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Post by Ms.Thang_Has-It-All on Dec 29, 2002 22:10:32 GMT -5
Okay...
This guy I like tells people he likes me, but he never admits it to me. I know he likes me because he told dhis sister, best friend, even his best friends parents that he want to get with me. I never told him that those people tell me what he says about me though. I recently gave him a picture of me ( the best one I've tooken in years ) and his sister told me that he said, " Do you think she's pretty?" Then she said, "Yeah." Then he said, " I know, I'm going to be with her one day." I thought that was sooo sweet. But what I don't get, if he likes me that much , why doesn't he seem that interested? He's such a cutie. Can someone tell me why he may be doing that, pleeeeeeeeaaase ! And also, how can I get him to admit to me that he like me
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Dec 30, 2002 11:18:44 GMT -5
Cold Feet and Shyness Hi Ms.Thang_Has-It-All: Simply put this guy is into you but is too shy or something. You need to be a little forward, in a gentle way, or make it obvious to him that you're interested in him. To be fair, he's ready to burst and may be getting ready to ask you out. Give him a little time, but keep in mind he's afraid to make an idiot out of himself. And also, how can I get him to admit to me that he like meThat's just something you're going to have to wait on. You can't make someone say something like that. You wouldn't either. You're going to have to wait for those three magic words that are so much better.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Dec 30, 2002 16:03:21 GMT -5
Aww that's so cute..Good luck Ms. Thang
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Jan 5, 2003 18:32:24 GMT -5
Okay, I have a pretty general/a little specific question....Why does this whole double standard still exist these days? Why can a guy just hook up with people (and well by 'hook up', I don't really mean sex, just like making out and other minor stuff) but if a girl does the same, she's like the equivalent of a whore. I'm asking because, well my boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago ( ;D) YaY, and you know why I'm YaYing, Toxic. LoL. And well I just decided for now that I'm gunna have fun when I want to, and not exactly search for a boyfriend, so if I'm at a party and I make out with a cute guy, and we don't develop a relationship, it's okay,because it was just a hook up. And well I did get to hook up, over vacation, and it was fun, except now everyone is like "Oh, don't turn into a slut,", but I'm definately not going to. And it's not like if I make out with someone that I'm going to have sex with them, because I'm still a virgin and I intend to be one until I find someone I truly love. So whyy does this stupid double standard still exist and why are people so judgmental about such little things, such as making out with someone who you're not with. Sorry, I'm just mad right now with everyone, especially guys...
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Jan 6, 2003 11:00:46 GMT -5
Double Standards
Hi x.just.a.little.grL.x
To tell you the truth, I don't really know. With girls, the guy wants the first shot at her. And it seen as more of a conquest or a trophy. This is partly why guys who are Players are sort of revered. Thankfully this trend seems to have worn out its welcome, but it still happens. It's a loss of respect for the girl.
And well I did get to hook up, over vacation, and it was fun, except now everyone is like "Oh, don't turn into a slut,",
Be very careful, and be prepared to have to defend yourself, position and repeat the same thing over and over again. You should get a micro-cassette recorder to record your answer.
"Hey, so what'd you do last night?" You: Click"We just hung out, that's all."
I'm still a virgin and I intend to be one until I find someone I truly love.
Congratulations, you have my support.
whyy does this stupid double standard still exist and why are people so judgmental about such little things, such as making out with someone who you're not with. Sorry, I'm just mad right now with everyone, especially guys...
The double standard exists and will for a long time. You have to decide in your heart what's best for you. Sometimes, as with guys, it's a contest. They want the trophy girl because they think they're the trophy guy and everyone wants them. Unfortunaltely we live in a time where repectability is at a low. No one cares, about anyone but themselves. Me, me, me. You pay, the girl pays, but eventually, the guy pays when he no longer knows how to love, and can't keep the girl, but the girl pays too, and both soon part ways or divorce.
