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Post by pettyluv on Mar 3, 2002 20:54:14 GMT -5
I think it is completely inane to believe that a 17 year old and a 10 year old could exist in a healthy relationship. I question the intentions of a HS junior who dates a fifth grader. Until you are an adult age is a major issue. Of coarse you at any age consider yourself mature, I mean is there ever an age that you are at when you say,"You know what, I'm really an immature ditz." No, obviously you do not, everyone holds themselves to a higher standard than that, it is only human nature. I mean think back to when you were 5, you probaly thought you could think for yourself and were perfectly able to make decisions for yourself. Now reflect back and see how wrong you were! You gain alot of knowledge and experience in your teen years, I am only just over half way through them and I know that my mental states is dramatically different than when I was 10 or even 13. As you get older you have more life experience and can make better and more well informed decisions. You may in your mind place yourselves on a pedestal of maturity above your peers, but you may then laugh at yourself a few years from now.
But on the other side there probaly are some 13 year olds that are capable of making life decisions. But I really do not think that 10 year olds are capable of comprending love at the level of someone just a few years older then them. And when you think about it, why would someone have to go so far out of their own age group to date someone massly younger than they?
These are just questions you have to ask of yourself. I know that at this point in my life I really wouldnt date someone in college and I probaly wouldnt date someone younger than, because it just seems odd. I think I really just lead a vastly different life style as a sophmore girl than a guy in college and that would present obvious problems.
So I guess what I am getting at is, really think through what you are doing and who you are dating reguardless of age. But you really might want to be more critical of someone who prefers to date someone a lot younger than themselves.
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 3, 2002 22:46:00 GMT -5
Okay...well age matters to a limit. Obviously a 17 and a 10 year old relationship isn't going to work. But I'm 13 and going out with a 17 year old. I, actually, don't think of age when I'm with him. Yes, I am mature for my age, which is highly unusual. Even my parents/relatives say that...so, I suppose it must be true. Anyways, yes, I found it strange at first that a 17(he's a junior, i'm in 8th)year old wanted to go out with someone as young as myself(even though we're only 3 1/2 years apart). He said that he's never liked someone that wasn't around his age before, and that it was really strange...but he really likes me. I believe him, and I really like him too. He's my baby and I'm his. We've been going out for a month now and everything is going great!
I guess it all boils down to the people you're dealing with.
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Post by Ms.Thang_Has-It-All on Mar 10, 2002 2:18:27 GMT -5
No it doesn't to a certain degree. I mean, I'm 13 and wouldn't wanna be with a 25 year old. ya know - so yeah it does matter. lol but thats just kinda unreal ^ But to answer the question, it doesn't really matter.
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Mar 10, 2002 15:04:17 GMT -5
NO way,age doesnt matter,my bf juz turned 18 and Im also 13..Hes soo sweet I swear,and we love each other so much and he doesnt care how old I am and I dont care how old he is,we juz love each other for who we are, ;D
~~~~~~Heather,(Edward Furlong,Mike Shinoda,Chester Bennington,KidRock & Joe C. LOVER!!!!!! Linkin Park RULES!!!!!!)
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 11, 2002 23:59:28 GMT -5
^That's great! I'm glad your relationship is going well. Even though it probably doesn't matter, I'm also glad that I'm not the only one on here with an older guy.
LinkinPark_girl, what do your parents think about this? Just curious! ;D
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Post by OxNutz on Mar 13, 2002 0:27:48 GMT -5
I'm gonna let you in on a secret...
If some guy is say, 21+, and you're like still in high school and talking to him, he's just looking for some little young thing to flex with since he can't hack it in his peer group. Same for older (35+) dudes and women 21+. Relationships involving someone under the age of 16 are just sick.
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 17, 2002 21:35:12 GMT -5
Age doesn't matter as much as stage of life. If you are in Junior High and still finding yourself and he is about ready to go off to college I see a problem. Now, IF you are the same distance apart and graduated from college working, there is no big problem. A relationship works best if both people are working toward the same thing. Make sure your goals for the relationship match his. You don't want to be caught at a young age getting your heart broken for the first time by a guy who is just looking for a summer fling before he goes off to who-knows-where.
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Post by *Little Leprechaun Gurl* on Mar 18, 2002 0:53:18 GMT -5
Hahhaahha...I thought it said "dogs age matter" and i was like WHAT THE HECK! I'm an idiot..dont listen to me...anywhoo I dont think age matters as long as its not like I dunno say when you were born he was 18...I dunno but whatever floats your boat...
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 18, 2002 16:56:43 GMT -5
Exactly.
My motto: Whatever floats your boat. ;D It works for me!
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Post by irresistible_1 on Mar 18, 2002 19:16:13 GMT -5
i dont think age matters.. i have been with an 18 year old and im 15 and i like another 18 year old.. but that's just me..
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Post by OxNutz on Mar 18, 2002 20:16:23 GMT -5
Sicko
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Post by popcorn on Mar 19, 2002 18:25:39 GMT -5
okay, OxNuts, don't judge other ppl (personal attack) like u do on other boards. You have no idea what goes on between irrisistable_1 and her b/f. They probably find they have things in common, etc -- but regardless: don't just call ppl "Sicko"
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Mar 19, 2002 21:51:52 GMT -5
spastic.fruit :: Nope they have no idea.. I havent really met him yet,but I call him every night wround 10:30 or 11' something and when we meet....well I dont know....But we luv each other and thats all that really matters
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 20, 2002 13:12:03 GMT -5
That is so sweet, Linkinpark_girl! =) Aww..!
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Post by Candy Apple on Mar 20, 2002 13:43:07 GMT -5
I don't think age really matters. But, more than likely, alot of times, someone will fall in love with someone around their age, because most the time they have similar feelings, problems, friends, etc. But then again, someone can be 18 and have mental retardness, and a 14 year old have mental retardness, and they share the same problems, and they fall in love because of problems. Sort of like, poor people will more than likely falll in love with poor people, rather than a rich person. Same diffrence the other way around. I have an uncle who is 21, and his wife is 36 and I don't see anything wrong with that. As long as they love each other, and get along and keep their Christian Relationship, (as I call it), then age doesn't matter there. But, if they're was an 11 year old, and she/he married a 40 year old, no way! That would be perverted or something, no 40 year old would fall in love with a 10 year old. Unless, they are perverted and just want sex, like I learned @ school in Sex Education, but they're might be a case where they are in love, but I have yet to hear of one! But no, age doesn't matter unless it's based all on sex. You have to have something in common and be in love. Thats the way I see it. [shadow=purple,left,300]~*Chloe~*[/shadow]
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