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Post by 1.gurl.revolution on Feb 21, 2002 12:28:49 GMT -5
i don't know if i spelled that right  , but xenaphobia is when you are scared of anyone that is different from you. and that's exactly how my dad is. he's pregidist against homesexuals, people who aren't white, aren't baptist, etc. this really makes me mad. i already talked to him a hundred times, but he doesn't listen, doesn't change, or anything. he even said, "well, since i'm a man, i can do anything i damn well please. it's women that should be following the mens footsteps!"  do you all know anyone else like this? what did you do?
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Post by sunny.side.up on Feb 21, 2002 12:43:06 GMT -5
I never knew that there was actually a name for that... But no, I don't think I know anyone who's like that. If I did, I'd probably just try to stay far away from them, because I don't think there's anything you can say to make them change their mind. But well, if your dad's like that, that sort of makes it harder to stay away from him...  ~*Esther*~ |
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Post by Wienerschnitzel con Carne on Feb 21, 2002 14:21:50 GMT -5
You asked about the spelling of the word, and I think it's spelled "xenophobia." Only one letter off; good guess!
What I would do in this situation is try to get your dad to calm down when he goes off on some sort of rant about people being different. Don't let him get you down, that's just how some people are. Tell him that you're not comfortable with his remarks, and if that doesn't work or if you think that'll cause too much of a ruckus around the house, you should just tell him to cool it a bit and that you don't like it when he gets mad.
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Post by tootrickyforyou on Feb 26, 2002 11:42:34 GMT -5
Ugh, I know what you mean! Everytime my mom sees a homosexual, or something abut a homosexual, she immediatly has to criticize everything about them. I just want to tell her to shut up, and get to know them before she judges them. She's also that way about other religions. I want to be another religion, and you'd think that I had just sold my sould to the devil the way she carries on. What's worse is that I used to be like her, until I found razzberry  . Then I learned that not all homosexuals were bad, and other religions were actually quite interesting  |
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Post by iNsAnE.cAnAdIaN on Feb 26, 2002 18:04:12 GMT -5
SweetGoldenSlumber:
Im glad that razzberry has helped you like that!
I LOATHE (sp?) people who are that closed minded....I dont know what you could do about your Dad...I have never known someone like that. Maybe you could try to educate him on the great things that some white people have done, other religions or about homosexuals.....I m guessing he wont put up with that, but its just a suggestion.
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Post by Soleluna on Feb 27, 2002 9:58:41 GMT -5
Yeah, the spelling is XENOPHOBIA. Oh, well. I am completely against it.
It is one of the stupidest things men and women can do: fear others because they are different and treat them badly.
I don't think you can meke them change their mind... but you can try. I did, and failed.
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Post by KattyKatie on Feb 27, 2002 13:56:55 GMT -5
Thank goodness noone in my family is like that! I've always been brought up being told that all people are created equal and I could never imagine looking down on anyone! Sadly, I live in a very small town where different people are not always accepted. It's not so much with people of colour as it is with homosexuals. For some reason everyone believes that they're contagious or something! I hate it!
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Post by Michaelangelo on Mar 4, 2002 23:09:47 GMT -5
That's so scary! You poor thing. (Not meant to sound quite as patronizing as it does.) I hope your dad realizes that accepting differences is the only hope for any kind of a prosperous future for ANY of us.
Love,
~The Kitten~
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Post by LittleGreenDream on Mar 5, 2002 18:32:02 GMT -5
Ugh, I hate people like that! I know someone who drives me insane because he is like that. Mainly with homosexuals, and people of another relgion. He basically thinks that if they're not like him than they are sinners and are going to go to hell. Blah blah blah... EVERY single time he sees a gay person, or hears something about them, he goes off on how he hates fags, but it doesn't matter cuz "they're gonna get it in the end" I want to punch him in the face, because for some reason he thinks he is like just "so perfect" and he has no flaws, but anyone not like him is just disgusting. Ggggrrr, now I've gotten agrivated just thinking about him! Why must people try to pick out everything that is wrong with another person? Do they not think they themselves have flaws? |
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Post by popcorn on Mar 18, 2002 21:13:54 GMT -5
My theory with all of this is that ppl are just insecure with themselves.
ex) ppl who criticize gays alot often are insecure about their orientation
I think that people who are raised in a more closed enviornment (small town, small church, small school, small mind -- quote from somewhere I don't remember which isn't always true, but interesting) are often also more likely to xenophobic since the idea that others are not like them is almost frightening since they don't truly even know what the different people are like.
As for your dad, I don't know what to do. My dad may be difficult to deal with, but both my parents are tolerant of anything (Seeing "different" couples <race religion same sex> making out on NYC corners isn't exactly shocking)
If you are able to talk to him, ask him about Baptists who aren't white or are homosexual. My church is distinctly Baptist, has a large black congregation and prides itself in having a large homesexual group.
Racism: Point out to him that Jesus was a Sephardic (thanks sarah!) Jew, which means he was a VERY dark skin color. (no, not blond & blue eyes)
As for his sexism, ask him who seems to be causing so much trouble in the world today. Do you see an Osama bin Ladeness?
Just remember that YOU are your own person, and not to lower yourself to his level -- don't believe what he says about women or anyone else. I can't stand men like that... *sigh*
*Edit*
hehe, i realized I mispelled 'Sephardic' today while i was reading the Times, oops. Thanks for the correction, Sarah!
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Post by 80s Child on Mar 19, 2002 21:31:51 GMT -5
popcorn, it's Sephardic, not Safartic. Just a friendly correction. I know some people who act that way. It sickens me and makes me sad. With so many different people in the world, how can some people be so judgemental?  |
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Post by 1.gurl.revolution on Aug 17, 2002 10:28:37 GMT -5
this is a really[/i][/u] stupid example, but one day i was babysitting a couple of kids who loved the arther show. newayz...the one that was on was when arther wished that everyone was just like him, so everyone wouldn't fight. but by the end of the show, he realized that that was very boring. my point is, no matter how much i try and tell my dad that if everyone is the same, then the world would be a whole lot worse place to be, he doesn't listen. *sigh* well, at least my older sister and i broke the chain of this.
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Post by 80s Child on Aug 20, 2002 15:12:28 GMT -5
Hehe... you're welcome popcorn. (3 months later... ) |
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Post by toxicavenger on Jan 30, 2006 10:33:06 GMT -5
My theory with all of this is that ppl are just insecure with themselves. ex) ppl who criticize gays alot often are insecure about their orientation You make the confusion sound like something is wrong, but in other threads you expound on the benefits of homosexuality and how great it must be. So why would someone who is "confused" (doubt it, just another PC thing) be something that is bad. Nevertheless, this is the biggest steaming pile I've ever heard. If someone speaks out against gays, that makes them unsure about their sexuality? So following that line of logic, if I say I work in the IT department at work, does that make me a lawyer or a truck driver? I mean, I'm denying that I am a lawyer or truck driver so does that make me one? And one more thing. Xenophobia is not a fear of different races it is a very real fear of being with people of any kind. It is a genuine fear that has nothing to do with prejudice and intolerance. |
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, but xenaphobia is when you are scared of anyone that is different from you. and that's exactly how my dad is. he's pregidist against homesexuals, people who aren't white, aren't baptist, etc. this really makes me mad. i already talked to him a hundred times, but he doesn't listen, doesn't change, or anything. he even said, "well, since i'm a man, i can do anything i damn well please. it's women that should be following the mens footsteps!" 
do you all know anyone else like this? what did you do?
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