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Post by zonacruz6 on Apr 19, 2002 20:16:28 GMT -5
Having problems with a boyfriend, guy friend, SO, etc.? Come here and ask and we'll do our best to help ya out. Thanks
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on May 12, 2002 11:54:42 GMT -5
My problem is that I really like one of my brother's friends. He doesn't have a girlfriend. He's two years older than me, but we get along really well. How can I tell if he likes me back? I don't want to ask him out if he's going to say no... and he's the type that does eye-contact and friendliness because that's who he is. Today, we saw each other and he gave me a really nice look, but he's a friendly guy so I'm not sure how to take that! I'm beginning to get a bit desparate to see him, which isn't a great impression to put across, really!
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on May 13, 2002 11:07:33 GMT -5
Hi lilmissstrawberry:
He might like you, he might not, "in that way."
How can you tell if he likes you back, sometimes it may not be that easy, but if he pays you an unusual amount of attention, or finds a way to be with you, or helps you do something that isn't that difficult for you. That's a good sign he likes you. If not, it's your turn to take action.
How much do you like this guy? Ask HIM out! If he refuses, now you know. If he accepts, now you know. Wouldn't you rather be turned down, than have him with a another girl and you wondering, "What if I . . ., I wish I'd . . . What if had just . . . Why didn't I . . . ?"
Tell him how you feel! If the answer is no, it'll hurt, but it might be a relief in a way. No more questions. And if he likes you, go for it!
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Post by rozie on May 18, 2002 18:15:02 GMT -5
i am in 9th grade, this guy "Tom" is in 12th. he is pretty nice and popular in our school. he has been nominated for "Big Man On Campus" (a year-end pageant for all the guys in our school) his mom even works at the school! the way i got to know him is going up to his table in the caf and starting to talk (im bold like that). i do that alot but its always awkward and nervous. one time he asked me "are you doin anything tonight?"...before i could answer the bell rang...darn! one time i was in the library in the morning finishing up my homework and he comes and sits with me! the other day i told him "we are always looking at each other, its obvious. i hope i dont annoy you or embarass you in front of your friends by always coming up to you" (yeah, im gutsy and open and crazy like that) he said that it was no problem. im known to be more mature and...well...different for my age. Tom thought i was in 11th grade by the way i look/act, and one of his friends said i could pass for 12th grade! im friends with everyone, in all cliques, i dont have one group i hang out with, lots of people say hi to me in the halls etc. im well known around the school...so is he. what i want is to talk to him again like i did in the library that day, one on one..not just always randomly coming up to his table in the caf. what im afraid of is what his friends think when im at his table..all of those older grade 12s (who probably dont know im in 9th) and the rest of the cafateria that watches me. im also afraid that he will change his mind about potentially 'getting with me'. i want to ask him about what he meant that day when he asked me what im doing that night (that was 3 weekends ago!) and i doubt that ill hook up with him (because hes graduating and all...but theres still a tiny chance!!!) i want to tell him that i didnt make my friend give him my phone number (she did that!...how embarassing! what does he think?). i want to wish him good luck in the future. in the caf we are always making eye contact and i bet we both think "so....WHEN are you going to come up to talk to me..when are we going to talk??" we show off and we are alway pretend that we are not looking at each other. he always walks by wherever im sitting..on purpose. its like a little obvious, pathetic game we play..and we both know it..and im brave/willing enough to say that to him...should i say that? why doesnt HE come up to talk to me?...i have to do all the work, lol. how do i get him alone so we can talk? should i be upfront and ask "hey, come with me to talk"? do guys like that? or should i write a note? im good at notes..but wouldnt that seem too sentimental? and i tend to write too much, lol. ALL i want is to get him alone to tell him all of this. id appreciate any of your thoughts
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Post by likeAfox on May 24, 2002 23:26:51 GMT -5
Rozie, in my opinion hes too old for ya...But im not the one to judge. I think you should simply do what you've done before, just go up to him and start talking. he will go along with it if hes nice, and it will get easier every time. If not, just wait till theres a coincidence, like you walk by him in the hall and stop him to say how life is going. Thats good that u actually have the guts and confidence
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Post by vbkimber07 on May 29, 2002 16:18:19 GMT -5
Have you ever thought of putting your guts to use? Just go up to him and tell him you want to go do something sometime. Or tell him he owes you. Drag it out a bit (so he really wants to know what he owes you) and then tell him a movie date. Just have fun with it. Don't worry too much about getting really serious, because he is graduating, but dont' miss out on a fun friendship/relationship just because it might not last long.
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Aug 23, 2002 21:09:22 GMT -5
[glow=red,2,300]HELPPP![/glow]I need some ADVICE, ASAP! Okay..well here's the dilemma: I'm with a pretty great guy (We'll call him Jake)..repeat with..Jake wants things to be serious, I don't. Well not that I don't, but, we tend to argue sometimes about dumb things, and I don't want to go out with him and then break up with him for something dumb. But, I do like him, but sometimes I don't show it enough. Prime example, a few days ago Jake got very mad at me and told me he was going to break it off, because I was kind of being bitchy to him, and that night really showed me I cared about him, because I didn't want to lose him. So I considered going out with him, but right now I decided I'm just happy being with him. Now, we decided that being with eachother means that we can hook up with other people. And well, there is this one guy that I've liked for a while (We'll call him Adam...and Jake knows that I've liked this other guy; he gets so mad about it)..and well a few days ago, I actually told Adam thatI liked him, and he wants to hang out with me and see where it goes from there. Now I told the Jake that this happened and he told me that he's not mad, just as long as I don't hang out with Adam...Well problem, I'm supposed to hang out with Adam this week..and I don't want Jake to know, but I think it's unfair that he tells me I can hook up with whoever I want except Adam. Besides, I think for now that I really just want to hook up with Adam, and then decide if I want to be with him or Jake, but it shouldn't matter who it is I'm hooking up with, because me and Jake are only with eachother...So what do I do?? Do I a) hook up with Adam and not tell Jake...or b) not hook up with Adam and listen to Jake...or anything else? God, I'm so terribly confused! HELP!!!!
