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Post by tootrickyforyou on Feb 9, 2002 22:18:59 GMT -5
Are you having trouble with your friend/friends? Do you need advice? Well this is the place to post if you do. Post your problems here and someone will help you or whatever
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Post by *Little Leprechaun Gurl* on Feb 10, 2002 18:49:50 GMT -5
Well...I dont know if we are ok. Me and Brett broke up last night and I really am worried that our friendship is going to fall apart. What should I do? He really hurt me...he didnt mean to, but all we've been though and he just gave up. Should I tell him? Or try and just get over it?
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Post by horsesalltheway on Feb 12, 2002 20:42:32 GMT -5
Keep going on Nikki... You know I care about you. I'd do anything that would make you feel better. You are my very bestest friend and I try as hard as I can. And you do the same back to me... I would give you suggestions... but I can't think of any. Brett doesn't know how great of a person he's leaving. He'll never find anyone like you Nikki. When he realizes that he might come back. You're always in my prayers Nikki. Lov Ya!
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Post by Soleluna on Feb 14, 2002 12:22:56 GMT -5
Well, I have this prob: my best friend is very outgoing and open on the surface, but really shy when you get to know her better. She does not talk about herself very much. In the last few weeks she told she has probs and is depressed but she can't get herself to talk to anyone... she just wants to be alone. She told me this happened to her at different times of her life, and the best thing is just to leave her alone... that she will always be there for me but can't manage to talk about herself. She asked me not to ask her to talk about herself.
I wanna help, but what can I do? How can I get her to talk to me? And is this the right thing?
Please help
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Lonely3Angel
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Post by Lonely3Angel on Feb 16, 2002 17:56:41 GMT -5
soleluna, I really don't know how to offer advice to that..that's a very difficult situation you're in. Tell her how much you care about her, and that you know she's willing to be there for you- but in exchange you want to be there for her, and to help her. Perhaps, instead of talking, write her. Then maybe she'll respond that way. *hugs* I really don't know what to say. But if I can come up with anything to help, I'll be sure to post it.
Here's my situation.
My best friend's parents had split up some few months ago. It was hard for her, but she was able to cope. Now her mom is staying w/them because she was going to have a break down. She's outraged about this- it's not fair for her to be put through this pain all over again. I feel so helpless, and to release/ to escape she smokes weed. She knows how I feel about it. I don't know what to do..It feels like I'm losing her. We haven't been talking as much as we used to, we barely see eachother anymore. I miss her..can anyone offer any advice?..thanks..
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Feb 17, 2002 20:09:21 GMT -5
SideKick007- I would love to help you, but I'm afraid I'm going through a similiar situation right now. *sigh*
Soleluna- If she wants to be left alone, that's pretty much all you can do. You can't MAKE her talk to you, unfortunately. Try to cheer her up a little bit by taking her shopping, or going to a movie. You may not be SOLVING her problems then, but you will be taking her mind off of them. Just be there for her if she does decide to talk.
Lonely3Angel- What she's doing is dangerous to her health, as I'm sure you know. Maybe you should get her information on the dangers of marijuana. You should also spend more time with her and get her out of that situation. Spend the day together, let her eat dinner at your house and sleep over... She'll feel better if she's with someone she's comfortable with, and she might not have the urge to do drugs anymore.
My problem... All my friend does is talk about her boyfriend. She's really changed ever since she's started going out with him. She's "matured", but not in a good way. When she's not talking about her boyfriend, she's talking about hanging out with her boyfriend's friends. It seems as though she's trying to make me feel left out, which she does, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't realize she's doing it. She's really attached to that boy of hers... And he doesn't feel the same way about her. If something happens, she's going to be devistated. In the meantime, I have to put up with her talking about him 24/7. I really don't need this, especially with all the bad luck I've been having with guys lately.
