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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 30, 2003 20:07:14 GMT -5
But believe me, when a girl wants it  there's no way to get her off of u! Ahahaha so true! Girls are like that too! |
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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 30, 2003 20:09:59 GMT -5
I mean hey we're all in a for bit of a kiss and a cuddle but as for more than that unless I really like the person, and I been going out with her for long enough for her to want the same, i wouldnt even ask. And most of my friends are the same i reckon. We all luv flirting get kissy-cuddly at parties with girls we fancy but we're still looking.  |
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on May 1, 2003 13:20:59 GMT -5
The thing is LMS... How do i know whether the girl is right for me or not until i get to know her better? The only girls i know well enough become my friends. There is that trouble with turning friends into anything more because that neer seems to be riskfree. But then u are right. I do have issues. Subconsiously, I think i am afraid of serious relationships coz the pain of it not working is massive. Its like I want a relationship but I dont want one at the same time. Righty SLB. First, I reckon that for a relationship you have to totally gel. You have to be able to say exactly what's on your mind, and say anything you like, without worrying they're gonna thing you're weird. No inhibitions. And I've found that with D, and have realised that every other relationship I've had has been worthless. Yeah, you have to know them well, but if you totally gel, you'll know that whether you've known them ten years or ten minutes... and so entering a relationship isn't a bad idea. Relationships involve risks, and we learn through them all. Don't be afraid. Step out, take risks. You want one, but don't. Then just let things come. One day something will come which feels right, and you'll want it. Someone mentioned the cliche earlier, and I reckon it's true, something comes when you don't want or need it, and it's then that you realise you're ready for it. |
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Post by strangelilboi on May 3, 2003 18:09:25 GMT -5
Firstly lets reply LilMS, Well i dont really know wot to say to ur last reply. Relationships are about taking risks. Relationship are abt being true to urself and showing ur real self to the person ure with. But what if that doesnt work? Its been 3 years since i've even had a girl remotely interested in me. Its like when i pretend to be not like me, they have more interest in me than when i open up. But thats how it is. The world is no fairy tale. Its a contest. Survival of the fittest remember. The best looking, the most interesting and intelligent. And the most socially adept people are the ones who survive in this world. And continue the species. People like me are just doomed to failure. Personally I'm still holding on to that theory that it when happen when it will happen. I like to hold on to that idea. Its nice and even tho i'm a bloke, we all like to belive in a whole fairy tale scenario but chances are... I believe that God has ways of doing things that are difficult as leat for man to understand. And everything that happens in my life has a reason. And so far that makes sense. And therefore, the reason is that I'm not ready. Thing is again that its not the actual being in a relationship necessarily that i want. Its the being wanted...the being yknow something that someone would acutally want. What do u think? Btw I just love the way u over-use the word 'gel' and the strange coincidence that D's hair has far too much gel in it. lol. Thai-Ice_Laydee... Yeah its the being wanted and being cuddled and all tht i suppose that we're all looking for. Yeah i understand what u meant abt the rumours. God, its hard to live with things like that. I suppose thats how high skool and stuff is. There's especially where it can be harder being a girl... Take care u lot and yeah reply...always interested - me.  |
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on May 4, 2003 8:33:47 GMT -5
Btw I just love the way u over-use the word 'gel' and the strange coincidence that D's hair has far too much gel in it. lol.
Please refrain from making personal comments... lol. Kinda true, but you ain't seen him for like, 3 months or something...
Relationships are about taking risks. Relationship are abt being true to urself and showing ur real self to the person ure with. But what if that doesnt work?
