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Post by hockeygurl72 on Aug 26, 2002 13:50:12 GMT -5
Part 2: The next time you're in the company of the opposite sex, look for these telltale signs of flirtation:
Top 10 things men do when they flirt:
1. Arch the back and puff the chest, usually by leaning back in a chair and putting their arms behind their head to signal interest in sex without touching. 2. Stretch their pectoral (chest) muscles, a sign of their ability to protect offspring. 3.Sway the pelvis almost Elvis-like. 4.Swagger to draw attention to themselves. 5.Laugh loudly, announcing their masculine vitality while also demonstrating a tamer side appropriate for fatherhood. 6.Tug their tie. 7.Clasp the back of the neck. 8.Point their chin up in the air, a grand gesture showing off rugged features. 9.Stiffen their stance. 10.Place palms up on a table or their knees, a reassurance of harmlessness.
Top 10 things women do when they flirt:
1. Smile at a man to announce availability and interest. 2. Arch their eyebrows so as to gaze wide-eyed, a sign of youth. 3. Quickly lower their eyelids, tucking the chin down and to the side and averting the gaze, a sign of coyness, signaling unwillingness to give sex to just anyone. 4. Giggle, usually by placing their hand over or near the mouth, a sign of youth and submissiveness. 5. Shrug the shoulders, a sign of helplessness. 6. Toss the hair, showing off their mane, a sign of health. 7. Sway the hips, calling attention to pelvis and advertising curves. 8. Arch the feet. 9. Flick their tongue over their lips, signaling sexual maturity and interest. 10. Extend their chests.
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Post by hockeygurl72 on Aug 26, 2002 13:51:42 GMT -5
Part 3: Beyond the things we do subconsciously to send signals to the opposite sex, what can we do consciously to attract potential partners? The FlirtZone is an actual "flirting academy" in London, England, that offers workshops on how to flirt effectively. Its founder, Peta Heskell, offers the following flirting tips for women on the Zone's web site:
Be A Better Flirt
Give clear signals. Men are notorious for misinterpreting signals from women. Make sure your flirting conveys the message you want it to (i.e., separate sexual flirting from friendly flirting).
Wear something eye-catching. If you want someone to approach you, it's much easier if you're wearing a conversation-starter (i.e., a fun hat, a crazy pin).
Feel good about yourself. Positivity is contagious. When you flirt, feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.
Separate yourself from friends. In general, men find women much more approachable when they are by themselves. This lessens the chance that he'll be rejected in front of an audience.
Check your voice. In Peta's own words: "Does your voice sound like a dental drill or do you wash people in waves of sensual sound?"
If you aren't interested, be polite about it. It takes a lot of courage to approach someone so be sure to turn him down in a way that you would appreciate being turned down yourself.
Be interesting by being interested. Flatter him by showing genuine interest in who he is — ask lots of open-ended questions. It will also tell him that you need a little more information before giving him your number.
Ask him what he enjoys doing. It's easy to rely on the good old opener, "So what do you do?" but, for some men, it translates into "How much do you make?" Because men are more activity-oriented than women, asking them what they enjoy doing will tell you more about what makes them tick.
Only give out your real phone number. If you decide to share this information, only give him the real thing or give nothing at all. Again, it takes a lot of guts to ask for a number so treat him the way you would like to be treated.
Make the first move. Peta says that 95 percent of the men she's talked to would love to be approached by a woman. Chalk it up to another step forward for women's equality.
Be yourself. Be proud of who you are. Pretending to be someone you are not won't get you very far in a relationship.
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Post by Shrubby on Aug 29, 2002 15:04:37 GMT -5
No offense, but all that shiznit about smiling and pretending to have a good time and laughing at everything he says and groping him with your eyes seems fakey and ditzy. Then again, I would fail Flirting School
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dizzyupthegirl
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definition of hot: look at that ^^^
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Post by dizzyupthegirl on Sept 12, 2002 6:45:41 GMT -5
These are the things taht i have gathered from my guys friend.
They like it......
*When a girl whisper sayings on their ears. They think its sexy yet mysterious.
*When a girl have a nice laugh. So dont do it too loud or too high. Just chuckled...lolz.
*When you make him feel like he's the only guy on earth. ( Hey! guys love it when u boost their ego!)
