Associations/comparisons with the ex

[Frizzled.Disheveled]

When you start dating someone new after breaking up, how do you avoid comparing that person to your ex (at least to their face?)

And also, what about that certain behavior pattern your ex had... when you see what's possibly a symptom of it shown by your new S.O., what do you do?

I ask because my ex used to push me away and refuse me a lot, so now I am hypersensitive to anything of that sort coming from my new boyfriend. I panic, even though I know it's not the same situation, because I'm scared that it will turn into the same old same old. Has this ever happened to you?

[whereISmyhalo]

I keep a list of why I split with my last boyfriend. It keeps me from romanticising about him and making him out ot be a god when really he was only human.

If you find yourself always comparing, maybe you are not over your last boyfriend. If you feel you are, its just this that you struggle with, when you find yourself getting panicked, remind yourself this is another guy and you need to give him a chnace to be good to you!