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Post by Toxic-Avenger on May 3, 2002 11:25:13 GMT -5
Hi GabiGirl23: Glad I could help, I like this! About this guy who flirts with this other girl as well as you. And he flirts with you more. He may be favoring you more, but hopes one of you will take the hint. Ya better get busy or he might be gone.
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Post by vbkimber07 on May 28, 2002 16:38:28 GMT -5
A lot has changed since last time I posted here. I have a bf who is really sweet, but it's just gonna be a summer thing because he is joining the Navy in August. But I'm okay with that. My problem is I never know what to do for dates. He always wants me to make the decisions. It's sweet when he says "I want to do whatever you want to do" but I don't like making decisions that much either. So did you have any ideas of dates (anyone) or how I could get him to be more decisive?
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on May 28, 2002 21:37:57 GMT -5
Decisions, Decisions!
Hi vbkimber07: First, my deepest respects to your boyfriend for joining the Service.
Tell him to pick doing something and go with it. He might not be sure what you like yet. There are many things you can do that cost very little to nothing if that's a problem. Go for a walk, or bike. Go to a local park and hang out, have a picnic lunch. Go to a water front and watch boats or ships go by, depending on where you live.
Take a camping trip, rent a boat or something. Go to a put-putt place or ride some go-carts. Do slow stuff too, so you two can talk to each other because both of you are going to miss that. August will be here before you know it. DO the movies and resturant things but you don't always have to go OUT. Hang around the house and listen to tunes, or hang out by a pool and blow the day. Do things that are slow to slow the time passage. It works.
Believe me, when he gets to visit you on leave, he'll be making decisions and taking charge! You're gonna love that about him. He will be more confident and get used to, "Yes ma'am." Just enjoy the time you have together, because whatever you do and will pick, will be a special memory for you and him.
Maybe on his last day with you, you two can see a major theatrical production. Do it up. A nice dinner then a play or ballet, or some other stage production.
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Post by vbkimber07 on May 29, 2002 16:19:07 GMT -5
Thanks Toxic, great ideas!
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on May 29, 2002 19:06:20 GMT -5
why are alot of guys jerks??
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Post by x n0ise on May 29, 2002 19:49:13 GMT -5
^^^Talking about Midnight, eh?
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on May 29, 2002 19:51:45 GMT -5
You could say that.
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Post by x n0ise on May 29, 2002 20:05:55 GMT -5
I understand completely!
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Jun 1, 2002 21:36:50 GMT -5
Okay, heyyy I need help, again, LoL Okay soo..I went to this party this weekend and I was a little tipsy and stuff whatever, but there was this guy there and he's liek a year or to older, but I've seen him in school and stuff with his g/f (who's also in my grade), but he kept like staring at me, and at first I was like woah, odd, and i would always turn away..but then for a little I was talking to him and he was nice and him and his g/f broke up like a month ago or something (I knew I hadn't seen him with her recently) and he was really nice and cute, and I want to get to know him better and at the end of the night he gave me a hug and stuff and he's like "yeah so I'll see ya around", and he hugged my friends too but he didn't say that. And I really want to tell one of his friends that I know that I'm interested but I'm afraid of rejection...but what makes me feel a little better is that his ex-g/f wasn't that pretty- kind of plain looking and eh- so I'm thinking maybe I have a better shot - so what do you think? Is a guy who I just met worth the immediate price of maybe being rejected? That's my worst fear-rejection
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Jun 1, 2002 22:15:20 GMT -5
<<<< but what makes me feel a little better is that his ex-g/f wasn't that pretty- kind of plain looking and eh- so I'm thinking maybe I have a better shot >>>> What do looks have to do with anything?? It's what's inside that counts. And everyone has their own idea of what they think is 'good-looking'. But I can tell ya,that alot of guys like girls with a good/great personality. So just be yourself,and I'm sure he'll like you even more.
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Jun 2, 2002 11:17:56 GMT -5
Yeah, I know that looks aren't everything, and I truly believe that, but sometimes it's hard to believe when every guy around you just cares about how you look and what you can do for them. If the guy at the party was anything like his friends, chances are he looks at looks first...I mean I try not to, a lot of the people I've been interested in, I haven't liked on looks at first and then I talked to them and was attracted to their personality, but even though we all hate to admit it, whether you judge first on looks or personality, it all factors in.
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Jun 4, 2002 10:17:32 GMT -5
I Like Him But Am Afraid of Rejection. Hi AFChicka: Like I tell everyone else here, go ahead with your feelings and ask this guy out. If he rejects you, then you can move on. Better to be rejected than wonder all the time, "What if?, I wish I'd . . ., What if I'd just . . ." See what I mean? Rejection is hard but it's part of the game. <<but he kept like staring at me, and at first I was like woah, odd, and i would always turn away..but then for a little I was talking to him and he was nice>> Looks like he was flirting with you too. <<at the end of the night he gave me a hug and stuff and he's like "yeah so I'll see ya around", and he hugged my friends too but he didn't say that.>> Think about that too. <<Posted by: LinkinPark_girl Posted on: Jun 1st, 2002, What do looks have to do with anything?? It's what's inside that counts. And everyone has their own idea of what they think is 'good-looking'. But I can tell ya,that alot of guys like girls with a good/great personality. So just be yourself,and I'm sure he'll like you even more.>> I'm in agreement with that. I may have to hire LinkinPark-girl. But as much as we fight it and as much as we don't like to admit it to ourselves, looks are a big part and sometimes the only part of the attraction. "He's cute!" right? How many times do we think, "Well she, (he) is rather unattractive but she has a great sense of humor and I will ask her out." If anyone does that they are saints. Looks are not everything, it's true. But let's face it and be honest with ourselves. It IS a big deal. If you can overlook looks and get to person's persoanlity and the like, you're a better person than most.
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Post by busybodies on Jun 5, 2002 5:44:08 GMT -5
Hi Toxic! As much as I hate it, I have a guy problem. He's been my friend since kindergarten. Now he says he likes me. Desperately. Love. Not just like. The thing is, he waited all this time to tell me (two years, he said). It's because I told him I was leaving. He thought he had another two years to tell me. My problem is... I'll never see him again. And sure, I like him. As a friend. I don't want to get into anything with anybody right now. I see no point in it. But he wouldn't see it from that point. He thought there was someone else (but there isn't!). So to put the problem away, I told him I liked him. I know that was the wrong thing to do, but I did it. Now I don't want to leave knowing I left this mess behind me. What do I do? I don't want to hurt him either, cos he's always been one of my best friends.
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Jun 5, 2002 10:47:28 GMT -5
What Should I Tell Him?
Hi Busybodies:
First, you didn't really do anything wrong. You're going through alot and you don't really have much control over it. But you're still going to have to fix it, if only to settle your mind.
Tell him what's going on, and why you told him what you did. He's your best friend and you owe it to him to be honest. But tell him how much he means to you. You don't want this to bug you when you leave.
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Post by busybodies on Jun 5, 2002 11:06:42 GMT -5
Thanks Toxic. What I did doesn't mean I was leading him on, does it? It's not that I don't like him. On the contrary, I think he's a very nice person and he has a great personality. I don't want him to think I was just playing around with him.
And another thing. Me not wanting a boyfriend, AT ALL, doesn't make me weird in any way, does it? I'm fine having them as friends, but that's it. I don't want one just yet. I don't think I'm ready for it. Plus, I think I'm too young. All of my friends have bfriends, so it's not like a situation where I've been MADE to think that by my peers. This isn't the first time I've turned down a guy. It wasn't like anything was wrong with them. I just thought I shouldn't.
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