I told one of my best guy friends that I like him

[zonacruz6]

We met early September of 2001, the 4th or something. We had Spanish class together, 2nd hour. We sat by each other, we both were alone, so we befriended each other. He suggested we hang out sometime. He came over that day (it was a Saturday), I went to his houre the following Friday. We hung out back and forth for a couple months. Then, he started to like me, while he was dating someone else. He told me. We dated, too. (It wasn't cheating, it was a different dating...) We dated for a week. He decided he liked Jackie* more than me. I told him I liked Conrad* more, but it was a lie to cover my feelings for him. I told him I thought we should just stay friends, but really, all I wanted was for him to be happy. I dated Conrad* for 3 weeks, then I went out with Steve* for 2 1/2 months. I started to get interested in Eric*, the drummer of a local band. I started talking to him and we became friends. We never dated, went out, anything, but I was convinced I was in love with him. But I wasn't. I was just scared of my emotions. And, they have only come to me within the past 2 weeks. Mike* is the one I love. I will always love him. He has Jackie, and they have been together for 4 months now. He found a journal a few days ago that I wrote back when I liked him in September/October. He read it and told me. I was angry, but he said it was no big deal and it no longer applied. I told him he only knew that half- the half from when I wrote it. He asked me to tell him the other half, I refused. He said, "I have until 6:30, I am going to drive to your house and get this out of you, see you soon." He arrived 10 minutes later, it was 6:20. I told him he needed to go because I was not going to be able to tell him in such a short time period. He told me he had plenty of time, because he had informed Jackie of where he was, and that it might be a while. He came over. We sat on my front porch for nearly 2 hours, except for the one time he took me for a ride in his car cause I was so cold and he wouldn't let me go inside. After nearly 2 hours, I told him. He guessed it, but I told him. At first, he didn't believe me. He told me he was glad I told him, but he wanted to know the truth. I told him that WAS the truth. He made me swear on my life, my grave, no crossies count, EVERYTHING. Then, when he knew it was true, he came up to me, kissed my head, smiled, and said, "I'll see you tomorrow." and left. I cry about it. He is so sweet and I love him dearly. I cry for happiness I think, mainly. Him and I are talking about it online now as we speak. We may hang out. I don't know why I posted this exactly, just to let you all know, and ask for some ideas. I do need to get over him, but he just made it so much harder. I love him so much, always will. He makes me so happy. If you can help me, it would be aprreciated. Thank you for reading this, sorry it's sooo long.

*Names changed

[Queen_of_Hollywood]

i haven't had that happen to me yet- sorry.  

[LisaRocksYourWorld, yo]

That situation could have been so much worse.  You're lucky you have such a great friend.  His girlfriends will come and go, your boyfriends will come and go, but you'll always be friends.  Who knows what could happen in the future?  You may very well have a relationship with him.  After all, his learning of your true feelings didn't scare him away.  

My best guy friend of 4 years just found out I like him on Friday night... I made myself physically sick over it.  I thought he would never talk to me again.  Well, I went to school today and he's nicer to me than ever!!!  

This may turn out for the best.  Now he knows your true feelings, and that burden is lifted off your back.  Good luck honey!

~Lisa

[zonacruz6]

"That situation could have been so much worse.  You're lucky you have such a great friend.  His girlfriends will come and go, your boyfriends will come and go, but you'll always be friends.  Who knows what could happen in the future?  You may very well have a relationship with him.  After all, his learning of your true feelings didn't scare him away."  

Wow, I never thought of it like that. That makes me feel alot better. It's still hard. I saw him today with his girlfriend, I choked back tears. I'm serious. I'm so fucking pathetic. I need to learn to get a life and move on. Ugh!

[tootrickyforyou]

That was sweet of him!  I agree with lisa.  It could have been much worse, and if you keep on being his friend, then you might be more someday.  Boyfriends come and go, but friends are always there.  Just remember that

That must've hurt when you saw him with his girlfriend.  I hate it when I see my crush flirting with other girls.  It's just like he came in there, snapped my heart, laughed, and walked away, so I know how you feel with that one.  I'm sorry, hun.  

[*Little Leprechaun Gurl*]

Hey zonacruz6...
 I think its good that you told him..I'm in the exact same boat...well kinda. Except we've been like basically best friends since kindergarten and have been going out for 2 years and 9 months and then he dumped me two weeks ago.   I still love him I really do. Anywhoo enough about me...
 Anywhoo I dont think you will truely get over him...because hiding from your feelings wont help at all. Its good that he knows and I know its hard to know that you cant be with him right now but be patient. Love is patient...it may not work out for awhile but if its ment to be it will happen.
 The important thing is to stay friends...because it will bring you two closer...I dont know what else to say but if you ever need someone to talk to or just vent about your frustraition or whatever he heck you wanna say..you can always pm me!
Hope I helped!   -Nikki

[x.just.a.little.grL.x]

Zona, I really do admire you for that.  For you to come out and say that to him, man that's pretty bold. LoL. And even if you don't have him now, you might have him later, and in telling him the truth about you liking him, you gained guts, and courage, and more his trust and respect.  I have a good friend (not my best guy friend, but a good guy friend) who I really like, and I could never do what you did, so I really do admire ya for that.    

[GabiGirl23]

Well you posted this a while ago, so I'm not sure if the situation's changed, but I'll give my 2 cents anyways.

I did the exact same thing you did. I had liked this one guy a LOT at the beginning of this school year, and he found out how I felt, and he was cool about it, but I didn't like him knowing, so I pretended I didn't like him, and I almost had myself convinced. A couple months ago, I was so sick of lying to him and acting like everything was OK that I told him. I was afraid of how he'd react, but he was a total sweetie about it. He told me that it was totally OK the way I felt about him, and that he wasn't going to let it ruin our friendship (I was really worried about that) because I was really special to him, and he loved me as a really good friend. My feelings about him have changed a lot since then, but that's not because of anything having to do with this, so back on topic.

Anyways, enough about me. The point of that is to show you that I'm sure it'll be OK. He sounds like a sweetheart of a guy, like one that wouldn't let this interfere with your friendship. Like Lisa said, your true feelings didn't scare him away...that's a good sign of a good guy. It's great that you have such a good friend that you can be so open and honest with...he's worth more than a boyfriend any day, because he'll always be there for you. And I know from experience you probably feel a lot better now that this is out - it's really hard to keep inside all the time.  

And you are NOT pathetic for being upset seeing him with his girlfriend. You're NOT. It hurts, I know it does, and you have every right to be sad about it. Don't force yourself to move on until you know it's the right thing, otherwise it'll backfire on you. Anywhoo, PM me if you ever need to talk. Good luck!

[Frosty The Ice-Bitch]

Yes the situation could have been way worse, like when I told my guy friend I liked him, well let's just say we're not friends anymore (his choice not mine)

YOu luckey to have such a good friend ;D

[hallowsorange]

Sigh, You are only 16 years old! Most relationships at young ages don't last. I am not saying this just because I have never had a girlfriend . I have seen hundreds of friend relationships get slautered because of ones lust over one another. Your young. Don't worry about it. Live life and get out more.

BTW: I personally killed a relationship with a girl that I was friends with for years. We went out once and it was over. I was nervous and didn't really like her in a dating sort of way. Then I figured out that she only asked me out because she wanted a boyfriend and she already went out with all of her other male friends. It didn't bother me because I am used to my life being a downer.