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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Feb 12, 2002 9:13:33 GMT -5
To the girls from the guys. Got a question, we'll answer them. Why don't we call you when we say we will? You're attractive, so why don't you have anyone? Questions like that. We like you and love you, so here's a chance to understand us.
Post your questions, advice or both, here.
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Post by snowbunny on Feb 13, 2002 18:15:13 GMT -5
OK here goes: There's this guy and I really want to know if he likes me. He always goes out of his way to talk to me and I've caught him looking at me more than once. I really do want to ask him out, but he's so shy I'm afraid it might hurt our friendship! What should I do?
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Feb 14, 2002 10:14:28 GMT -5
I Think He Likes Me, But He's Shy.
Hi snowbunny: It certainly sounds to me that he likes you. But I understand you not wanting to hurt your friendship either.
<<There's this guy and I really want to know if he likes me. He always goes out of his way to talk to me and I've caught him looking at me more than once.>>
He likes you, make no mistake. You've given three clues here, now you have to be the one to make the move. Keeping this in mind, ask to talk to him, but tell him it's all good so he keeps his guard down. Tell him something like, "We've been together for such and such a time and lately I've noticed you looking at me. You do it like you like me or something and I like you too."
Ask him what he thinks, he may be a little embarrassed, who knows. Try not to put him on the spot or demand an answer immediately. But you're going to have to push this a little also.
<<I really do want to ask him out, but he's so shy I'm afraid it might hurt our friendship! What should I do? >>
Tell him exactly that. Let him know that you'd like him to go out with you sometime, but not if it's going to hurt your friendship with him.
If you need anymore help on this, ask away.
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Post by Lonely3Angel on Feb 15, 2002 18:47:33 GMT -5
Hey Toxic mind helping me out? Okay, here I go. I've known this one guy for 4 years almost. We've been good friends, for the last couple years, but a couple months ago that all changed. I knew he was fond of me awhile back, (he has been..for years-but the most recent was a few months ago), and it had been like that for a long period of time. In december I told him I had liked me as well. Weeks after that, he wouldn't talk to me. I figured that I scared him..came on too strong. But before that..in October- this year, well last..but ya whatever .. . He had been very close w/me. But now, he's..been giving me 'mixed' um..feelings? He knows that I'm very sensitive and that things he says to me, I take very personally. And just the other day, he was hurting my feelings- intentionally. It pisses me off. Do you have any idea perhaps, about why his behaviour has changed so quickly over the amount of a few months. From liking me for 3 years, to being a complete and utter a** over the course of some odd weeks? Thanks for any help.
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Post by sugarcult_girlie on Feb 16, 2002 0:15:00 GMT -5
ok..wow i feel like a dork...but here goes...
my guy friend...who i like...but NO ONE knows i like...is always joking around with me and being really nice...and normally people would say so? but he is kinda anti-social...and "doesnt like to talk to people" but i swear he does...he swears he doesnt...it is kind of an on going thing between us...anyways, for valentine's day he gave me a bunch of candy(along with a couple other girls) but told me it was cause for x-mas i gave him something and he felt bad cause he didnt get me anything...but everytime we talk its just like...aww...and he is always joking around with me but i cant tell if its cause he likes me or if he thinks of me as "one of the guys". help!
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Post by Keista1 on Feb 16, 2002 18:16:29 GMT -5
Toxic.Avenger: (my buddy!) Ok, this is my dilemma. I have liked this kid Andrew for probably a year now. I didn't know him last year, and now that I know him this year I like him even more! He is kind, sweet, and best of so cute! He is not the hottest thing, but I melt when he smiles! He is in my World History class, and when it is just me and him talking, he is sweet, and flirts A LOT. But when he is around his friends he acts like a jerk, and ignores me. It pisses me off so MUCH! I know I should talk to him, but I don't sit near him anymore in class, and he sits by his "friends" What should I do!?
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Post by blakmagik_woman on Feb 17, 2002 13:37:51 GMT -5
keista1! you know what i guess its normal a lot of guys are like that they wanna seem matcho ( is it written that way) i guess its part of growing !!! I dunno, for me i'd confront him thats my opinion!
