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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Sept 19, 2002 18:54:11 GMT -5
All right ... to open this thread ... I need FEMALE advice.
My best friend in the entire world is named Michelle. And we used to always hang out and do a lot of stuff together. Now ... she claims that she has been getting uncomfortable with having me around all the time (claims that I always seem to be there ... ) and feels as if she is being stalked.
Now, she claims I call all of the time (I do not) ...
About the being around all of the time part - Since she has temporarily moved in with a friend until her father returns in 3 months, I don't get to see her as much. To counter this fact, I chose to walk with her to her locker after her Zero Period class and would also walk with her a little bit after our 2nd period. I do not know what the heck is wrong with her, I am just trying to be friendly.
First off, she is also about a year and a half older than I ... Next, she also seems to invite ME to a lot of places rather than vice versa. She drives, I do not (legally anyway). So the fact that she starts the conversations and stuff outside of school is what is weird ...
Any REAL women out there got any advice on this?
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Sept 19, 2002 19:58:01 GMT -5
she might secretly like you .. maybe??
well that's what happens to me sometimes... *shrugs*
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Post by ThaIceLady on Sept 19, 2002 20:07:32 GMT -5
Hmmm....this is probably not much help. But it seems like she's the one with the problem. I would just leave her alone for awhile. Let her come back to you. Good luck.
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Post by RebDoMINe on Sept 19, 2002 20:18:05 GMT -5
David, I'm really sorry about the whole situation. She's not worth your time. I know how well you treat girls you care about, most girls would wait in line like a Star Wars fan for a boyfriend like you. Any girl who can't treat you half as well as you treat her doesn't deserve you.
I know you like Michelle. But I think you deserve someone who respects your feelings more than that. There are other ways to ask you to give her space. She didn't need to say it the way she did.
Maybe you should back off awhile--not to play hard to get, but just to see how she is without you there. She doesn't need a friend as good as you, so don't give her one. In my humble opinion, I honestly don't think you should pursue anything else with this girl. A lot of people would tell you to play hard to get, or try to get her to like you whichever way, but, in my opinion, you shouldn't.
Don't degrade yourself by begging for a relationship she doesn't want to be in. Find a girl who wants and deserves you. Believe me, Michelle WILL want you back, but it's up to you whether or not she should have you. She's going to be sorry when she's stood up by a guy because he felt like watching football, and only goes to her house because her dad keeps beer or something.
It sounds like you're looking for a more serious relationship than most high school aged girls (or guys...good guys are just as hard to find) are willing to give. These relationships tend to be so superficial and pointless. It's barely a step above the "Do you like me? Check yes or no" thing that people did in fourth grade. It's not very fair, but I guess some people who are ready to be in a real relationship end up either waiting, or in a bad one.
A lot of guys are bastards, especially at this age. You're sweet, caring, and handsome. Find someone else.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Sept 19, 2002 20:23:24 GMT -5
A lot of guys are bastards, especially at this age. . Ain't that the truth. But by what Tiff says you seem like a gentleman.
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Post by RebDoMINe on Sept 19, 2002 20:28:26 GMT -5
^^Yeah, he's a good guy. He treats girls with respect and he's very intelligent. haha, look, we're talking about you, David.
Carla, are you black (my god, sorry, I had to say that, I haven't said it in awhile ;D)
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Post by Cassiopeia on Sept 19, 2002 20:29:25 GMT -5
I'm assuming you are still in high school. And when you are at that stage in your life "friends" sometimes tend to treat you poorly. It seems like you really care for this girl, and she isn't putting much into your friendship. The only thing I can suggest is to be completely honest with her. Tell her that you really care about her and value your friendship, and that's why you call her and want to spend time with her. If she can't return those feelings, then she isn't worth it.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Sept 19, 2002 20:32:27 GMT -5
Hehehehhe at Tiff's post.
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Post by horsesalltheway on Sept 19, 2002 22:56:12 GMT -5
Hey David!
I personally in my humble opinion think you should quit calling her, quit hanging out with her, and don't ask her to do anything. Then she'll realize what she's missing. Only do things when she calls, asks, or hangs out with you. It's what I would do. *shrugs*
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Sept 20, 2002 16:36:51 GMT -5
Thank you everybody. I think after her father returns from Germany, I am going to ask her if she wants to be more than friends. Until then, I am gonna treat her like a normal friend ...
Anybody know what would be a good Scooby-Doo present? Me and her best friend are getting her B-Day presents ... and I need to find something that is Doo ... I already made the commitment, but I am not sure if I am still taking her out to dinner for her B-Day ...
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Sept 20, 2002 18:06:00 GMT -5
Some girls really don't appreciate the fact that there are nice, intelligent guys out there. Oh, why are we so dumb sometimes? LoL. Maybe she doesn't feel the same way back, or maybe she does, but she truly wants space for whatever personal reason or problems she may be having.
All I know is that you seem like a nice guy, and if she can't see that, why waste your time and energy on her?
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Post by Michaelangelo on Sept 20, 2002 18:22:55 GMT -5
Noooo! David, RESIST! Do not do the Doo! (bwahaha. You knew it was coming.) But seriously folks, why would you want to give a nice, well-thought-out gift to someone who's been treating you so shabbily? Maybe I'm just bitchier than you are, but my best friend did the exact same to me last year, and I did not run out to get her a gift within the next few days. And proving myself still more of a bitch, can I ask why you want to date someone who treats you this way? Love, ~Mike
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Sept 20, 2002 19:01:54 GMT -5
Well, I still want to maintain a friendship with her. But the dinner thing is on hold until further notice ...
Once again, thank you everyone for all of your advice.
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Post by RebDoMINe on Sept 20, 2002 20:22:12 GMT -5
*kicks feet and shrieks* I love it, Mike!!!! Do not do the Doo...wahahahaha! Sorry, sugar. ;D
David...in my opinion, you should wait it out and let her invite you somewhere if you must maintain a relationship with this girl.
Listen to Mike, she knows everything.
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Post by Michaelangelo on Sept 20, 2002 22:27:29 GMT -5
^Yeah. *crosses arms mafia-style* Love, ~Mike (scoooooby-dooby-doo!)
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