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Post by thevoicewithin on May 7, 2002 10:53:59 GMT -5
since everyone feels like there not how they should be at times, this thread is for gaining confidence, which is the trick to self-esteem. u all can give tips, stories etc. about how ur confidence has gotten a boost!!  stay positive! ~*darling*~ |
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Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on May 15, 2002 16:42:53 GMT -5
C8)8)L, I never would have thought of (something like) that. But I don't have anything yet,so hopefully more ppl will come on here,lolZ ~~~~~~Heather,(Edward Furlong,Mike Shinoda,Chester Bennington,KidRock & Joe C. LOVER!!!!!! Linkin Park RULES!!!!!! |
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Post by Semi-Charmed.Life on Jun 1, 2002 23:46:07 GMT -5
You know, I used to be the most unconfident person out there but believe it or not, the 'net has made me a much more confident person. At first I found it was easier to express my opinion only on the 'net but as I started to post on different message boards, my confidence grew. Now, I'm a very confident person and I am able to voice my opinion without feeling shy at all.
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Jun 1, 2002 23:55:00 GMT -5
I used to be shy. I only had a couple close friends, and I didn't fit in that well. During the beginning/middle of middle school, I gained so much confidence. As shallow as it sounds, I think it started with me improving my appearance. I started picking out my own clothes (compared to the ugly stuff my mother picked out--ugh!), I lightened my hair (back to its original color now, but it was cool), I got contact lenses, and I started wearing makeup. Once I felt better on the outside, I felt like I had more confidence to talk to people and be myself.
Now, I'm loud, I'm outgoing, I have lots of close friends... I'm pretty content with it all. I think it partly came with maturity, too.
I think the biggest secret is to be yourself. People think they will feel better about themselves if they fit in, and they try to do so by being someone they're not. If you want to listen to Polka music and wear giant chicken costumes every day--- do it! I'm not like anyone else... That's what I love about myself! I don't listen to the same music as everyone else, I use stupid words and phrases, I scream things out at random moments, I'll run down the street and dance! I'm me, and that definately gives me confidence.
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Post by thevoicewithin on Jun 5, 2002 11:10:53 GMT -5
hey lisa and untangle.my.soul-- thats great!! |
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Jun 5, 2002 20:15:34 GMT -5
^^Very well put, Lisa. I totally agree; being yourself is really a confidence booster because you have no inhibitions and you're not holding back, so you feel less pressured and stressful about fitting in. Of course, sometimes it's really hard figuring out who you are, but it happens eventually. Well I don't have much of a story, but I was pretty shy all through middle school, and then like 2 years ago, I kind of got like a big confidence boost. I don't know why, I guess I just realized that I had people,friends, that cared about me, and they gave me confidence in myself partly. Each year I think I get more confident as I realize how you hafta just be who you are. Who knows? Next year I may be so outgoing that I can just walk up to a guy and tell him he's cute. LoL. Just a possibility. 
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Post by dream10 on Jun 10, 2002 17:58:09 GMT -5
Yep that's great Lisa. I think only recently have I begun to gain real confidence. I'm just getting comftable with myself. It's great though.  |
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Post by KattyKatie on Jun 30, 2002 8:51:11 GMT -5
You know people always zone in on their faults when they look in the mirror. Seriously, I'll bet that even Britney Spears does it. I think that it's better to accept a compliment than to be like "Oh, well thats not true, I am SOO ugly". People don't usually give compliments for no reason so feel good about yourself and accept them with grace and pride and you'll see that you'll get more and more.
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Post by violet_rose on Jul 1, 2002 22:46:07 GMT -5
Lisa what you said was amazing and very true, being yourself is the best thing!.
Katherine what you also said was very true I think alot of people should accept who they are no matter what anyone says!.