If that doesn't work... then stuff the person you're trying to be in a relationship with! I'm serious. The worst thing you can do is believe no one's out there for you. Let's look at this, right, people only marry one person... that's one person who they choose to spend the rest of their life with. Now, I'm not saying you're going to marry the next person you're with but what I am saying is that you're not necessarily going to find a perfect person for you in the social circle you're in at the moment. How many of your friends are with someone who's totally perfect for them? Or, let's look at it, how many people are actually with anyone at all? Most of my friends are single, and have been for ages. And I know most of your friends, so I'll answer for you: most people are single. Yeah there are some people who are lucky to find someone wonderful at this age, but not many. You're not the only one who can't find the person who truly accepts you for you. And as you've said, you find that girls seem to like the image you make of yourself, which isn't you. Well if that's the case, then you're not right for each other. Don't settle for anything less. Take the risks when you're with someone who you truly gel with (yes, I used the word again, without meaning reference to D's hair...lol). And that person... well maybe they're not around at the moment, but how many times do I have to say... you're at university next year! Lots more girls, lots more people. And even then, many come out of university still searching. Don't take it personally. It's not you thats the problem, it's just the way things are.
People like me are just doomed to failure.
You say that so much you're starting to believe it. Stop saying it, as it's not true.
I know what you're feeling, but I've tried my best to explain a little of what I think, hope it makes sense.
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Post by strangelilboi on May 18, 2003 11:52:46 GMT -5
Yeah I understand what you mean LMS.
Its just anxiety and hormones. Its almost like someones doing voodoo on me.
Either way, the problem with me myself is probly a outright subconcious fear of relationships. I mean hell is not even subconcious sometimes. I jsut sort of run away from the girls that like me.
The only ones i get close to are the ones i think nothing will ever happen between us. Bu the problem is that sometimes, i tend to start liking them later. Strange?
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Post by ThaIceLady on May 18, 2003 20:49:28 GMT -5
I jsut sort of run away from the girls that like me.
You just gotta "fall into the moment" hehe a favorite quote of mine. |
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on May 19, 2003 2:58:04 GMT -5
I reckon... that when you meet someone that it's actually worth being with, you won't run away from them!
And if you don't completely "gel" then what's the point in being with them?
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Post by strangelilboi on May 24, 2003 16:03:41 GMT -5
The problem with gelling and compatibilty, people, is that you dont know if its there until you gone out and tasted it. I mean its takes a step towards a relationship to know things like that. Its like having to be able to have ur cake and taste it at the same time to make sure u want to eat it!  Either way....girl sed she really facnies me. I sed yes.  |
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Post by ThaIceLady on May 24, 2003 19:35:47 GMT -5
Awww,so what's with the sad face? hehe
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Post by strangelilboi on May 25, 2003 4:48:39 GMT -5
Not sad IceLady... just undecided. I'm just feeling strange about the whole thing and the way it came about.
She sent me these text messages (sms) and i knew she kind of liked my at least. I've known for a while. But she came out and said it explicitly. Anyways, I think she's nice and stuff and i sed yeah lets go for it.
But i keep thinking about the exams i got soon and that its distracting. And i'm like anxious about everything and very distant and I dont like leaving skool - all my friends...
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Post by strangelilboi on May 27, 2003 18:46:01 GMT -5
...and on the first date, she decides (half way thru!) that we should just be friends... hmmm k.
Dont you jsut love life?!
I'm happy to be single because i was awkward about being in a relationship. But i dont like my time and effort being just such a waste...
Still hopefully it all happened as Gods plan or summing and better earlier than never i spose.
Dont tell ppl, Lou pls...cause its not common knowledge. Oh.. i am gutted never the less. Need to rest my head.
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on May 29, 2003 11:14:24 GMT -5
She already told me, btw, SLB...
Look, don't worry. From our conv on Sunday, you could see it was... pretty much "doomed" anyway, with regards to your feelings.
As I've always said, give it time. There IS someone.
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Post by strangelilboi on May 29, 2003 12:51:38 GMT -5
Least I dont have to manage my time anymo!  lol erm anyways yeah it jsut didnt pan out and i dunno... I suppose it might have been doomed for a number of factors. But LMs, did i not tell you that she might not like me for who i am, and only liked me for she thought i was? I hope it was you that i told, but either way it makes sense. I dont ...I'm sick of trying now. I'm sick of waiting. Its not even like i didnt make the effort. Doesnt really help that i had a lovely childhood as well i suppose. |
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on May 31, 2003 6:05:06 GMT -5
Yeah, it was me you told.
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there's no way to get her off of u!
lol erm anyways yeah it jsut didnt pan out and i dunno...