I don't think age really matters , becuase recently I met t10 really cewl 17 year old guys. They thought I was 16 though at first. But they were fine when they knew i was only 14. And early that day I was getting hit on with a guy my own age... and he was touching me and all that but when the 17 years old were coming up to me and talking to me they wern't like that at all they were very respectful. It was kind of funny though tone of them came over and was like "e and my friend were cheacking you out" and he asked how old I was and he said "Damnet Im 17" but he was ok with it becuase he introduced me to his other friend and it was all goood.
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Post by julinka on Aug 1, 2002 14:53:21 GMT -5
For example, if you are 14 years old and the guy your dating is 20 or 21, then I'm sorry but your relationship is not going to work out.
I'd have to agree with this in general. If you're 14 years old, even if you're really mature for 14, then there's still a lot of life you probably haven't experienced. Like living on your own, paying bills, holding down a job, etc. And if you're dating someone who's still immature and hasn't taken the plunge into adult life by that point, then sorry babe, he's a loser. And not likely to grow up any time soon. So even if the two people are a good maturity match at the moment, hopefully the 14 year old is actually going to do some growing up.
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Aug 1, 2002 16:29:01 GMT -5
<< you're 14 years old, even if you're really mature for 14, then there's still a lot of life you probably haven't experienced. Like living on your own, paying bills, holding down a job, etc.>> Right. When you're 20, you'll be figuring out your car payments. When you're 14, you're figuring out your algebra homework. That's not saying that a 20 or 21 year old would just be looking for sex, but it's hard to have anything in common with someone who is that much older than you. The ages between 14 and 20 are the golden years when you're changing, both mentally and physically. It's much easier to relate to someone who is closer in age to you. The guy I like is almost 18, but I'm almost 15 so the age difference isn't too bad. I know he's not out there looking for sex... We have a good time together without ever getting physical. He has great morals. So, yes, people are all different, and you can't set a standard for every relationship, but there's a point where you have to step back and wonder if it will really work out.
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Post by Bruised Evening Sky on Aug 18, 2002 1:03:27 GMT -5
At first I really didn't think age mattered too much, and on some level I don't think it does if two people really like one another, but I was thinking about it; I'm 15, so say I was going out with an 18-year-old. Would that be the same to him as it would to me if I was going out with a 12-year-old? The idea of seeing someone that young repulses me, but would it be the same to the older guy to date someone 3 years younger than he is?
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Aug 18, 2002 12:38:45 GMT -5
Oh, that hurt.
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Aug 18, 2002 13:43:02 GMT -5
<<I'm 15, so say I was going out with an 18-year-old. Would that be the same to him as it would to me if I was going out with a 12-year-old?>>
That's exactly what I've always wondered. I'm almost 15, and I do have feelings for a guy who's almost 18. He's incredibly nice and sweet to me, but the only thing stopping me from trying to pursue anything with him is the age difference. Do I look immature to him? Of course I would probably never date a 12 year old, because we would most likely have nothing in common. Is 12-15 a worse age difference, since one is just entering puberty and the other is almost fully developed as a high school student, compared to 15-18 where there might be some similar interests? And once the 18 year old turns 20, and the 15 year old would be 17, would that be another period of two different levels of maturity?
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Aug 18, 2002 15:07:21 GMT -5
Well, I'm almost 14 and I am still going out with Jay, who *is* 18. And there is nothing wrong there!!
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Post by konark on Aug 22, 2002 9:30:45 GMT -5
i think yes, even though it is a crazy double standard, if you're 13, you generally wouldn't be tooo safe betted dating a 19 year old. a lot of physical, but even more emotional and mental maturity goes on through those years...so at 13 (generally speaking anyway) you are aeons away from 19. (i can totally contradict this with many examples, i know tons of 19 year olds who are bigger idiots than i was at 12, but nevertheless..) there are outstanding circumstances where these things can work. the guy i'm dating is 2 years older, but in the same grade (i'm a year younger for 11th, btw my birthday is jan 4..and he's a year older..his birthday is dec 18) and i don't ever notice. but dating an older guy, can pressure a girl, especially a young and confused girl to do things she doesn't really want to, just to impress him and blah de blah blah. when you're older i guess age matters less because maturity levels level off i guess. its all in individual cases. if i found a caring wonderfully understanding 20 year old guy, i'd probably date him, but it would be difficult to find things in common w/ him b/c in high school your whole life is about high school and in college...and so on....now i'm just rambling *scampers away* *~pobo-likes-dirt ;D
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Post by tay on Aug 22, 2002 17:52:30 GMT -5
No, age doesn't matter. When you're in love, none of it matters. Not age, not race, not religion, not gender. Age is a number. It doesn't count when you're in love.
I'm 14. My boyfriend is 17. I've been with him for a year and four months. We're perfect for each other. Everyone knows about it. My parents are fine with it, his parents...um, don't like me.
And not every 20 year old is mature like you think. My boyfriend's step-brother is 22. He's lived at home all his life. He's never had to pay for anything of his own, he's never had a job, he's never had a car that he had to pay for or worry about. He's never done anything my himself.
Anyway, he's 17, I'm 14. He never really had a girlfriend before me, and he's not using me for sex. I think I'd be able to tell. He was afraid to touch me or be close with me for the first eight months, so we just talked and everything.
And I'm mature for my age, everyone think so. People who I talk to who don't know my age think I'm a lot older than I am.
One of my best friends married a guy 30 years older than her. Yes, kind of weird. He was 40 when she was 10, hehehe. If your relationship doesn't work out, it's not because of different ages. It's becasue of the people in it.
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Aug 22, 2002 18:06:51 GMT -5
It's a good thing your parents know about him.. Did yours, Haley?? Mine dont
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