vbkimber07
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 14, 2002 23:52:30 GMT -5
Toxic-- I have come with yet another guy problem. Different guy, different problem. I really started hanging out with this guy during play practice. One thing you must know is that backstage during play practice almost everyone flirts. Very flirty, but we are just joking around. We were really getting into it, and I thought that maybe there was something going on more than just joking around, but I didn't know for sure. Now that play is over, we are seeing each other all the time in the hallways (maybe I am just paying more attention!) Today we were flirting and tickling and stuff and he asked me if I was a sophomore or a junior. (He's a senior and I'm a sophomore). Anyway the main point of the conversation was that I'm pretty young (for what he didn't specify) and it's too bad i'm not a junior (or he wishes i was a junior, i don't remember exactly how he put it). I pretty much took it lightly and joked that I could "say" I was older. Then he asked me when my birthday was and said I should go to this one event to celebrate it. (Unfortunately I will be out of town). Then we just went right back to flirting almost like nothing happened. What I was wondering is....Is he interested?....Does he think I am too young?.....Is there anything I can do to change his mind?...... I guess for right now I will continue just having fun flirting with him. I guess.
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Mar 15, 2002 12:34:12 GMT -5
We Just Flirt, How Do I Change His Mind?
Hi vbkimber07:
Since you and your theater group flirt alot with each other, it's kind of hard to tell from this end if this guy is serious. He may be interested, but isn't sure how to make it more apparent. Then again, friends flirt with each other anyway, and it doesn't mean much. If he thinks you are too young, then understand where he is coming from. As I tell others, an age gap can present problems, even in high school, your lives and activites go in different directions. If the age gap is say, you're 13 or so and he's 18, then I don't recommend getting together.
So to change his mind? Ask him out. That way he's got a clear message that you're not just flirting like everyone else.
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 16, 2002 16:16:47 GMT -5
Yeah, I'm 15 (almost 16) and he's, well, I guess I don't know exactly how old he is. Probably 18, maybe 17. Anyway. Another unrelated question--If I really want to go to prom, but i'm not a Junior or a Senior, how would I go about getting asked. It's not like I can ask anyone because I can't go. How do I drop the hint to a couple of my guy "flirt-buddies" that I would like to go?
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Post by SunShine on Mar 17, 2002 17:12:47 GMT -5
Can you help me? Well I have a guy friend that I have known for about a year and we are really close. I just realized that I like him more than a friend when he told me he was going out with some girl and I got really jealous. They're not going out anymore so do you think I should tell him how I feel or would that mess up our friendship?
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Mar 18, 2002 9:56:02 GMT -5
I'd Like To Go To The Prom, How Do I Ask? Hi vbkimber07 Okay, the age gap isn't going to be a problem. <br>Again, just ask these "flirt buddies" that you'd like to go to the prom. It happens all the time. It's not like these guys are going to pick up a subtle signal (that would solve alot of issues between the sexes wouldn't it? ) ================================================== I Like Him, Should I Tell Him? Hi SunShine: Unless there's something bad between you two, I'd tell him what's on your mind. Tell him that. Or say something like, "I don't want this to mess up our friendship but I really (feel this way about you) If that weirds you out or (not what you want) I understand, but I don't want to lose you as my friend." I don't think it will mess up your friendship, but this gives both of you a graceful way out, if things get uncomfortable.
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dizzyupthegirl
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Post by dizzyupthegirl on Mar 19, 2002 9:11:17 GMT -5
I'm so confused right now. You see a few nites ago.. we have this event at school. It was a family event kind of thing. So neway.. it was raining outside.. and since me and my friends were pretty immature ;D we played in the rain. It was fun (although now im sick now). Well i didnt want to get wet that much cuz of 1) i was wearing a white shirt 2) i dont want to get sick 3) my parents gonna be mad at me if they found out. So i was just there tlaking ot sum friends.. then my old crush ( the guy that mite know i used to like him) splash me wit sum water. I shrieked ofcourse. And then we had a water fight... and sum how we end up in the boys bathroom on the high school side ( my school is a school that is from KG to 12 grade. And reminder that he is 16 and im 13). Well sum how i end up in his arms and he was pouring water on my head... when one of the guy in my class (jack) came inside. So Jack thought that we were making out or sumthing. And he said that my ex crush cud do way better than me... But he told jack that i was a nice girl.. and really fun to be with. I walked out of the bathroom then. My ex crush then came out.. and told me that he was sorry for pouring water on me.. and he hug me a lot jsut to prove that he was sorry. He made sucha big deal out of it. I said that its fine, maybe a little bit mad.. cuz I was wet, cold, and u cud see through my shirt! I told him these and he said he doesnt mind my shirt wet. Then he gave me a hug. So i have a question.... Do u think he like me? i mean we havent' flirt this haevily for a loooonnnggg time. And wud u do all of the things that he did to me to a friend (girl) of yours? thanx!
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Post by blakmagik_woman on Mar 19, 2002 10:36:23 GMT -5
Well i m back i havent been on for so long!!!!!!!! dizzyupthegirl the guy that said your crush could do better is suuch a jerk@!!!! well i think your excrush likes you he seems like a pretty nice guy!!! well gtg if ne of you need something just IM me ok Maria
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Mar 19, 2002 10:54:19 GMT -5
And as for me: <<And wud u do all of the things that he did to me to a friend (girl) of yours?>>
It depends on the situation. If we were really close, I'd do it, unless she told me not to. I try to respect a person's space. But if we're having fun and the mood is right, I'd do all that stuff as long as we're both cool with it.
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dizzyupthegirl
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Post by dizzyupthegirl on Mar 19, 2002 12:52:40 GMT -5
^^ thanx.....
i hate it when i dont know ppl feelings toward me.... hehehehe.............. and I think my crush is just doing it as a friend thing... cuz we are pretty close.. adn im glad that he is comfortable aroudn me...
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 20, 2002 16:23:11 GMT -5
everyone says the guy i like is a player. do i have any chance? how can i get over him? i'm not sure i even want to get over him. is there anything wrong with just letting myself get played? As long as a i don't go too far? so frustrating.
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Post by SunShine on Mar 20, 2002 22:03:48 GMT -5
Thanks Toxic! You are a big help! ;D
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Mar 21, 2002 13:36:11 GMT -5
He's a Player, Do I Have A Chance?
Hi vbkimber07:
I'd say you have many chances, and the way to get over him is to not see him anymore. Find someone else. I guess there's nothing really wrong with getting played except you lose your self-respect and self-worth, and may gain a reputation yourself that you don't want.
How do you know you won't go too far? He's a player, and he's going to pressure you. Players don't have the other person's feelings and needs in mind, they're selfish, and are in it for themselves. I don't recommend or like it.
================================================== You're most welcome SunShine, anytime.
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 24, 2002 13:20:25 GMT -5
Thanks Toxic, you rule. Sometimes I just need to be brought back to reality.
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Post by popcorn on Mar 24, 2002 22:20:38 GMT -5
^^ nicely said toxic, a player always pressures...
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 27, 2002 22:00:04 GMT -5
Ok, this is not the player, it is the age guy. Today we were hangin out and flirting and he asked me if I would go to prom with him. I'm pretty sure he was joking. But I am not sure. I acted unsure and finally "gave in". Then later, we were kidding around he asked me what color my prom dress was. I said I didn't know. He said it should match his underwear cuz he was wearing only that. Kidding of course. But I honestly don't know how serious he was about prom. It would be hard to ask him, because if he was joking, then I would feel really weird.
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