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Post by Spazmatikal on Jun 27, 2002 20:25:57 GMT -5
i hate this. i've been with my boyfriend a year and two months now and no one believes that we abstain from having sex. they believe that since we've been together so long we MUST be having sex. it bugs me because we're both Christians who want to stay virgins until we're married. people have no faith.
have any of you ever run into that?
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Jun 27, 2002 20:42:35 GMT -5
Both me and my boyfriend are Christains too,and *also* believe to stay virgins until marriage. Sex is something you should do with someone that you love and your going to stay with forever.
When I say that,I mean someone that your already with. Not as in 'Someoneyou think your gonna love and you think your gonna be with forever because it doesn't work that way. Sex is special. It's a gift. Just because someone stay with another for a year or even a few months doesn't make sex right. Virginity is a very special thing. Once you lose it it's gone. It's a gift you should share between *marriage* partners.
~~~~~~Heather,(Edward Furlong,Mike Shinoda,Chester Bennington,KidRock & Joe C. LOVER!!!!!! Linkin Park RULES!!!!!!)
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Post by Larigirl on Jun 27, 2002 22:04:11 GMT -5
oh man i HATE that with a passion! my guy and i have been together for 2 and a half years and people always think we're sleeping together, they just kind of assume it. like last week, i told my boss that i couldn't work tuesday night because my boyfreind was taking me to toronto for a surprise (it turned out to be a concert) and my boss automatically assumed i wouldn't be able to work wednesday either because he figured we were staying in a hotel or something. like what's with that? just because we've been together so long doesn't mean we've "been together" that way. grrr.
btw, my bf and I are both Christians and we're waiting until we're married. sex has never even been an option for us... we've never even really discussed it, it's always just been assumed between us that sex is only for marriage.
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Post by julinka on Jul 3, 2002 17:03:48 GMT -5
My roommate freshman year got this a lot. To the best of my knowledge neither she nor her boy were religious, but women in her family didn't seem to take to the pill very well (lots of unintended pregnancies) and she was very adamantly against getting an abortion. They were sleeping together for months on a regular basis without having sex. But damn, if you spend the night at someone's place you must be having sex, right?
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Post by Larigirl on Jul 25, 2002 11:18:55 GMT -5
^ not necessarily.... i've spent the night at my boyfriend's cottage, and we stayed in separate rooms, but if we had wanted to have sex we sure could've.... but the thing is we didn't want to. so no, sleeping over at someone's does not mean you're having sex.
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Post by Ms.Thang_Has-It-All on Aug 11, 2002 1:42:31 GMT -5
If I was with a guy a year and two months, I'd probably would've had sex with him. I don't see a sense in "waiting."
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Post by Cassiopeia on Aug 11, 2002 18:52:27 GMT -5
Larigirl, I think julinka was being sarcastic.
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Post by Shrubby on Aug 15, 2002 18:17:33 GMT -5
^^I think so too. Yeah, well, sex is so common these days that often people assume EVERYONE'S having it, and you're no exception! I think they should show some respect to your beliefs and not mention it in general   |
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Post by 1.gurl.revolution on Aug 17, 2002 11:10:34 GMT -5
i had a bf who i went out with a total of 6 months. we didn't even have 1 kiss in that whole relationship and one night he asked me if i wanted to do it. i told him no cuz i knew that we couldn't go from bff's to "marrage" in a half a year. but he didn't understand that so he dumped me a little bit later. i want my first time to be special. i personally think that it's sad that today's teens are "expected" to have sex on thier first date. it's very sad that society is forcing us to grow up too early.  |
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Post by Audrey on Nov 22, 2002 17:25:12 GMT -5
Well, I've never had a boyfriend, so, I haven't been there obviously. But, you're right, it's no fair.
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Post by angelprincess <3 on Nov 22, 2002 18:11:42 GMT -5
I hate this so much too...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, we even live together, and have had sex once (and it was oral...which I still consider sex even though most don't). We even sleep together, and the most we'll do is make out.
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Post by paradoxPanda on May 4, 2003 8:31:35 GMT -5
I'm 14....and not having sex with my bf unless we're together for 4 years straight.
I will not have sex before 18, and not unless it's a guy I trust completely.
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Post by pinacolada on May 4, 2003 16:55:46 GMT -5
A lot of the time in relationships involving people around my age this stereotype is true. In fact I don't know any situations where it isn't..
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