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Post by funkygirlk16 on Sept 24, 2002 19:33:04 GMT -5
Message boards have made me alot more confident. Act in the real world as you would Cloud Nine. Except for the "girls marrying girls" and the "playful humping." lolZ... ok i prob just made a fool of myself.  |
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Post by Gabster on Oct 14, 2002 15:05:37 GMT -5
Like Lisa said, I feel the most confident when I look good. Now, I'm not saying pile on 45 pounds of make-up, skip meals, and obsess about your hair 24/7. Still, I feel the best when I eat right, take care of my skin, and work out. I just feel more healthy and attractive, and therefore, more confident.
Also, don't try to become a totally different person to be more confident. If you're naturally quiet, don't try to force yourself to be a loud, outgoing person for the sake of "having confidence". It's *great* to overcome shyness, but don't change who you are. You may have confidence, but it won't be in yourself - it'll be in the person you're acting like.
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Post by Beautiful.Disaster on Oct 23, 2002 22:26:48 GMT -5
I used to have pretty low self esteem and confidence. But then I started dressing better, taking better care of myself, etc. Now I have loads of self esteem. sure, I have my days where I think I look bad, but so does everyone. Last year is when I really found myself. I am now and outgoing, loud, obnoxious person who makes a fool of herself...and I'm an individual. Once I wore a piece of red duct tape on my leg to school...i got lots of weird looks, but I love being an individual. I wore a nametag that said 'Hello my name is Clifford Church' on it to school...I tend to do things like that. I will scream out things randomely, and do and say really stupid things. I love myself, and my inward confidence has given me more self esteem, which shows and then more ppl like me, which gives me more. I'm not a pompus chick with a huge ego or anything, but I'm happy to say I know who I am, I have self confidence and self-esteem. try to find yourelf. like someone said above, it will happen eventually. Also, don't change yourself. I tried that and it didn't get me anywhere. It may sound cliched, but its true. good luck |
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Post by canadiana on Nov 6, 2002 22:06:53 GMT -5
The key to confidence is loving yourself and feeling comfortable in your own skin.
But like some other people have said, I also feel more confident when I look good. When I know I look good (as conceited as that sounds), I carry myself differently. It sounds so shallow because it's only appearance, but it really does make a difference. When I feel tired or gross or just plain blah, I don't feel confident. Although I might look okay, I just don't carry myself the way I do when I feel good about myself.
I used to have confidence problems too. I didn't think there was anything good about me ... and I complained as a way for people to say, "Oh no, you're not ugly!" or "You're not a bitch; you're sooooo nice!" to TEMPORARILY build up my confidence. Temporarily being the key word. The so-called confidence from that didn't last very long.
I finally developed some confidence after I went to this camp. During the two weeks I spent there, I felt appreciated and LIKED just for the way I was ... by not only girls, but guys as well. To tell you the truth, getting guys' attention was a big confidence boost for me because it was something that never happened before. And it was just like a new thing, like "Wow they actually see something in me!". I know it seems horrible to sort of rely on guys to gain confidence... but that's how it kinda happened for me.
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Post by Audrey on Nov 11, 2002 12:22:44 GMT -5
I live in Nashville, Tennessee, so I go to a very large school. It's hard to be noticed if you cower around in a corner somwhere and don't speak out. I used to be like that and it's no fun at all. Trust me. I finally got sick of it in 6th grade, so I took 30 dollars to the local mall and bought some lip gloss, concelear, eye shadow, a bottle of blond hair dye, a bottle of blond hair dye, and started working out. Once I dropped about 10 pounds I was really confident. I'm noticed more now to an extint and I actually have friends even though I did'nt. I really didn't have a social life at all. I know that sounds really shallow, but I'm just so much happier with the overflowing confidence that I have now. But, I didn't change who I was inside except I feel now that I'm worth being heard.
Audrey
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Post by ThaIceLady on Dec 24, 2002 9:19:11 GMT -5
The key to confidence is loving yourself and feeling comfortable in your own skin. But like some other people have said, I also feel more confident when I look good. When I know I look good (as conceited as that sounds), I carry myself differently. It sounds so shallow because it's only appearance, but it really does make a difference. When I feel tired or gross or just plain blah, I don't feel confident. Although I might look okay, I just don't carry myself the way I do when I feel good about myself. I feel like that sometimes also! I think that's completely normal.. |
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