The Official 'I need quick advice' Thread.

[ThaIceLady]

Ohhh man have I been there and done that before..and will never ever ever want to go there again!!

[YourCapnSpeaking]

First date question:

What would be your top three places to go for a first date? Within reasonable spending limits.

[ThaIceLady]

You could go to the park so you can talk and get to know each other

Go to a cheap movie theater and joke about the awful conditions

You could invite her over to your house and watch movies

You could go roller skating hehe

Laser Tag!

Go to a carnival!

Hope my ideas helped. When I think of more I wll come back.Good luck!

[YourCapnSpeaking]

No cheap movie theaters ... no parks, just fields. I live in a rapidly growing town that can rival Atlanta in a couple of years.

Only roller skating rink I know of bites ... it's a dump and I think they shut down. And I don't have skates.

The movies at my place would work, though. I got a big enough selection.

[ThaIceLady]

All my ideas shot down! Lol. Hmmm let me think...

Movies is cool, but you should take er somewhere else after that because she'll wanna be able to talk and get to know you.

How about bowling? lol

[YourCapnSpeaking]

Bowling I can do. That, and the decent theater in town that is currently showing all of the good movies is connected to the mall. And all malls have food courts!!!

I was planning on a movie, but I wasn't sure if it would come across cheap and unoriginal. But I think I am gonna go with it ... because I can be pretty cheap sometimes, depending on the subject.

[ThaIceLady]

Yes!! Movies, mall, and the food courts!! That's good for a date. And about the movies being cheap pshh, it's not cheap to me. In our movie theater popcorn costs more than a ticket for a movie! I don't know or maybe I am cheap. lmao

Glad you came up with a plan for your date...good luck and have fun!

[YourCapnSpeaking]

Well, now the trick is actually getting a chance to ask her out. See, I only see her when I go to my Tae Kwon Do classes, and I do not have her phone number or anything like that. I was gonna ask her out tonight, but I did not get a chance. Everyone is all crowded around before and after class, so there is like no chance. Any ideas?

[SunShine]

YourCapnSpeaking- Did you ever find a chance to ask her out? How did it go?

I'm sort of facing a big decision right now.

I've liked this guy Nathan for two years. I have only had him in one class in 8th grade, that it how I got to know him. 9th grade and 10th I have no classes with him, and I've only talked to him once at the end of last year's school year when I asked him to sign my yearbook.

I've always been too scared and shy to do anything about it. My friends have talked to him at school and on the phone for me, but I never have myself.

Last night, one of my friends got his AIM screen name through a friend of hers who is friends with Nathan. My friend and her guy friend keep telling me to talk to him and overcome my shyness but I am too scared.

According to my friend's guy friend, Nathan said I am too shy. I don't understand that.. Isn't he the shy one if he's not talking to me? How would he know that I am shy when we've only talked in 8th grade, and I was the one to start most of the conversations?

Anyway, I'm trying to decide if I should talk to him on AIM.
What if he doesn't respond or make up an excuse to leave?
What would I talk to him about?
Should I just go for it, or not and just spare myself of all of this stress?

I'm not trying to ask him out or anything yet.. I want to be friends with him first. Then let whatever happens, happen. My stomach has been tied up in knots since last night!

Help please!!!!

[YourCapnSpeaking]

Well, in response to your question, I never did ask that girl out. It turns out that she was only in 8th grade and me being in 11th, it would not have worked. Now when she gets into high school, she's fair game (for lack of a better word).

I can see where this guy Nathan is coming from by calling you shy. After all, if you like the man, contact him. You cannot always expect the guy to come talk to you if you are the one that likes him. He may very well like you and is trying to keep up a tough exterior because he is also afraid of talking to you.

If you want my honest advice, talk to him. Just blatantly come up to him be it in person or via AIM and talk to the man.

[ThaIceLady]

Kathryn said:

Anyway, I'm trying to decide if I should talk to him on AIM.
What if he doesn't respond or make up an excuse to leave?

Yes girl! You should talk to him on AIM. Just ask him how's it going, and talk about school or whatever. Don't worry he'll most likely respond.

[SunShine]

Ok! I'm gonna do it! I'm gonna do it!

You have KNOW idea how nervous I am, how big of a smile is on my face, how sweaty my palms are, how high my heart rate is up!!
Maybe I'm making too big of a deal out of this?!

Thanks Ice lady and Capn!!!!

[SunShine]

Just thought I'd tell you all how it went. Here is our lovely conversation.

katiecorinne18: hey nathan. this is katie ******* from school
“(his screenname)” is away from the computer as of 6:16:38 PM.



I don't know why I even tried. He could have at least said something, then made an excuse. He could have told me straight out. Then I wouldn't be so confused.

Men suck.

[YourCapnSpeaking]

The man is away from his computer ... maybe he got the message, maybe he didn't. Try again another time.

[SunShine]

I wish that was the case, but he was on when I sent it, then a few minutes later put his away message up.

I think I'll just let it go and forget about him if possible.

Thank you so much for the help though! It was something I needed to do and should have done two years ago, even if I didn't quite get the results I'd hoped for.