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Post by x n0ise on Feb 11, 2002 21:54:55 GMT -5
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Edit: Topic locked. Individual topics should be posted in individual threads, not all lumped together in one thread.
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Post by Cassiopeia on Feb 12, 2002 11:38:15 GMT -5
I sort of have a dilemma and I don't know what to do. Well, it's not really a dilemma; it's more of a decision. There's this guy I really like, and he works where I used to work. I'm debating over whether or not I should ask him out. I actually went there last friday to ask him, but he wasn't there, so I couldn't. I'm pretty sure he's there on wednesdays, so I want to go tomorrow. I mean, I think he might be interested in me. When I worked there, he complimented me occasionally and he would always want to talk to me. He'd tease me a lot, but it wasn't in a mean way. It was like he was flirting. And one day I came in late (cause I had school in the morning) and he said, "Well, finally you decided to show up. It's really boring around here without you." So it does seem like he may like me as more than a friend. And I was thinking that if I asked him out tomorrow, we could go out on Valentine's day (assuming he says yes), and that would be our first date. I really want to, but I'm sort of nervous. Because I've never really done this before. Most of my relationships have started with guys who were already fairly good friends, or guys that my friends knew and could then them that I liked them. What do you think I should do? If you're going to give me advice, please do it by tonight.
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 12, 2002 15:23:58 GMT -5
Well, if you don't know this guy that well, I wouldn't ask him out. It's easier when you get to know the guy better and become good friends. But if you do know him good, then go for it! I wish you the best of luck...and I don't know if my advice helped or not, but I hope it did! =)
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Post by Cassiopeia on Feb 12, 2002 19:58:21 GMT -5
That actually did help a lot. Maybe I'll just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, and then we can get to know each other better.
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Post by Cassiopeia on Feb 12, 2002 19:59:13 GMT -5
That actually did help a lot. Maybe I'll just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, and then we can get to know each other better.
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 12, 2002 21:30:41 GMT -5
Well I'm glad I could be of some help! Anytime! =)
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Feb 14, 2002 22:52:49 GMT -5
Yes, definately get to know him better. Starting a relationship is hard enough, and it's even harder when it's with someone you don't know that well. At least if your boyfriend was a good friend of yours, there's more to talk about, and you're more comfortable with each other. Going out with a guy you barely know will result in a lot of awkward silences.
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Post by Cassiopeia on Feb 14, 2002 23:36:11 GMT -5
This sucks though, because I really have no way to get to know him better. We don't work together anymore, so I don't see him. And if I asked him to hang out with me, he might think that I meant that in a more-than-friends way. Also, I don't think I can handle it if he rejects me. All I know is that I feel like I need someone. I haven't been in a relationship in almost a year and a half. I'm so pathetic, I know.
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Feb 19, 2002 21:19:07 GMT -5
Cass, I would definately get to know him better. Most relationships work out better if you have a friendship first and find out what you guys have in common.
I myself kind of have a dilemma too. You see, there's a guy who I like, and well he's been flirting with me lately and all my friends think he likes me, and I'm starting to think so too, I mean it's pretty obvious because he's being really touchy-feely. LoL. Anyways, it's been weirder now because I'm kind of afraid. If he does like me, I'm not sure what to do. I shy up a lot of times when it comes to confrontation and I want a relationship but I don't know if I can handle it, like I can't take the pressure. How do I get over this 'obstacle'? LoL
Feel free to PM too.
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Feb 22, 2002 13:50:03 GMT -5
*bump*
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Post by ladyluv on Mar 2, 2002 22:26:43 GMT -5
Hey kids
I really like this guy. But now We don't really have an excuse to hang out together anymore, we were in the play together thats how we got to know eachother he'd always flirt with me, say encouraging things, once we spent 10-15 minutes alone on the stage together just talking, at the cast party he came right over and sat beside me for awhile and we just chatted. Lately we've been seeing more of eachother around school and even though things may not be said everytime...we maintain intense eye contact...I think things have stepped out of the friendly-say-hi mode to the sexy-intense eye contact mode. There has been a distinct change in the way we act towards eachother but its not a bad thing. He has my number he's called me b4 (to talk to his sister) he knows where I live we both have lockers close to eachother...Oh Oh another cute thing he does (other than the deer in headlights stare) is he raises is eyebrows. hheeehee
I know I could ask him out but I dont want to overstep that boudary because knowing him he's very traditional and polite and proper. (one of the reasons I like him so much) I guess all I can do is provide the opportunity for him to make a move if he wants to...
