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Post by brown_eyed_rudie on May 15, 2002 17:48:09 GMT -5
when you're wondering how to tell them, or if you really should....
okay, a couple things. from what i've gathered from my 'rents, though they they lived through the hippies, they didn't really go for the lifestyle. that said..... i smoke pot. i'm not planning on stopping anytime soon, but i used to be really close with my mom, and tell her everything. now i can't because alot of the stuff i'd want to tell her happened when i was stoned....or picking up....or are somehow distantly drug related. i want that relationship back, right, so i've decided to tell my mom . but how? i'd rather tell her than have her find out, but i don't want her to hate me, or ground me, or be really upset over something that's been going on for a long time, and has ceased to be an issue in my mind. - what do you think her reaction would be?
- what would your reaction be if you were my mom?
- have you guys had similar experiences, whether it has to do with drugs, sex or.....i don't know, rock and roll?
i'd really appreciate advice because sometimes i have rough experiences, and all i want is my mom's companyand support, but it's just not happening. i've lost my train of thought and i'm scared i'm rambling so....what's a girl to do?
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Post by 80s Child on May 15, 2002 20:30:44 GMT -5
Moving this to the Parents forum (was originally posted in S&R, but it doesn't really fit there).
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Post by brown_eyed_rudie on May 16, 2002 6:23:22 GMT -5
sorry about that 80's child.....
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Post by 1.gurl.revolution on Jul 12, 2002 13:28:46 GMT -5
since you used to be really close to your mom and you could tell her anything, she's probably wondering where that "little girl" is. i know how weird that sounds, and i know that we all have to grow up sooner or later, but if you don't want her to find out on her own, and you would rather tell her, go up to her when both of you[/b] have enough time to talk about anything and everything that SHE[/u] may want to know, go for it. tell her that you want her trust back, and that you need and want some help. but you can't do that on your own. if you've ever saw riding in cars with boys, moms love to help their kids cuz it makes them feel like the kids still need them. i haven't been through the drugs and sex thing yet, but my mom and i have yelled and fought so much. but you should do this soon. so there is a smaller chance of her finding out before you can tell her. if there's anything else i can help you with, just PM me. let us know how it went.  |
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Jul 28, 2002 16:20:02 GMT -5
I told my mom about me trying a black and mile and smokin at my friends' house. So what you can see,my parents don't trust me. And that's because I don't tell them stuff. Because I don't like to tell them anything. I like to keep to myself. But I think it's best to tell your mom this because you *want* that relationship back and *want* to be able to talk to her again,and the only way for her to trust you is if you tell her the truth. Atleast that's the way I see it.  |
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Jul 28, 2002 19:07:02 GMT -5
See, I don't condone drug use of any sort. No offense, I'm not trying to say you're a bad person, but I don't have a lot of respect for those who do drugs. I know what my reaction would be, but I hope I'm not being too biased on what her reaction would be.
99% of parents are against drug use, so chances are your mother won't be very happy, to say the least. I honestly think your relationship would be worse if you told her about the drug use... She might even try to limit your social activities. I'm all for honesty, but you have to pick what means more to you: being direct with your mother, or living the lifestyle you want to live.
I haven't had any similar experiences, so I can't give you help in that way. I'm generally a pretty good kid. (Although it's hard convincing my mother that I'm not a slut.)
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Post by Michaelangelo on Jan 18, 2003 21:25:39 GMT -5
I told my mom about smoking up when we were talking (sort of joking, really) about weed. It was pretty easy, actually, but I have a really easy-going mother--I hope yours is as okay with it as my mom was/is! Just downplay it. Tell her you've only done it once or twice, reassure her it's not taking over your life or turning you into a junkie, etc. And if she gets mad--come home high to piss her off! Ha! (Juuuuuuust kidding. mostly.)
Don't worry, Lisa, I think it's a universal thing. I just don't mention boys and/or sex with her much anymore, hehe.
-Mike
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