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Post by Soleluna on Feb 18, 2002 10:40:58 GMT -5
Well, I tried to talk. She answered she will always be there for me, and thet she loves me, but right now she doesn't wanna talk. And the truth is, she has a boyfriend from 3 months. She tells him everything. I am feeling left out. She is not here for me. I am passing through bad times, I cry a lot... and when I ask her to go out for a walk, and talk, bcause I need her, she says 'sorry I have to go out with my bf' Or worst yet, she knows i am a bit depressed right now, but she never calls me or asks me to go out....
We are growing apart.
Help please....
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Post by Soleluna on Feb 21, 2002 8:02:06 GMT -5
It seems like things have worked out and are getting better. Or so I hope
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Feb 21, 2002 9:28:03 GMT -5
Lisa, I used to have the same exact prob. All my friend would talk about is her b/f, what they were doing tonight, how much she loved him, how great he was, etc. Frankly, it pissed me off. I mean before, at least she asked me about my life and my situations, but now it was all *her, her, her, and her b/f*. They're still together, and needless to say I stopped being friends with her. I don't think I need people like that just to bring me down. You have to figure out for yourself if she's really worth it. If she is, then try and talk to her about what she's doing, but if she's not, then ditch her.
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Post by burtonangel146 on Feb 21, 2002 12:30:19 GMT -5
My problem...my friend Brittany and i met in the september of 8th grade and now we r in 9th. Last year we were super close and i considered her one of my best friends but now its like forget it. We dont bond like we used to its like we r falling apart like we r but then again we aren't. I tell her stuff that i dont tell my other friends but now when i do its like she doesnt care. she doesnt act like shes listening. on the bus when i talk to her i'll be in the middle of telling her something then all of a sudden she turns to talk to these 2 girls that i hate. (we used to talk trash about them but now brits like their best friend) i told her that i feel like she hates me and doesnt wanna be friends but she claims to be like no i wanna be your friends and then shes always like oh well i dont have nething to talk about, next thinf u know shes talking to one of the two girls Sam, and Sara about crap and i just dont know what to do about it. I cant get through to her! please help!
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Feb 23, 2002 18:07:31 GMT -5
I've also had a similar prob. with a best bud. (LoL, seems I've experienced every friend prob). Well what did I do in that situation? I tried like you did to get through to her by talking, but it didn't really work. Sometimes there comes a "drifting" point a friendship, and if you're strong, and you're friend is a worthy friend, it passes, and you get through it. If not, you concentrate on your life instead of trying to open your friend up. If your friend is worth it, the best advice i can give is to sit her down and tell her everything you've told us.
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Post by SuGarPantieS on Feb 26, 2002 6:23:49 GMT -5
Just venting....
There are no good friends out there. They all stabbed me in the back or f*cked me over, one way or another. Theres no one I can tell all my problems to. No one to be there for me when I need them most. No one to confort me when Im feeling down. I mean sure I have my guy friends but most arent like that. I dont really trust anyone.
People over here are sh!t and they can all go to hell.
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Post by burtonangel146 on Feb 27, 2002 19:14:50 GMT -5
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 2, 2002 0:52:04 GMT -5
Okay... My friend, Erin, is always dissing my boyfriend. She's always saying stuff like, he's so ugly and how could you go out with someone that ugly? Erin gets mad really easily and how should I tell her that he's cute in my eyes and that's all that matters so I don't care what you think without hurting her feelings. I just feel like I was to go up to her and smack her upside her damn head. Ugh!
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Post by burtonangel146 on Mar 2, 2002 11:54:05 GMT -5
hey
my friend problems are now solved. Spastic..my friend is like that with my crush like oh ewww hes so ugly and stuff but she knows that i adore him and dont think hes ugly in my eyes. And i go to her well looks like we have totally different taste in guys, and we do.
So maybe you can be like "Erin i dont mind that you think hes ugly, cause thats your opinion. In my eyes I think hes cute, and we dont always need to have the same taste in everything. but can you please stop calling him ugly to me? cause it really hurts"
i hope i helped
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