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Post by x n0ise on Feb 21, 2002 16:52:17 GMT -5
Hey now...I do see both sides of this, but I'm just saying what I think - which comes from my own experiences. Now I know in some cases that it wouldn't be right. Such as someone said before...the maturity level. But I am 13, and very mature for my age if I do say so myself, and I'm going out with a 17 year old. And I know that sex will come up sooner or later in life with him...or not with him...and I will be prepared for what I have to do. We do share many, many of the same interests/thoughts etc. But you have to know who you're dealing with. I spent time getting to know my boyfriend 4-5 months before he finally asked me out - which I'm glad I chose to do that. I know my boyfriends past...he used to be a 'rebel' or whatever...smoking, drugs, alcohol...ya know. But he changed....changed for the better. My guy is a very good...a good boy....or as my friends would say 'A good church-boy.' ;D We know how to express our feelings to each other. If someone feels uncomfortable with something, we'll let each other know. We trust each other. It all comes down to the maturity level and who you're dealing with.
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Post by Queen_of_Hollywood on Feb 22, 2002 17:33:13 GMT -5
thanx for seeing my point of view
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 22, 2002 19:39:03 GMT -5
Yeap, no problem. I'm a pretty open-minded person. ;D
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Post by sweetpea on Feb 23, 2002 1:27:20 GMT -5
The classic age rule almost always works... so i will share it with you... Take the age of the older person, divide it by two, add seven, you shouldn't date any one younger than that unless there are extreme situations... ex. A 22 year old shouldn't date younger than 18 A 16 year old shouldn't date younger than 15 A 40 year old shouldn't date younger than 27 it is just an easy guidline... take it as you will
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 23, 2002 15:00:25 GMT -5
Agh, nah...I wouldn't use that. I just go by my heart - whatever feels right to me.
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Post by ShpIffaLiciOusMe on Feb 24, 2002 18:59:58 GMT -5
i think age does does matter depending on how old you are. if you are like 13 or 14 going out with a 19 yr old. that does matter. there IS a big maturity gap there. the 19 yr old is more mature and is going to expect more of a 13 yr old than they may want to give. that wont last. and in my opinion...what is a 19 yr old guy/girl doing going out with a 13 yr old guy/girl. i think that is weird. but its only me. if you were say 25 and you were going with someone who is 39...that doesnt matter because they would pretty much be at the same maturity level. and they would most likely have the same expectations of each other. and it wouldnt be a big problem to live up to the expectations. if it was some 25 yr old going with some 60 yr old. now that i think is really weird. so young and so old together. i, in my opinion, think that there is something more going on than what you see. like you dont see that much unless the older person is rich. you know what i mean. they are older, they are rich, the younger person will be inheriting a lot soon. but hey maybe in some cases it is true love. this is all my opinion and what i see in these cases. *edited b/c of a typo*
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 24, 2002 21:32:37 GMT -5
Well, I'm 13 and going out with a 17 year old.
I say it's the maturity level that counts, because I'm very mature for my age.
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 24, 2002 21:36:56 GMT -5
Well, I also wanted to add that it also has to do with the kind of guy you're dealing with. If you're dealing with a bad boy....then yes, of course he's going to expect a lot(sex, etc)from a girl. If it's a good boy(like mine)and everything, then I would say it's fine as long as the two are both mature and ready for this type of relationship.
I know my guy too well. ;D
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Post by tootrickyforyou on Feb 26, 2002 14:59:44 GMT -5
I don't think that age really matters, as long as they're both mature enough for each other. Spastic seems perfectly happy with her boyfriend, and they're *takes out calculator ;D* 4 years apart from each other. Some people mature faster than others, and some don't. Go with a guy/girl that's AT your maturity level. Age shouldn't get in the way.
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Post by KattyKatie on Feb 27, 2002 9:24:50 GMT -5
Well sometimes it makes a huge difference! For me, I know an amazing guy, he's sweet, he's smart, he's funny, he's hot... but he's also 19 (I'm 15). I don't feel comfortable around him, as apposed to someone who was 18, and that holds me back from going into a relationship with him. A lot of times someone older is also more experienced and has more "mature" interests. Of course if you're comfortable with the person and you have a lot in common and have enough respect for each other not to rush into anything you're not ready for, don't let age hold you back.
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 28, 2002 21:51:41 GMT -5
Yes, it's the maturity level, not the age. Age is a number and it's just something to measure how long you've been on this planet of ours. It means absolutely nothing when it comes to love. It shouldn't get in the way of any kind of relationship. That'd be just plain stupid.
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Post by Soleluna on Mar 1, 2002 1:01:02 GMT -5
What about a 32year old with an 18 year old? What if they both respected each other and loved each other?
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 1, 2002 20:14:32 GMT -5
A 32 year old and an 18 year old? Well, I guess it depends on the people. If they want a relationship like that, they can go on and do it. Nothings going to stop them. It just depends on the people and their preferences, I suppose.
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Post by BlissfulGnome on Mar 2, 2002 18:57:36 GMT -5
So.. do any of you think it is kinda weird or anything for a girl to go out with a guy younger than her?? Some people think that is disgusting(which I don't get) but I don't, do any of you?
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 3, 2002 0:12:31 GMT -5
No, I don't think that's sick at all. I think it's perfectly fine and normal. There's nothing wrong with that! ;D
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