*Touch them, without being too touchy, but still send the message that he exist in your little world. e.g.: a touch of his hand when he said something nice, brush a bit of yourself ( don't over do it!) on him.
* Make him laugh. Guys love girls who have sense of humor.
Well that's it for now.... i'll be back with more! lolz
dizzy!
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Post by canadiana on Nov 2, 2002 21:04:56 GMT -5
I don't like how there are "Do's" and "Don't's" to flirting. I guess do whatever you feel is YOU and at the same time, kind of hint at the guy of your feelings.
But whenever I'm apparently flirting with a guy, I don't have thoughts running through my head like "okay I'll flip my hair...NOW. Oh, he just said something funny I'll laugh and touch him on the arm. No, on the shoulder." or something like that. I'm usually just talking to them, occasionally laughing, just having a good time.
Sure all that eye contact, laughing, smiling is good. But like someone said (was it zonacruz?), just be yourself.
I forgot one thing. While being yourself, BE CONFIDENT.
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Post by canola4life on Jul 28, 2003 21:14:14 GMT -5
imho:
flirting as we know it is bullshit. the basis of a great relationship is a great friendship, and the beginning should be a time of getting to know the person you feel you may be able to share a deeper kind of relationship with. flirting is looking for the kind of guy most of you end up hating. being yourself without a second thought will doubtless keep you wondering where mr. right is for what could be a very long while, but quality is more important than quantity when it comes to guys who'll kiss you.
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Post by Spazmatikal on Jul 29, 2003 0:32:45 GMT -5
^^ that is so incredibly true, and i think people forget one of the root words in this dating situation: boyFRIEND girlFRIEND
they're not only people you date, they're your friends. people you get to know, like to be around...
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Jul 29, 2003 22:58:00 GMT -5
I agree that it's dumb and kind of degrading to purposely try to flirt... However, I do think it's something that happens subconciously. If you're interested in someone, you laugh at what they say, you have a certain look in your eye... If you have to think about it before you flirt, it's really not worth it.
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Aug 2, 2003 21:20:33 GMT -5
I don't really have any input, because I don't really ever flirt. I wear my emotions on my face most of the time. If I like you, you'll probably be able to notice. If I am pissed off, you'll possibly notice, unless I need to be nice given the situation.
However, I got a question ...
I am planning on going on a date to the theater, it's a first date with a girl. I am not sure if she likes me, but how would I go about flirting with her? Would it be a good idea to hold her hand? What the hell is the proper etiquette? Man, I am friggin confused ... And how would I tell if she likes me at that time?
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Post by paradoxPanda on Aug 6, 2003 22:08:42 GMT -5
However, I got a question ...
Well, we all know you don't want my advice. So I'll stick to the simple stuff...be a gentleman. Making eye contact is good. Hold her hand if it seems right and you find a good moment.
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And while I agree that it's an individual thing, and kind of silly to try to flirt on purpose, I respect that some people want a little help, and I don't think that there's anything wrong with learning some of the basics so you have some direction.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Aug 10, 2003 8:58:01 GMT -5
Well, if she agreed to go to a movie with you, then she probably likes you at least a little.
As for the flirting, do what's comfortable, be a gentleman, don't feel like you have to try and kiss and her and all that if you're not feeling it.
Have fun ;D
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SummerSun88
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Gay guys stick out like sore thumbs, thier always the ones that look better than you... :P
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Post by SummerSun88 on Feb 27, 2005 23:05:34 GMT -5
This, Coming from youth and inexpirience may have some doubting the logicality behind it; but I have found that flirting is just a way to show a guy you are interested, and when he knows this, he will want to get to know you. Afterwards, just because you flirt with him doesn't mean you want to run " back to your place" for a tumble in the sheets. I believe you can flirt and keep it on a frienship basis, get to know the person more... and if he doesnt want to be just friends and took your flirting the wrong way, well... what have you lost? not a whole lot. Ofcoarse Im not flirting expert, no doubt I most likely laugh to loud of something of that nature... but I just know what it seems to be that guys like. Im not going to profess to being a " guy interpretor", lord knows... Im the last one on the earth that knows what guys really like... I just know that when I give a guy a shy smile and flirty look, they apreciate it and instantly want to get to know me... sometimes as more than a friend, but also sometimes as a real person, not a " pretty ornament".
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