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Post by sophisticated_cat on Jan 25, 2003 15:51:30 GMT -5
hi toxic! got a little problem that's just driving me crazy! its just this guy and me online. do u think it might indicate something? (btw he doesn't have any close friends whom are girls, he's always with the guys- he also knows that i like him) ok... he's online, I go online 10:30, ,he comes and starts chatting saying "congratulations on winning blah blah, its great, etc etc "- all my other competeters were not that happy, he is also my competeter but he seems to be very happy for me. -he jokes around a bit, I then tell him to remove bits of his nick and i actually tell him what to leave on ;D -he then has to go. -next day: im online, HE comes online 10:30, his nick has been changed to what i told him to do nothing great... but what do u think? do u think he might have something towards me?
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Jan 27, 2003 11:15:52 GMT -5
Online Love?
Hi sophisticated_cat:
Is this strictly online or do you actually see him occasionally? The answer to the first question; it could be yes. It’s easy to love someone over the internet. How close or how committed an online relationship is, is the question. It’s both a lot easier to keep and maintain, and also easier to throw away.
im online, HE comes online 10:30, his nick has been changed to what i told him to do nothing great... but what do u think? do u think he might have something towards me?
Unless he says otherwise or starts dropping hints, there isn’t much going on here. Okay, having said that, that does not MEAN nothing is happening, but this guy changing his nickname to what you suggested isn’t much of an indication of anything. Where it might get interesting is if he changes his nickname so it resembles yours, that or if he is openly flirting with you—that is, making comments. “You sound very cute,” “I like that necklace you said you had,” “That shirt sounds pretty to me.”
And other comments like that. Look for subtle cues too, but complimenting is a big indicator of how someone feels about someone else. But again, guard your heart, and don’t read too much of anything into it. Remember sometimes because you can’t hear the person’s voice, a perfectly worded comment can come out as a criticism when it was meant as a compliment.
Anything else, let me know.
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Post by sophisticated_cat on Jan 27, 2003 14:24:22 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice and also for the coming answer ;D . . . it really is a relief to hear from a guy's point of a view! Oh no, it isn't online love! I see this guy everyday (that i go to school).....he hardley speaks to girls though, he's really shy with us (very outgoing with his friends though ).... that's why the only way we actually do talk to each other (conversations) is online. . . anyway we know each other very well and there was some story...but anyway this year is our last year, so no one is really bothered, everyones concentrating on their studies, so havent spoken or taken note of him for a few months...we've just finished exams and are on holiday . . . that's what made me start thinking abt him again . . . just a bit of background information there btw ... forgot something, coz it happened some weeks ago, one of friends saw this and she told me that this girl (which aahhh we don't like each other much) , wanted to try putting me down... so she went to him and asked him *sarcastic*, "What do u think of how she looked today?" . . . He replied, "she's cute." -He did NOT say it in a sarcastic way. Was he just trying to brush her off, so she doesn't tease him? (they both know that i like him) wants to put her down? defend me? likes me? . . . agghhhh, what does it mean?
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Jan 29, 2003 6:55:41 GMT -5
Okay, Not-So-Online Love Hi sophisticated_cat Okay, forget what I said above. Having been a shy person myself, it’s hard to talk to people, and most of the time, you say things so you can get away with as few words as possible. BUT! As you pointed out, the first thing out of his mouth was how cute you were. That might have been a little difficult for him to say, and if he feels that, as I’m sure he does. You might have some possibilities. It could be both that he was defending you, and likes you. I can work you through this too. The next move is yours. He’s shy, he’s not going to do it first. This is because he may afraid of rejection or maybe even that he might not want you to think he’s that into you. So try asking him to a game, or something light and simple. Tell him it’s a date. Are you one of the one’s from Oman? I’m telling you things from an American perspective, so pick out what might work for you. And if he’s not into you, then two things will happen. He’ll say no, and that’s that. Try again later if this is who you want to be with. Or he’ll be amazed, or flattered or both and take you up on it. Take it slow, and don’t push anything on him. Okay, now that, that might be settled, and as I’ve said here before. You and him can and will make mistakes. You will screw up, allow yourself to be embarrassed. Let it happen, and you’ll have something to laugh at in the months to come. And as always, anything else, let me know.
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Post by sophisticated_cat on Jan 29, 2003 15:53:24 GMT -5
yeah im from oman, i didn't really want to bring this up, coz dating is mmm not approved of, our culture is very different... saying that it doesn't mean he can't tell me if he likes me . . . i just wanted to know if he still had feelings for me...well he had, i could tell coz of the way he used to act towards me, it was very obvious . . . it's just like I said, I was very busy and didn't care much for the past months. . . it's just now I've started thinking and was wondering if he still had those feelings towards me. Thanks again for all your answers .
