What Do You Look For In A Guy (Personality Wise)

[ThaIceLady]

So what do you girls look for a guy (personality wise)?

[lovebug0508]

[glow=purple,2,300]~Humor when its called for
~charming but not cheezy
~honesty and trust
~forgiving to people in their lives
~originality
~self-confidence without a HUGE ego
~ability to give and recieve love
~love of life, and a passion for living
~romantic passionate side
~knows when enough is enough
~and maybe not the ability to understand me...hehe, but at least the willingness to try and to forgive whatever he does not understand [/glow]

[Gabster]

Good topic!

Well, here's my list:
~ Trustworthy. That is definitely one of the biggest things to me. I have real issues with trusting people, and if I'm going to be close to someone, I need to be able to trust them with anything.

~ Understanding and supportive. It's sort of like that one above...if I'm going to be close with someone, I would like them to be supportive in the things I do. Of course, this DEFINITELY works both ways.

~ A sense of humor, someone fun to be around. There's some guys who you're always cracking up and having a blast around no matter what...I like that.

~ Sweet. 'Nuff said.

~ He has to have a passion for something he's really into....a hobby, sport, music, whatever.

[LisaRocksYourWorld, yo]

Maybe I'm too picky... I don't know, I don't think this is too much to ask:

1. Intellgence. Now, I know not every guy can maintain straight A's in all advanced courses, nor is every guy a Harvard graduate. However, I want someone with common sense, which is important. I also want someone with cultural literacy, so we can have a conversation about politics, theatre, or something equally stimulating.

2. Morals. I'm completely against smoking, drinking, drugs, and all that naughty stuff. I don't need a guy with bad judgement as far as that goes. I want someone who can get high on life and won't let something like drugs or alcohol disturb his future.

3. Humility. There's nothing worse than a guy who is full of himself. He should be a bit shy, and not at all obnoxious. He should recognize his faults, but accept them and live with them just as happily. He shouldn't try to be someone he's not.

4. Appreciation. I like compliments, and I don't receive enough of them. I want a guy to buy me a flower once in a while for no apparent reason; I want to be told I'm pretty.

5. A sense of humor... To a point. I like someone who can joke around, but I also like someone to be serious when the time calls for it.

6. I also adore guys who have an aura of dorkiness to them. It's not required, but I just find it irresistable.

[busybodies]

-Fidelity: I need somebody I can trust completely. Someone who I can give all of me to and know that he's giving the same back to me.

-Intelligence: He should be able to talk to me and be savvy to survive this crazy world. I want somebody who I can bring my dreams and problems to, somebody who will argue a point he believes in, someone to talk to about stuff that interests both of us. Debates are always fun

-Somebody who will tolerate me for all my weirdness (and music at any time of the day) and understand me, support me and love me for who I am.

-Seriousness, with a sense of humor: I loathe loud, showy characters. I want somebody who's quiet but fights for what he believes in; sombody who doesn't seek out fights but will stand up to defend me if necessary.

-A personality of his own. Not just a random assembly of 'in' things thrown together. He doesn't have to like the same things I like. I just want him to have interests of his own. Intellectual and sensitive but masculine at the same time.

-Caring. He shouldn't be nasty or have an attitude. He should be kind to people in trouble and help them out. I also adore guys who are good with kids. What's cuter than a guy playing with a little kid? Also beneficial when you have kids of your own cos he'll be good with them!

I have a thing for the soft, intellectual looking type Glasses, not too brawny, sensitive, lean and firm, intelligent, clean shaven... lol...

Edited to add more.

[canadiana]

- A sense of humour: This is SO incredibly important to me, because I love to laugh and have fun, if they're the depressed brooding types, I won't like that very much. Usually guys with a good sense of humour are lighthearted, and they tend to be easy to talk to as well. And also, they say that a smile can brighten up any day ... therefore, if a guy can make me smile or laugh when I'm down, then it's SUPER good.

- Confidence: Not too much of course, but enough of it is necessary. You gotta love yourself before you love others! I know guys find it sexy when girls are confident, so it's the same thing the other way around.

- Caring/a good heart: I love it when guys actually let you know that they care about you, and they can speak about the emotional aspect of things. And who can resist someone who wants to do some good in this world? Even something like volunteering at a hospital, or giving encouragement to friends when they're down, etc. When I see that, I'm definitely impressed.

- Easy to talk to: Whether it be a deep conversation about the meaning of love, or laughing together over the latest Friends episode ... I just need to be able to talk well with the guy. I myself seem a little more introverted with people I first meet ... so I need an extroverted guy to bring out the outgoing side of me. I have never been attracted to shy guy, because I can't ever communicate with them.

- Trustworthy: Definitely important, because like Gabster, I don't trust people very easily ... so I have to make sure that they are trustworthy, and so I'll be comfortable sharing my problems or feelings or whatever else is going on with me.