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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Sept 23, 2002 14:02:04 GMT -5
Well, part of it was that I was never really in what you would call a "healthy" relationship. I've only been in say 3or 4 relationships, none of which have been long term (the longest was probably a month and a half). The 1st one definately crashed and burned. All he wanted was to do sexual stuff, and he broke up with me for not giving him what he wanted. The 2nd one was pretty much the same situation, except we were a bit closer, but he ignored me a lot of the time. The 3rd one was better. (This was my last recent one), and that was the one I screwed up on. He did everything the right guy should do, and I just didn't trust him. That's another problem I have, trust. I've just seen so many of my friends get hurt in the past, and it's hard to believe nowadays that any guy could be in a relationship for the real reasons. I feel that most guys nowadays just want ass...I don't know, I guess I've just been hurt one too many times by guys who were just using me.
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Sept 23, 2002 14:18:15 GMT -5
Hi AFChika, I think you just answered your own question. Trust is a big issue and an important one and unfortunatley, guys in your age group rarely care about it. There are trustworthy and worthy men out there for you, but you have to learn not to hit back without a good reason. This is going to take some time to get through. A week, a month, a year or more maybe. It takes time and no one can tell you how long. Y
You might even try getting back to this guy even if it means swallowing your pride and being a little embarrassed. A little embarrassement is better than kicking yourself when you see your guy alone or even with another girl and wondering what could have been. "Why didn't I . . . I wish I'd . . . What if I had just . . . ."
Easier said than done, but you shouldn't gauge your friends experiences to yours. If you've been hurt too many times that a relationship is difficult, then you should wait before starting another one. There's some healing that has to go on here first. You might try also laying down the rules before getting serious. "This is how it is, this is what makes a relationship work for me" kind of thing.
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Sept 25, 2002 18:20:08 GMT -5
I love ya, Toxic...lol I just wanted to say that. You have really good advice
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Post by ThaIceLady on Oct 2, 2002 18:35:58 GMT -5
Hey Toxic, I have a quick question. Why do some guys always wanna play fight? This boy I know everytime I see him in the hallway he'll come up to me with his fist up as if he were ready to fight me and pretend punches me (he doesn't actually hit me cause we're standing blocking each other...lmao if that makes sense) But why do you think he does this. Muchas gracias Toxic, you're such a gentleman
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Oct 3, 2002 7:19:38 GMT -5
De nada. Why Does He Play Fight? Hi ThaIceLady: The reason some guys playfight? Two reasons, we like you in a freindly sort of way. This guy feels comfortable around you enough to do that. From what I read of your posts, you come across as very friendly and this --in a good way -- puts others at ease. Number two, it's a way of flirting, but we cover up our nervousness by acting all aggressive when we couldn't hurt a fly. He could be trying to get your attention and is too shy or nervous to come out and say it.
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Post by RebDoMINe on Oct 3, 2002 10:53:19 GMT -5
*grins* bet that wasn't the answer you wanted to here, Carla
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Post by ThaIceLady on Oct 3, 2002 20:47:13 GMT -5
De nada. From what I read of your posts, you come across as very friendly and this --in a good way -- puts others at ease. Thanks. I liked hearing that! Hehe. At least I know why this boy is doing this.. ThaIceLady no longer wonders....till' the next episode...
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Post by funkygirlk16 on Oct 4, 2002 16:57:55 GMT -5
I need some help here Toxic Ok, there is this guy and my friend asked me if he liked me. He told her he did. Well, anyways, a few weeks later he started really majorly getting on my nerves like saying bad stuff about me behind my back. What is going on? ~/Stephanie\~
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Oct 7, 2002 9:04:31 GMT -5
If He Likes Me, Why Does He Act Like A Jerk?
Hi *Jenny*
I'm going to repeat what I said earlier. It sounds like this guy liked you, and still does. There is a possibility that he was keeping his thoughts to himself, then someone brought them out and told you. Now he's mad because he's been embarrassed. The problem now is, is he just acting like a jerk now that you know, or is he acting out, because of his embarrassement. Let me know how this works. If you feel like there's a possiblility of going with him, then do so, but I want you to guard your heart and be ready to pull out.
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Post by funkygirlk16 on Oct 9, 2002 16:03:57 GMT -5
<<<If you feel like there's a possiblility of going with him, then do so, but I want you to guard your heart and be ready to pull out. >>>> No. Actually, I don't think there is a possibility, I'm moving in a month, and well, it just wouldn't work. Thanks Toxic, you got the best advice. ~jenn
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Post by ThaIceLady on Oct 10, 2002 18:31:24 GMT -5
De nada. The reason some guys playfight? Two reasons, we like you in a freindly sort of way. This guy feels comfortable around you enough to do that. From what I read of your posts, you come across as very friendly and this --in a good way -- puts others at ease. Number two, it's a way of flirting, but we cover up our nervousness by acting all aggressive when we couldn't hurt a fly. He could be trying to get your attention and is too shy or nervous to come out and say it. You were right! He tried to ask me out at our field trip today (maryland theater) I'm flattered but not thrilled because he is very rude and annoying...(he needs to understand the rule Keep your hands to yourself!)
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Oct 11, 2002 9:27:21 GMT -5
<<You were right!>>
Does happy dance.
<< He tried to ask me out at our field trip today (maryland theater) I'm flattered but not thrilled because he is very rude and annoying...(he needs to understand the rule Keep your hands to yourself!) >>
Make that a rule. "I'll go out with you but hands off, pal!" Violate the rule and he's toast. Buh-bye!
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Post by ThaIceLady on Oct 15, 2002 16:05:15 GMT -5
^^^Well, Toxic this other boy I know is starting to do the same thing. He always says "i'm going to judo chop you!!!" lmao don't know where he got that, and does that play fighting thing (sheesh lol) and he tried to be slick but I saw him try and do it anyway--he saw me coming and tried to trip me lmao, he missed though. Ahaha guys are funny sometimes. ;D
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Oct 27, 2002 1:07:22 GMT -5
Toxic: Why must you males be so...blah?? *sigh* don't mind me...
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Oct 28, 2002 14:59:12 GMT -5
But I'm not so blah. I'm safe or so I'm told, whatever that means.
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