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Jan 30, 2003 10:41:48 GMT -5
You're welcome.
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Post by scars.of.reget on Apr 11, 2003 5:00:50 GMT -5
Okay, i'm new here, but i hope you guys can help me... there's this guy that i sort of like but i'm not sure if i'd date him. I've never had a bf and he doesn't really seem like the type that would be a really good bf. Anyway... i'm not sure if he likes me. When we see each other, i guess you can say we look at each other in a "special" way, it's really cool, he'll always do something cute to get my attention, we always look at each other for a tad too long. We're pretty good friends, but we don't have classes together so i don't talk to him that much. He touches me alot when we talk and once he put his arm around me, but i backed away... it was pretty awkward. it's hard to explain but i sort of get the feeling he likes me. But when we're with my friends, he'll talk to them more, and he's always telling me he thinks some girl is sexy. does he like me ? if he does, why does he talk about other girls in that way?
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on Apr 18, 2003 10:35:43 GMT -5
At the moment my boyfriend and I are giving each other space, simply because a lot of stuff has got in the way of our affections. Anyways, he says he's feel weird, lost and confused about me. One of the problems was that one of my best friends was outrageously flirting with him, and he responded, and I hated that. Do guys sometimes flirt if someone flirts with them, without thinking? My friend has been a problem since the beginning, as he found her attractive in a couple weeks of us being together, and they share a lot of stuff which they don't necessarily tell me, and I find that hard. This last week, me and my youth group went away with each other, and she came (booked before I was with him)... and they just spent the whole week flirting, and not much time with me. He says he didn't realise and still loves me. Blah, this is just my mental thoughts, sorry.
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Post by m on Apr 20, 2003 20:41:22 GMT -5
Does He Like Me, Why Doesn’t He Let Me Know?
Hi Scars.Of.Regret:
It feels good to be working again. Anyway, it sounds like he really does like you but isn’t sure how to go about it. That he tells you that some other girl is sexy, may be his way of trying to get your attention. If he’s always “doing something cute” to get your attention, it’s his way of showing you he’s interested. You have two choices: Take him up on it, or if that’s not what you want right now, tell him immediately that you are not interested in that way. ========================================
Does He Like Me, Why Does He Flirt With This Other Girl?
Hi -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*
At the moment my boyfriend and I are giving each other space, simply because a lot of stuff has got in the way of our affections.
Like what? Actually you don't have to answer that, but I can tell there's going to be alot of hurt on both sides if this isn't dealt with soon!
Do guys sometimes flirt if someone flirts with them, without thinking? My friend has been a problem since the beginning, as he found her attractive in a couple weeks of us being together, and they share a lot of stuff which they don't necessarily tell me, and I find that hard.
To answer your question, yes. Okay, you and this guy are at a "tender" age. His hormones are raging and any pretty girl is going to turn the heat up on him. On the other hand, while his hormones are raging, he does have a mind and is not a slave to his body.
He says he didn't realise and still loves me. Blah, this is just my mental thoughts, sorry.
Okay here's the thing. Be prepared to get hurt, because it sounds like he's interested in this other girl. Please guard your heart and be aware. If he starts asking to come back to you, you need to initiate a long talk with him as to how it's going to be. One look in the wrong direction, and it's over.
You have to have someone you can trust, and quite frankly, neither of you may be ready for what a relationship requires. You have to trust him, BUT he has to learn to keep that trust or it's no good for anyone.
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Post by Alyssa on May 17, 2003 8:01:43 GMT -5
1. Why is it that when you ignore a guy (with whom there could be mutual attraction, not sure if he likes me too), he tries to get your attention, but when you're forthcoming he doesn't really act interested? Is it just the hunting instinct, the whole "wanting what you can't have because you can't have it"?
2. I'm sensing that this guy likes someone else, looking at her when sex/romance things are mentioned in convo, etc. However, I'm the one he comes up and touches (does really seem to not be able to keep his fingers off me). I'm the one whose eye he catches when something happens that appeals to our sense of humour and who gets these secret smiles. What's up with that?
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