Long Distant Relationships

[LittleGreenDream]

Are any of you in a long distant relationship, or has been in the past? I'm in one right now, and it's REALLY hard. I get to see him in less than a month though, and then he's gonna move back here in about a year. Everyone I know tells me it's not gonna last, since it's long distant.  I'm hoping it does though!

[Spazmatikal]

^^^ never let someone tell you it's not going to work because it's long distance. that doesn't mean anything. if you truly love the person you're with and you see an endpoint, a future for the relationship: stick with it. never let anyone tell you that your boy/girl is cheating on you just because they're long distance. long distance relationships have to be strongly based in love and & trust... because without that, why bother?

i'm in a long distance relationship right now and i have been for the last ten months. i don't regreat a thing. i get to see him once a week... sure, it's hard. but it's totally worth it. i love my boy to pieces, and no one else would suffice. i truly believe i have a future with him, and i can't imagine being with anyone else. it's worth it.

[Fyre]

^^ *Strongly agrees*

Don't *ever* let anyone tell you that LDR can't work. What do those people know, anyway? *You* know what you feel in your heart, and nobody can tell you otherwise.

I don't care if somebody's long distance relationship bombed; that doesn't give them the right to tell anyone else that theirs will end the same way.

I was in a LDR for a year. I met a guy online, and we never saw each other at all, only pictures. He lived in New York, and I in Pennsylvania, and when we got together, we knew what we had to deal with, but we did it anyway, because our feelings were too strong to just let it go.

Everyone told us it couldn't and wouldn't work. They told me to find somebody "real." That made me so incredibly mad. Just because he wasn't in the same state somehow makes him fake?

So anyway, we wrote letters and talked on the computer and phone, but the time came when we had to take the next step. I moved to NY to be with him, and I've been here for almost 2 years now. We made it work, and we're the happiet couple in the world.

We fought the people that put us down. We fought those who said negative things, and we listened to our hearts. Sure, we cried countless times because of the distance, and we almost broke up over it, but why didn't we? Losing each other would have hurt us a lot more than the distance keeping us apart.

So yes, LDR *do* work, as long as both people involved take the time to make it. Be honest and willing, and nothing and nobody can stand in your way. Good luck to you both! I wish you all the best of luck!

[LisaRocksYourWorld, yo]

If your love is really true, it will last despite the distance.  And it will make the time you do have together even more special!

[Queen_of_Hollywood]

^^i couldn't have said that better myself!

[matthewmckillop]

I live 2 hours away from my girlfriend nikki but when basketball season i see her lots but even know where far away i still love her i hope we stay together if u read this nikki love ya

[*Little Leprechaun Gurl*]

I love you too Matt!  

[Larigirl]

I was in a long-distance relationship and it sucked and ended cuz neither one of us drove.  fortunately we're still great friends.

[x.just.a.little.grL.x]

I think a long distance relationship can work, but only if you make it work. You gotta put in the time and effort.  I really like a guy who lives in a different town (about 15-20 min away-not too long distance, but when you don't have a car, it could be a struggle    - get my jrs. license in a week though! ), and well anyways, I feel something really special for him, and I think I could definately make that work! So if you really like this guy, don't let anyone tell you what's good for you, because if you really like him, things will definately work out because you have faith.  

[x n0ise]

My guy lives in the city right next to mine.  It's about 10-20 minutes away.  It's not that much of a long distance I suppose though.  ;D  At least he drives, though!  I used to only see him about twice a week.  This week I've seen him...*counts*...3 times!  And I'm going to see him tonight too so that'll be 4.  Heh...most of the time my mom doesn't even know I'm with him.  HAHA.  It's funny what parents don't know.  

[Larigirl]

AHHHHHH...  i just found out that my boyfriend, of two and a half years, is going to a university that's 8 hours away..... i'll only see him like 4 or 5 times next year. that sucks!  i'm not worried about our relationship because we can make it.... it's just gonna suck not being able to see him.  

[x n0ise]

^^^Awww.  I'm sorry to hear that Larigirl!  

[CurlyQ_Gal]

I tend to meet lots of guys from other places when I'm somewhere else, and I've often gotten attached. But I've learned that wanting to be with someone when you can't really really really really sucks. Missing them is horrible. So now I am trying to become interested in local guys, or at least more local, to avoid further hearbreak. I reccomend to do the same.  

I mean, I would NEVER say it wouldn't work or anything, im just saying that at times it can be painfull and a little (or a lot) hard to get through.

[Larigirl]

i'm starting to start to miss my boy already and he doesn't move until september..... i know already that I'm going to spend many nights crying myself to sleep.

[PhillyBlunts]

Most long distance relationships are a waste of time. Honestly. Unless one person has reliable transportation and sees the other person often and/or they plan to be together in the future.

I was in a long distance relationship, he lived in another town an hour away but he made the effort to see me every single day before we broke up.