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Post by julinka on Jul 3, 2002 16:27:58 GMT -5
If you can't afford to take off time from work to care for your child, then you shouldn't have kids. And the majority of single parents can't do that.
The majority of married parents can't afford to take time off of work either. I don't think that day care is necessarily harmful or helpful to children, although it would be great if more people had the option to stay home with their kids at least part-time. Either way, single people eligible to adopt are likely to have more time to spend with their children than many working-class couples.
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Post by Cassiopeia on Jul 3, 2002 23:59:31 GMT -5
^^^ I'm sorry, you're right. I really shouldn't have singled out single-parents. There are a lot of married couples out there who are bad parents as well. I do understand that marriage won't necessarily make someone a good parent.
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Post by Jennycool on Jul 4, 2002 7:07:24 GMT -5
I think it should be allowed. I'm not married but I'm 23 years old and I've been ready to have a child for years. My boyfriend and I are getting married in 2 years or so anyway but I hate having to wait that long to have kids and it's killing me. Having a baby out of marriage is not an option because it would kill (literally) both of our parents. I wish I could just adopt a baby until I can have my own. Wait that sounded bad .. I don't mean that when I have my own I wouldn't keep or love the adopted one anyway.
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Post by julinka on Jul 4, 2002 16:46:11 GMT -5
I don't tend to see daycare as an indicator of bad parenting. Sure, it's no good if you have no time to spend with your children, but the norm of human development has never been for a child to have a single caretaker after it's been weaned. It used to be more communally based rather than an actual daycare institution, but it has never been economically feasible to tie an adult in each family up with caring for kids full-time.
I would like to see better parental leave support to allow infants to stay home with their parents, but if you're adopting a two-year-old, there's no reason he/she shouldn't be in daycare.
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Post by excessive_energy2 on Jul 5, 2002 14:41:02 GMT -5
^^^ I'm sorry, you're right. I really shouldn't have singled out single-parents. There are a lot of married couples out there who are bad parents as well. I do understand that marriage won't necessarily make someone a good parent. I live in a home where both of my parents work full time, and that doesn't mean there bad parents. In fact, there great parents, and are always supporting mewhen I need them. Putting your kids in Daycare, doesn't mean your a bad parent, it just means that you can't leave your child home alone because their to young. And I also think that daycare is sorta of good, because it teaches them to interact with other children, learn life skills, and other things, so techinacly(sp?) is isn't a bad thing.
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Post by Ms.Thang_Has-It-All on Jul 24, 2002 0:46:25 GMT -5
I think singles should be able to adopt. I mean it's like saying singles should not have kids period. My mom raised me and my mom and my sister by herself. And I came out fine. I mean (not to brag) every authority figure, thats met my mom says the "You've done good with her." And I can tell they mean it, and not that fake teacher crap that some teachers do with other kids. So if my mom can do it, then it can be done. And I know theres tons of others out like me that was raised by single-parent that are descent kids. And as a matter of fact, my mom is thinking about adopting a kid, or at least foster care.
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Post by funkygirlk16 on Oct 15, 2002 12:41:03 GMT -5
I believe if they've got the money to take care of the children, no matter they're martial status they should be able to adopt the child. I do firmly beleive that if they're under 25, they shouldn't though. ~jenn
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