how can I make it obvious to him that I'm interested? I think I already have but I'm not too sure..eeeep. I don't want to be forceful. thats not my style. I want to make it clear that I am interested but I don't want to make him feel pressured.
any advice? thank you again
love,
Lady
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Post by ladyluv on Mar 2, 2002 22:31:28 GMT -5
AFC- I think you said alot in your post. about how u donno if you're ready 4 a relationship...its always fun to know that someone likes you or even think the possibility may be ther  but you have to feel that its the right time for you there's nothing saying u can't go out with this guy and see if things work out but you may wanna understand yourself and how youre FEELING before you decide to head into a relationship. I'm OLD and I still havent had a relationship because I've been scared of getting hurt and also I wanted to know myself and be comfortable with MYSELF before I tried to let anyone else get to know me. Do what you feel you need to do. (by OLD I mean between 17 and 19) LoL figure out if you're ready than make the move if you want to whats cool about being secure in your own skin is knowing that if things don't work out..then they werent' meant to be and there WILL be someone else...so HAVE FUN AND GOOD LUCK!!! |
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Mar 13, 2002 19:29:46 GMT -5
^^ Thanks a bunch LadyLuv!! I guess I have the same problem as you, I'm afraid of getting hurt. I've only been in abou 3 relationships, and I've gotten hurt all 3 times, even if I was the one to break it off. But, it's weird, because I don't really know who I am yet, but what I'm most afraid of in relationships is not getting hurt so much as how to act. I've never really been in a healthy relationship, not one with mushiness and stuff, partially because I'm afraid of it and won't let myself experience it. It's kind of like that I like hooking up with people more than actually dating them. Now I haven't had many hook ups that were just hook ups (only about 2 or 3), but it makes me feel better to know that I don't have to live up to that person's expectations. You know? Because I can just walk away, and however much I don't know myself, I still REALLY want a b/f. 
PS - you're not old old lol, about 1, or 2 years older than me. LoL.
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Post by LaliciaBebe on Mar 29, 2002 20:06:49 GMT -5
Okay, I've got a bit of a problem. First off, I'm totally in love with this guy named Matt (I think a lot of people here know about that). He's my friend, I've liked him for 1 1/2 years, he liked me, things got messed up, we never got together and so on. Now we're just friends, (but I'm still in love with him). Recently he started going out with my friend Amy. I was really upset, now it's kind of okay because Amy's a nice girl. <br> I think it's time I got over Matt. I'll always have feelings for him, but you know, what's the use in making myself miserable. If he's moved on, I should too. So I'm working on that. So lately I've kind of been getting a little crush on this guy Jack. I've known Jack since first grade, but we're not really friends or anything. <br> Here's my question. Do you think I should try to get something going with Jack, or do you think I'm just using him to get over Matt. Should I go after Jack. Oh, and by the way, Jack is Matt's really good friend. <br> What do you think?
Thanks!
~*Lauren*~
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Post by alicia.the.starlet on Apr 2, 2002 21:07:59 GMT -5
Tiger: Wow, your situation sounds very similar to mine! Except that I haven't found a new guy yet! Well, I think that you should think about how you truly feel about Jack. Picture yourself with him. Can you see it? How does it make you feel? If it makes you feel icky and weird, then it's probably not right. Also, would it really be fair to Jack if you are with him but still in love with someone else. I know you can't wait for Matt forever, but if Matt were to break up with Amy and then tell you that he loves you, and you are with Jack, what would you do? I'm not so great at these situations, so hopefully someone else can give you some advice, cause for now that's all I've got! But good luck!
~Alicia~
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but you have to feel that its the right time for you 
