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Post by m on May 19, 2003 7:24:14 GMT -5
Ignoring A Guy, He Still Wants Your Attention
Hi Alyssa:
1. To answer your first question, yes. But it's also that the guy wants to be the one that gets the girl, not the girl gets the guy. Yes it is sort of a hunt for us, but when you are "forthcoming" the reason it puts us on the defensive is that it sort of uncovers our desire more quickly than we would have wanted.
2. As to your second question, it sounds to me that he is very interested in you and the touching, secret smiles, and joking are sure signs that he is flirting with you. The next move is up to you.
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Post by Alyssa on May 25, 2003 14:33:52 GMT -5
Thanks, that's exactly what I wanted to hear ;D
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Post by Alyssa on Jun 30, 2003 7:52:19 GMT -5
Same guy, new worry ("Now what?!" I hear you say).
Went to the movies with some friends including him. Sat next to him and there was enough body contact during the movie to say clearly "I'm attracted to you". Now, two days later, he is totally ignoring me, doesn't even look at me. What the...?
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Post by ThaIceLady on Jun 30, 2003 18:53:22 GMT -5
Hmm I'm guessing that maybe he's not sure on what to say/do next, or maybe he is unsure if he wants to pursue a relationship at the moment. Okay that was the "woman's view" now where is the wise master Big Rush at? ;D
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Post by canola4life on Jun 30, 2003 22:47:58 GMT -5
sometimes flirting is fun by itself and doesn't need a relationship to follow it. could possibly be that he likes you but isn't interested, or isn't interested right now, or isn't sure what he wants. example of what could be happening: the standard flirt formula followed by two gay males seeing each other for the first time on the street is initially pure body language, and if each plateau of flirtation is attained in proper order, the two men finally exchange meaningless but formulaic banter. the important thing is that neither party commits anything the entire time, and can pull out anytime he likes without embarrassment. you liked the touching, and he liked the touching, and maybe that's all there was to it. or he could just need a sign that you liked it and took it as something and not nothing. give him some signs, leave the ball in his court, and good luck.
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Post by Spazmatikal on Jul 1, 2003 11:57:03 GMT -5
^^ i agree. a lot of people flirt without expecting more. it could be that there was physical attraction between the two of you, but not necessarily anything further. flirting is fun, people like to do it without feeling like they need to be attached to the person. a friend of mine flirts with everyone without looking to date them. that's just the way he is though, and people unconsciously flirt right back. there are just some people with those types of personalities.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Jul 1, 2003 12:28:43 GMT -5
I never thought about what you two said. That could be it.
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Post by m on Jul 2, 2003 6:38:04 GMT -5
The Wise Master is here. Well, I'd say something, but Canola4Life nailed it. No need to say anything else except that I agree.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Jul 2, 2003 7:04:25 GMT -5
^Hehe, you got a day off.
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Post by Alyssa on Jul 2, 2003 10:38:17 GMT -5
Ok, thanks. Thing is, there isn't even time for a relationship, not that I even want one... I have four weeks left here before I leave the country for 10 months *lol* So, the most I'd want would be using the physical attraction to have a bit of fun
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Post by hallowsorange on Aug 31, 2003 21:04:42 GMT -5
Why do I do that? Hmmmm....Because I am stupid. I mean, girls are much, much, much smarter than guys. Its a fact. Its not a excuse, its a fact. I mean, who invented war so hundreds or thousands or millions of people could die? Men did. I bet the wemon told us that it was a bad idea, we probably just said "Quiet woman!". A lot of guys I have met think that they know everything. I sure know I don't.
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Post by strangelilboi on Sept 23, 2003 12:28:12 GMT -5
Soz but WOT are u talking abt?!?!?!
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