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Post by horsesalltheway on Aug 23, 2002 22:23:00 GMT -5
or, c) hook up with him and tell jake and if he has a problem it's HIS not yours.
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Aug 24, 2002 2:44:26 GMT -5
^^ I agree. Go out with this Adam guy. Jake doesn't own you. He *did* tell you you could hook up with other guys. It's reaaaly selfish and immature of him to get all mad an tell you your not allowed to see Adam. Just because Jake doesn't like Adam doesn't give him the right to tell you that about cant hook up with Adam. I would go for it, if I were you. Good luck!
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Aug 26, 2002 14:00:50 GMT -5
^^That's some great advice guys. But errgh, I really just got myself into a bigger dilemma..Now Jake knows about hanging out with Adam (it's confusing on why I told him)..and he was trying to act indifferent..and I kept asking him, "do you not want me to go hang out with him?" and he also does is say "I don't care, I don't care", but my friends think he does care..but I just really want him to care, you know? Because I don't want to do something with Adam, and regret it, and have Jake be mad at me secretly...I used to think 2 guys liking me would be a privelege..now ehhh..it bites!
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Post by PrettyGirl_Is_Suffering on Sept 11, 2002 17:23:44 GMT -5
Ok I have a problem.... Anyways theres this guy names B (yah fake names not to obvious right? ) Well anyways i was hanging out with him and a bunch of other people and he was all flirty and holding me and stuff like that and we kissed at the end of the night. Anyways now he really likes me and asked me to homecoming and it scares me becuase i dont think he is really my type. And it scares me to think more might coem of this. I though the night was just a little inocent fun. I told him I would think about it. My friends say I should just wait it out becuase we're "so cute togther" . So I don't know if i should go to homecoming with him. i would feel bad if I didnt becuase i guess I lead him on. But for some reason it just doesnt feel right. Any advice?
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Sept 19, 2002 1:58:22 GMT -5
AFChika: I can tell you, Jake DOES care. But drop him from the picture for a sec...say you didn't go with Adam. Then you start asking yourself 'What if I...why didn't I...what would have happened if...?" Would you rather miss out on having a great time with a greta guy just because you don't want someone to be mad at you and regret it, or go out with Adam, have a great time, and if Jake is mad, then so be it. He will get over it. I say again, go for it and good luck!
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Sept 25, 2002 20:54:39 GMT -5
^^ Well, that's not really a problem any more. Because Jake doesn't want me...it was after hanging out with Adam, and me being bitchy..he decided no more, and I'm kind of sad........ Oh well....
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Post by DancinQT7610 on Sept 30, 2002 19:44:50 GMT -5
I need help!!!!
There is this guy(let's call him Justin) well me and him have been really good friends since last year.Well last year he liked me but I was going out with somebody else at the time and I really didn't look at him like that. This year I am single and I have been kinda crushin on him lately.
I wasn't planning on going to our homecoming football game because personally I could give a care less about foot ball. But he told me he was going and he wanted me to go. So I went. We hung out almost the whole night just chillin and talking. Then the next night which was homecoming, I went with a bunch of friends and he went with this girl as friend.(wait, let me back up a second. My friend , "Christian", wanted me to go with Justin because neither one of us had a date and supposedly Justin liked me. Well I was like, I'm gonna go with some friends. ) now on with the story. Well him and this girl ignored each other almost all night.If she saw him coming she went and grabbed another guy to dance with.Well me and him hung out most of the night.We danced and everything. So I told my friend "Brianna" that I liked him.
The next week at school "Christian" who is like my brother told me that one of his friends said that "Brianna" said that I liked "Justin" So Christian said do you want me to talk to him and I said sure. My other friend "Damon" has been asking me why me and Justin aren't already together and so has Christian. Well Christian told me today that he told Justin I like him and he said Justin just smiled and said really?We always flirt back and forth and I guess it is obvious for everybody, but I kind of think he doesn't think I show it or something because the past few days I've kind of been seperating myself from him a little bit because I feel weird with him knowing I like him.
So my friend "Amy" is always flirting with him just like she does with every other guy. I love her to death but she seriously flirts with anything with legs...you ever had a friend like that? So Damon told me on the bus today that Justin was planning on asking her out. But the thing is ...is Christian like Amy and I like Justin. OMG...I am so confused. He is always talking to me and flirting with me and everything but he is sending mix signals. I guess I am too because I have been distancing myself but I just don't know what to say to him now, and tommorrow at school I am going to really be kind of pushing him away because of what Damon said. I know I will, I don't mean to but I'm just not strong like that. Please help! I know this sounds pathetic but I don't wanna drag anymore of my school friends into it because that seems to be what caused the problem. Thanks.
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