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Post by :: Natalie :: on Jun 26, 2002 10:32:30 GMT -5
Ever since we got into high school this past year, my (former?) best friend and I have drifted apart. We NEVER talk. We didn't have any classes, or lunch, together. And we never saw each other in the hallways. There's nothing we could do about that other than to get together and talk outside of school. The problem is, we started hanging out with different people, a group that I'm not comfortable hanging out with. I still want to be friends with her. But it's like we don't even know each other anymore. She never calls me. I used to call her a lot but she was never really home and didn't return calls. I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her. Help?!
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Post by It's~A~Nova on Jun 26, 2002 10:38:10 GMT -5
^I had the same exact thing happen to me when I started highschool. I had been best friends with this girl since gradeschool. But freshmen year we didn't see each other so much and the phone calls dwindled until we just didn't call each other anymore. We both found a different group of friends. I still wanted to be her friend so I invited her to my b-day party but she didn't come. We haven't spoken since.
Well my advice to you is call her or find some way to talk to her. Tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend.
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Post by :: Natalie :: on Jun 26, 2002 11:12:36 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice! I want to talk to her, but I'd rather do it in person (she's often kinda distant on the phone). But I don't know whether to invite her over or what. And I don't know what to say to her! Like, I know we didn't get to see each other much this year but we should get together more over the summer? I really don't know
[Note: sorry to anyone who noticed that my previous message was posted 10 times. I went to post the first time and got an error message so I pressed the back button and kept trying, but I kept getting an error. I didn't realize it worked. So I deleted all the dupes. Ya.]
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Post by horsesalltheway on Jul 6, 2002 16:28:36 GMT -5
Me and a friend of mine are having problems. I only know her from over the net but ya. Help, please. I jsut always freak out at her... and feel that I have to. And it hurts her... I know it does. It makes both of us hurt ourselves. Deep down I just want to do what's best fro her but... it's like my fingers move along the keyboard by themselves and cause her pain... I love her though. I don't want to hurt her. I don't want to make her cry or cut. I'm just causing both of us pain.... Help...
Nic
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Post by *Little Leprechaun Gurl* on Jul 6, 2002 17:55:00 GMT -5
Nic...I love you and always will. You know that. You dont hurt me, you bring me up. You're awesome hun...while do you feel that you have to say that stuff? I'm confused. Talk to me babe...thats what best friends are for. I'm here wheneva....*mwah*
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Post by xoShimmerChickxo on Jul 10, 2002 23:03:01 GMT -5
Ok, I'll try to make this short and quick as I possibly can, well, There was a time, when I was friends w/ girl, (we went to a private christian school) and we've been friends since she graduated, and well, after she graduated, we just drifted apart, (and I knew that, and could feel it inside my heart, and I knew that things would never be the same again) but she kept telling things would-and they haven't. Anways, she keeps calling me , and I don't want to talk to her, cuz she is soooo overly obessive about her religion its very annoying! and I just can't stand it. And well, my aunt answered the phone, (cuz she and My uncle are visiting from Cali) and well, it ended up being my friend, and I just blew her off, and my mom got mad, and she told me that i was going to pay for doing that to her, and I told my mom that I was already paying, because of a bad realationship that I was in w/ 2 girls, that ended. So that's how i told my mom that i was already paying.
So that's my story, I just had to vent. *whew* that feels better getting that out.... thanks for listening y'all ~jewels
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Post by horsesalltheway on Jul 10, 2002 23:18:34 GMT -5
^^^You think posting it 7 times is enough???
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Post by It's~A~Nova on Jul 29, 2002 23:01:00 GMT -5
Ok, here's the thing, my friend is dating a guy that I...don't like so much. (I'll give ya some background info on him~he's 19, didn't graduate highschool, has been in jail more than once and will probably be going back again soon.) But I think as long as she's happy...but then she's starting to be really distant and she's late when we make plans to get together and she doesn't call or anything and when she does finally show up she brings him along. Our other friends have decided to just 'boycott' her but I'm not sure if that's the best thing to do here. Anyone got any ideas?
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Post by *Little Leprechaun Gurl* on Aug 5, 2002 18:17:41 GMT -5
I'm sorry I would help all of you but I dont have much time... My best friend...tried to kill herself...and wants to hurt herself again tonight. I dont know what to do. I've told her I love her...and I dont think she believes me. I love her so much...I cant live with out her....I need her. She's always been there for me when I've needed her... she's always lifted me up when I've been down, She's apart of me....I...dont know what to do anymore. Maybe she'll see this and realize how much I need her. Please help me...Please.
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Post by It's~A~Nova on Aug 10, 2002 3:26:46 GMT -5
Sidekick~If your friend is really serious about killing herself you need to get her help. Tell her parents or someone who can get her the help she needs.
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Aug 22, 2002 1:39:57 GMT -5
My friend told my obsession, Jared that my other friend, Carlee liked him. Kelsie *friend 1*had asked Jared if he liked Carlee and he said yes. So after Kels told Jar that Car liked him, she kinda hinted that he should ask her out, fully knowing how much I like him. See my last 2 posts in the UGOCG*United Girls Obsessed with a Certain Guy* club in Love Life for the whole story...anyways, any help as to deal with this would be appreciated. I know this isn't EXACTALLY al about friends, but I figured it was sorta.
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Post by Michaelangelo on Sept 4, 2002 20:31:45 GMT -5
rainy_dayz: Just ask her, face to face. Maybe say something like, "You knew how much I liked Jared, but you still pushed him and Carlee together. Why would you do that?" Say it nicely (or try to), calmly, and maturely, and give her a real chance to explain. Her reasons might surprise you by making sense. Love, ~Mike
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Post by Dudet13 on Sept 7, 2002 0:19:58 GMT -5
Hello everyone my *former* friend just recently recieved that title... but its kinda a long story... so i'll give you a short version. ok, so she switched HS's this yr and she told all of my/her other friends but me. and we were like best friends. so i was like umm.. ok...? you know. so when i finally talked to her i was like whats up? you don't talk to me at all anymore. and she basically told me "i changed schools to get new friends. i can only hang out with the same people for so long before i need a new group." and then she finished off her speech by asking if i still wanted to be her friend. and i was like "no! not after you like ditched me and all my friends casue you have been hanging for 4 yrs..." but i didn't actually say that... so... i don't know what i should do... because she told me she wants space, but i only see her like every couple weeks anyway . so it seems like she only wants to be friends when SHE needs me. so i don't want to put up with it anymore... what should i do??? Chelsea
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Sept 18, 2002 0:34:45 GMT -5
Dudet: She is obviously not a very nice friend. If I was you, I would just quit being her friend. If she ditched you just because you have been in the same 'group' for 4 years or whatever, that is SO not ok. She says she 'needs her space'. Well, it seems to me, you do give her space, only seeing her every couple of weeks. Just don't bother with her. Concentrate of your other friends. Hope I helped
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Post by SunShine on Sept 18, 2002 19:58:10 GMT -5
I have a huge problem.
My friend told me some really private things about what she did with a certain guy. She made me promise on my life not tell anyone or talk about it with my other friend who already knew... But I did and I feel soooooo bad. She only knows that I brought it up with the girl that already knew. She doesn't know that I told my other friend who doesn't like her. She called me and yelled at me, practically crying, and hung up on me a couple weeks ago and we haven't talked since. I know it was the worst thing I could ever do to a friend and I feel more guilty than I have ever felt.
Should I try to apologize or just leave it like it is.?
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