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Feb 18, 2002 12:21:04 GMT -5
Why Did He Change?
Hi Lonely3Angel My only guess here is that he wasn't that commited to you in the first place. For you to come on strong, I doubt it was that strong enough to freak him out. He may also be fearing some sort of commitment. Does he have history, that you know of, of hopping around with different girls, and not settling on just one?
You may be better off unless you want to work this out, but the way he liked you then turned on you. I don't like that and see problems down the road. But, again, it may be because he may not be ready for committment. It's his hostility towards you that concerns me, so perhaps you are better off with out him.
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Does He Like Me?
sugarcult_girlie Repeat after me, I (that is you) am not a dork. Got it? Okay. Not much here to go on, he could either be flirting with you or just consideirng you as one of the guys. Either way he is comfortable with you. If you like him, you may want to think about making a move first. See, he's giving you flowers and candy and trying to "backdate" them. I think he's hinting around to you that he likes you but isn't ready to come out and say it.
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Hi Keista1 Keista1- (my buddy) I'm going to go with blakmagik_woman on this one. But the thing is for both of you. You have to remember that these guys may really BE nice. They are not used to having feelings for girls and everything that goes with it. And if they do, they're not sure what to do since they're new at it. It's one thing to be taught about it at school and have parents talk to them about it. It's entirely different to actually have to experience these feelings. This guy, for us, it feels safe to be a little jerky. He's not ready to let go of everything about being with guy friends. It's comfortable. Don't worry, we'll grow out of it, but be patient with him. Don't write him off just yet.
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Post by Lonely3Angel on Feb 19, 2002 19:56:56 GMT -5
Aw Toxic, thanks so much for that. *sighs* But-yes there is a but, he has asked me out before..lots of times. And..I don't think he has a history of jumpin' from girl to girl..I mean..he's only had 2 g/fs-long term. and the times in between, he's told me he had liked me. But I'm not going to waste my time- your right..I will be better off w/out him. Guys are so confusing..
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on Feb 21, 2002 10:37:35 GMT -5
This is mostly to amuse you guys but my boyf started saying all this stuff to me... "It's like a dream come true" "You're the smartest, most attractive girl I've ever met" I was just wondering why he says that stuff. I'm not a romantic type, but it does make me laugh and feel nice when I think about it. Ideas??
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Feb 21, 2002 11:15:59 GMT -5
Ze Hopelezz Romantique, No?
<<I'm not a romantic type, but it does make me . . . feel nice when I think about it.>>
(In my best Hollywood French accent.) Ah, but Madamoiselle Littlemisstraghwberhry. Maybe you arhe a romahntique but you do not know eet.
He's saying all this stuff to you because he obviously feels good around you and being with you. The compliments? Hey, the guy's falling in love with you if he hasn't already. I'd do the same things. There's alot about you that this guy likes.
Not ze romantique type? Get used to eet. Let heem open ze doohrs for you and give you flowehers. Ah, a walk in ze moonlight ees most romantique, no?
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Post by Queen_of_Hollywood on Feb 21, 2002 15:03:46 GMT -5
^^i agree
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Queen_of_Hollywood
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Post by Queen_of_Hollywood on Feb 21, 2002 15:06:20 GMT -5
lol
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Post by vbkimber07 on Feb 21, 2002 16:59:55 GMT -5
Hey Toxic~~moves in closer~~how ya doing? *runs away I got this guy issue (doesn't everyone here?) I think I like this guy but I'm not that sure. We flirt a lot, but I never thought of him as more than a friend until last week. The problem is yesterday we were standing out in the hall and I, just for a moment, wanted to kiss him. I don't really know where that came from though, because a lot of people (formerly including me) think he is really annoying and such. I don't know where to go with this. Every other time I have liked a guy, I've fallen for him hard and developed this almost obsessive crush on them. This one though, I'm not like that at all.
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 21, 2002 17:21:53 GMT -5
Ahahah...I like your Hollywood French accent, Toxic! ;D
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