Older Men just want to...

[x n0ise]

I absolutely HATE this stereotype..

'Never date older guys, they'll just take advantage of you.'

Now, I'm not saying that this can't happen or whatever but still.  Maybe the older person does actually love the younger person.  I find this the most terrible and hurtful stereotype.  Especially since I'm dating someone who's about 3 1/2 years older than myself.

What do you guys think about this?

[LittleGreenDream]

I hate that stereotype! I'm *kinda* with someone who's 4 years older than me. And whenever I tell anyone about him they freak out cause he's 19, and I'm 15. They keep telling me I better watch out for "people like him". They don't even know him, how could they know who "people like him" are and what they're like?? I think guys can date people several year younger than them if they care about them, and I think girls can date guys who are several years younger than them. What does age have to do with the relationship and how the people get along? Yes, there are older guys who take advantage of younger women, but that doesn't mean all older men will.

[LisaRocksYourWorld, yo]

As much as I hate to admit it, a lot of times this stereotype is correct.  However, you seem to have found an exception, which is great, and I wish you all the best of luck with that.  You can find common interests and connect even with your age difference.  

Not always, but a lot of times, the age difference is too much trouble.  The maturity levels prevent them from communicating, and they can't connect on an intellectual level.  So, that's where the "they only want sex" part comes in.  I've seen this happen before.  Older guys or girls look at younger girls or guys as sex objects, and nothing more.  

[Annie]

I don't consider this the worst stereotype out there and to me, it isn't the most hurtful, but admittedly, it isn't one of the best. Situations vary, and some fit the stereotype, some don't. It's usually depends on those involved.

There is a difference between older guys and older men. Chronogically, men are more developed, and therefore likely to be more experienced. Yes, there are horny teenaged guys out there, but usually it's due to the phase, or stage in life, they're going through.

A relationship needs to contain maturity. You cannot have a partner that you don't think is on the same wavelength. Personally, I think as long as both individuals care for and love each other, they don't fit the stereotype.

[Ich Liebe Rammstein]

SO NOT TRUE...atleast not ALL the time.. (as you know,,Spast-y) my b/f turned 18 in Februray and Im Ill be 14 in August......He's soo nice,and he doesnt talk about sex every sec. . He loves me for me also. I do know,that alot of guys though will take advantage of you,considering some of my ex- boyfriends,but not Jay,he's a sweetie




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[LaliciaBebe]

There are some cases where it's not true, but a lot of times it is.  I'm not saying that it's this way for you spastic.fruit, because I know your situation and I don't think it is.  Just, a lot of times the guy will act like a total sweetie to the girl and then talk about how easy she is behind her back and stuff... that's just been my experience.  I don't think it's true in all situations, just in most of the ones at my school.

[x n0ise]

I know that in some cases it may be true.  And I know in some cases it isn't.  But I just really hate this stereotype.  <br>
Okay, so I told my friends that I had a boyfriend.  They are all like 'Oh, cool...so what's his name?  How old is he?' etc, etc.  Well, when I told them his age they all just start flipping out.  They're all like 'Oh he doesn't want you, he's just a perv who's trying to get some.'  I was just like, SHUTTUP!  You don't even know the guy!

It just pisses me off when people 'assume' things...such as my friends 'assuming' that he doesn't really like me for me - he just wants sex.

Ugh, so not true.

[julinka]

Eh... when you're 19-20 you'll understand why people view relationships like this so badly. I mean, I would think there was something seriously screwy about a guy my age dating a 15-year-old. I'm not saying that they're always out for sex, but there's generally something not-okay if they aren't dating someone their age. I think it's more of an issue if there's a major life boundry in addition to an age gap though - as in, it's a bigger deal if he's three and a half years older than you and out of high school when you start dating than if you're both in the same "scene" when the relationship starts.

[RebDoMINe]

Sometimes, not all stereotypes are wrong. This one has been proven time and again to be correct. Not always, of course. Each individual case is definitely different. But oftentimes, this is the truth.

I have heard of men in their 20s with girls 11 years of age. Now if the guy likes her personality, that's one thing, but why the hell would you even court a girl so young. You usually get to know people to that degree later. If you weren't after something else, you probably wouldn't be talking to people so far your junior.

And really, it's very hard to connect with someone with such a different level of maturity and intellect than you. 15 year olds and 25 year olds are vastly different. It doesn't mean it isn't possible, but there's definitely a lesser chance in the compatibility.

That's the basics of how this stereotype works. Now, sometimes it's not true. But if people are lucky enough to prove this wrong, congratulations.

[paradoxPanda]

I think 4, MAYBE 5 years, is as large as an age difference can be without being a little....wrong.

Not saying that older guys just want to get some, but that if they really care about a girl that much younger, they shouldn't date her. Plain and simple.

[pinacolada]

I think that for the most part large age gaps in relationships don't work too well, especially while one of the members of the relationship is in their younger teen years. The older member is used to a lot more physical relations than the younger is, and deeper intellectual and emotional connections. A lot of the time the younger person doesn't realy know what love is either and thinks they are in love and they will do whatever the other person wants. I know that I have an exception, my boyfriend is 4 years older than me, but it does work. It might be partially because we were friends for a long time before we dated, or that I wasn't that young when I started going out with him. I am mature for my age, and he's a tad on the young side for his age, so it all works out. It worked for us.

[starbright]

That's so not true. Ich Liebe Rammstein's boyfriend is 19 and likes her for who she is. That's why he likes her! Not her body.

I, for one, have no boyfriend or girlfriend. I do not wish to have one at this point. I am only 15 and do not feel i should be in a serious relationship at this point in my life. But, if I happened to have one with an older person, I don't think I'd put them into the sterotype and avoid them.

I do not think every older male out there use people like this. Maybe a few, but not many. Some of them are mature enough to have a serious, non- sexual (in this case, not using you type sexual), relationship.