Should single people be allowed to adopt?

[NaruNarusegawa]

I brought this subject up in the whether or not homosexuals should adopt debate, but I believe I'll make another thread seeing these are two different issues.

Should people who are single be allowed to adopt? People say homosexuals shouldn't because the child will be missing a Mother or Father in the relationship, but the same thing can be said about single people who adopt, yet there's no controversary surrounding the issue. What do you think?

[BadFish]

Despite the studies that show children grow up better with both male and female influences, I think that children mature well in any household with a nuturing, responsible guardian(s).

Maritial status has nothing to do with a person's ability to raise a child.

[OxNutz]

It really isn't a matter of marital status, when it comes to single parenting. A single person adopting actually doesn't have many problems to speak of. People get divorced, and adopt kids, or even heads who can't have kids (and are single) adopt. They're allowed to adopt, but keep in mind, they still have certain tax privileges recinded.

Hmm.....what's the point of this thread again?

[NaruNarusegawa]

I agree BadFish.

Oxnuts - But in the "whether or not homosexuals can get married or adopt?" thread you made a point that homosexuals shouldn't be allowed to adopt because the child has an automatic disadvantage missing a father or a mother. I believe this is the quote.

"But the child of a gay couple is at an automatic disadvantage because they are lacking either a mother or father in the relationship."

How come that same issue doesn't apply to single people who want to adopt because the child will have that same disadvantage?

[OxNutz]

Yes, single-parent houses do have the same disadvantages. Raising a child solo and raising a child in faggotry are two different things. If you properly read, then you'd remember what I said about marriage and tax privileges in the gay marriage thread. You americans are a funny bunch indeed.

[NaruNarusegawa]

This issue has nothing to do with marriage, or tax priviledges. That's a different debate all together.

Oh btw, I am aware that 3_Pound_Wang and Oxnutz is the same person.

[pettyluv]

3_Pound_Wang, those type of personal attacks will not be tolerated here.

[Cassiopeia]

Yes, single people should be allowed to adopt.  However, in my opinion, I don't think it's a good thing.  Obviously, that parent is going to have to work full time to support the child, and what is going to happen to him or her?  I guess he or she will just get stuck in day care.  I certainly disaprove of putting your kid in another person's care for a good portion of that day.  That is not parenting, in my opinion.  If you can't afford to take off time from work to care for your child, then you shouldn't have kids.  And the majority of single parents can't do that.  However, the government should not be able to enforce laws regarding adoption based on marital status.

[girlpoet21]

Yes, I think single parents should be allowed to adopt. I myself was raised by a single mom after my parents were divorced, and before that, my dad wasn't around much, and I might as well have been raised by her alone. My mom did a good job, and by that I'm not trying to say I'm great, just that she is. As for daycare, I was in daycare maybe a total of 2 days in my life. My mom found ways to take care of me and work. She worked three jobs at one time, and with all of them I could be with her. That was when I was a baby when I was younger, I went to school and she worked at a job where she got off in time to get me from school. We never had much money, but we had enough and she was there. Later when I was older, I went to my grandparents after school, but that wasn't often and I wasn't there long. If a kid can be adopted  and live the life I have, they're gonna be one lucky kid. Oh and by the way, we were never on any type of welfare.

[3_Pound_Wang]

On the thing about single parenting and day care and all that hoopla.  Isnt the parent going to need to work to support the child?  What if parents get divorced and the child is older and they live with one parent, what happens then?  You cant put an older kid in day care.  Parenting isnt just about seeing your kids.  It's more important that the parent work, make money and give the child a better life, I'd rather have that than end up being a vagrant.

[Cassiopeia]

^^^  Well, my feeling is that if a person can't make enough money and/or be with their kid, they don't deserve to have children.  

[LisaRocksYourWorld, yo]

I think the adoption process shouldn't be limited to anyone.  However, the situation probably wouldn't be ideal; it would definately be twice as hard on the parent, which is the main disadvantage.  

I don't necessarily think children with single parents turn out any worse than those with "normal" family situations.  As I believe I said in a different thread, I know more screw-ups who come from "normal" families than dysfunctional, non-ideal ones.  The majority of my friends (and I'm friends with intellegent, level-headed people) come from single-parent households.  

However, most single parents don't choose to have that situation.  Or, to put it better, they didn't expect it.  Becoming a single parent is just an unfortunate event to most of the people that it happens to; if it does happen, the mother or father does the best they can to support the children.  If the adoptive parent has either the determination to work or the financial stablility to raise a child comfortably, then it should be their decision.

[1.gurl.revolution]

girlpoet21 made a good point.  i was also raised by my mom alone.  i see my dad one weekend a month.  but there are some children who never see their dads--or moms.  so are those adults "punished" by their ex-lover (or whatever the case may be) to never have a child that's not a biological one?

[LittleGreenDream]

I see no problem with it. I mean, I know it's said to be better to have two parents and everything, but I think if the parent loves their child and is able to take care of them, they shouldn't be stopped just because they aren't married.

[matthewmckillop]

i see no problem wit that. kids in jus want a family even if that family happens to be one parent they'd be happy