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Post by *Little Leprechaun Gurl* on Jul 2, 2002 12:46:47 GMT -5
Hey Hon..I said I'd come and look at your prob. So here I am! Anywhoo...that is quite a problem. But..what I think you should do is really talk to your girl-friend. Behind every good relationship..with anyone....is communication. If you dont talk to her things will just build up inside of you and eventually it'll all have to come out. And you might bring it out on someone you love. So my advise is to talk to her. I know that him possibly liking her hurts you because you like him too and now your friend likes him. But once you talk it should help. If they do end up hooking up, I dont know what to say. One of my friends liked a guy that I liked and was going out with and she never told me. Well they ended up getting together and it really hurt me. I let it go and didnt tell them though...it built up and I blew up...it wasnt very pretty. After a while I finally realized that they were happy together..and both good friends. Sometimes I guess you just kinda have to step back and look how happy they are together. I know it may hurt...but are you really ready to risk your friendship over one guy? Thats what you have to ask yourself. I know its hard...really hard, but stay in there ok? Keep your head up, and pm me if you need anyother help. Hope I helped and Good luck!
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Gabbie
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Post by Gabbie on Jul 2, 2002 14:15:39 GMT -5
Hey, that is a problem, and I have had problems like that. What I can tell you is you have to talk to your friend about how you feel. Maybe you will be able to work something out with her. I know my best friend went out with this guy for a year on and off and this other girl liked him but never told her. We knew she did, but she just refused to say anything about it and we were friends with her at the time. They ended up getting into a fight about it and even now she still deneys that she liked him, but later on, after they broke up, she ended up being obsessed with him to the point where we couldn't take in anymore and were getting into fights with her all the time. You don't want that to happen with your friend, a guy isn't wroth it. You might not feel comfortable talking to her about it at first. I know I wouldn't because it might seem like you are telling her not to like him, but thats not what you're doing at all when you think about it. When/if you talk to her you have to tell her how you feel about him and how you don't want him to come between you guys. You want her to be happy, but you might also feel a little hurt if they end up getting together. If they do get together and they are happy after a while you will be happy for them to.
I hope I made sense and if you need anymore help PM me
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tam
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Post by tam on Jul 7, 2002 10:24:29 GMT -5
I guess you've just gotta grit your teeth and sit it out. If you tell her now that you are upset she will probably ask why you left it so long to tell her, and get mad and I'm sure you don't want that. It's not fair but if its what they want to do you can't stop them. If they start flirting around you the best thing to do istell them it makes you very uncomfortable and leave. If she is a good friend (not that she isn't if she lets you leave) she will cool it.
~ I'm not too good at giving advice but at least I tried whereas I'd usually just feel bad for the person. I hope I helped ~
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Post by *Little Leprechaun Gurl* on Jul 7, 2002 16:18:43 GMT -5
Again I think you just need to talk to her about it. Honesty is the best thing in a relationship. Even though its hard talking to her about him, I think you might have to. She's happy with him, which is good. Sometimes jealousy gets to us so little things kinda jump out at us more so it seems worse then it really is. (found that out the hard way) Anywhoo, so I think if you two are really good freinds then you two can work things out. It might be rocky at first..but you can do it babe. Pm me if you need anymore help.
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