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Post by strangelilboi on Mar 24, 2003 16:27:25 GMT -5
Argh........'the best years of my life' but whats wrong with my life?!
I'm not boring. I do millions of things. I got loadsa friends...erm i think..lol.
I write poetry, luv all sorts of topics of discussion inc the most obscure to the most relevant, love soccer, rock....play drums.
I listen to every kid of music. In tune with movies...not bad in skool. Pretty decent looking i think. I do karate as well.
BUT i been single for 3 and a half years. I cant seem to get the girls i like and not many are genuinely interested...actualy very few..
Ppl keep saying it will happen, but when?
HELP
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Post by 80s Child on Mar 24, 2003 19:19:04 GMT -5
^^Heh, you sound like my type. Too bad you don't live here... (and no, I'm not trying to pick you up, this is just a comment).
But in all seriousness, I'm 19, and have been single for YEARS. Don't give up. The right girl will come along one day, and when she does, it will be special. In the meantime, as you wait, you grow more mature, and know more what you want out of a relationship.
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Post by strangelilboi on Mar 27, 2003 14:26:42 GMT -5
aww.....gosh darn it..... i was just ..so so close...
yeah i spose it will happen....bt sometimes u wonder...
Hmmm....
Are there any other people with the same kkinda trouble..?
please drop ur thoughts and troubles into this thread...
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Post by ThaIceLady on Mar 30, 2003 12:10:06 GMT -5
^aww if it makes you feel better, I'm 17 and haven't had a boyfriend yet ;D (I wanna wait till I'm out of my parents house lol)
Maybe you can ask your friends to fix you up with someone! That's all that I can think of for now, other than to don't give up and have confidence in yourself. If I think of anything I'll be back! Good luck
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on Apr 23, 2003 8:46:11 GMT -5
SLB, let me tell you something straight: The girls around you, or the girls you're looking for, or at, do not work with your character, and so in a sense aren't worth your effort. You're looking in the wrong places, or at the unreachable people (and that's saying nothing bad about you, just looking realistically at the situation). As I've said to you millions of times before, you're at uni next year! Thousands more varied and interesting girls at your grasp, and a chance to make a new start getting rid of the reputations or whatever that you might have created for yourself at the moment. Be more positive. Besides, relationships just create hassle... you know that, I know that. Sort yourself out... your mind and soul... before searching for a girl.
Whatever. I'm muddled.
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Post by strangelilboi on Apr 26, 2003 15:34:27 GMT -5
The thing is LMS...
How do i know whether the girl is right for me or not until i get to know her better? The only girls i know well enough become my friends. There is that trouble with turning friends into anything more because that neer seems to be riskfree.
Therefore, my friends want to just be my friends. Other girls that i dont connect with in the way u mention just dont see me as worth even talking mo than abt the weather.
But then u are right. I do have issues. Subconsiously, I think i am afraid of serious relationships coz the pain of it not working is massive.
Its like I want a relationship but I dont want one at the same time. Comments?
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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 26, 2003 20:17:13 GMT -5
Its like I want a relationship but I dont want one at the same time. Comments? I've felt that way...in a way I still feel that way. Like I really do want to have someone that I can hug, share time with, hang out with, and etc. but then other times I think, "ehh most guys in my school our immature etc" lol. |
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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 26, 2003 20:20:32 GMT -5
Subconsiously, I think i am afraid of serious relationships coz the pain of it not working is massive.  |
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Post by strangelilboi on Apr 27, 2003 14:54:04 GMT -5
Thing is yeah Thai_Ice_Laydeeeeeee... I had this relationship where I got too into her too fast. Plus she didnt help in that she thought too far ahead. Far ahead to she started on kids names - i mean wot  On top of everything, my mumsie didnt like her one bit and she have me major hassle for being with her. And I loved and I was torn between my mum and her. I didnt know what to do. All i ever really wanted was a normal relationship. But she just went too far too fast for me. And now it jsut scares me in a way. I'd like depend on someone ....and have someone as u say to hang with to cuddle up to and spend time with but if they's going to turn my life into a living hell, I dont know. I want to and I dont at the same time. Btw that girl near ur signature is droolsome  I'm sure u are as well.... |
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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 27, 2003 21:30:39 GMT -5
Well, now I see why you are sort of iffy on whether you want a relationship or not. Lol. Geesh, she really was into you huh? lol.
Maybe the best thing to do is to just sit back and relax until you are sure on what you want. And I'll do the same.
Thanks for the comment on my sig. 
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Post by strangelilboi on Apr 28, 2003 11:26:23 GMT -5
I'd personally have settled for her not being into me! God, she was on my case 24/7... i couldnt breathe. I mean whats with that... its just a relationship - she int my siamese twin! She's still in my life btw; I'm still scared of her coz she's well obsessed with sex this girl. She's got drunk recently and come on to me strong even though she's got a bloke, but she 'remembers nothing' later. And though I try...hmm she's still obsessive abt me in a way. Persoanlly I think she embodies all my bad luck. I know its cruel to say things like that but ...it seems like that. Hey why shud u be wary of relaitonships....? I mean as long as they work decently, why not? Besides u cant hide ur droolsome self away from ppl for ever... At least it'd cost a fortune in paper bags!  Btw I'd like other people to randomly talk abt their relationship trouble here too. I int very interesting .. honest |
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Post by pinacolada on Apr 28, 2003 14:10:31 GMT -5
Ok this is probably the same advice that you hear from everyone, but honestly a great girl will come along when you least expect her. I was like you for such a long time, never getting any guys, I dated guys but I hadn't had a real boyfriend for 2 years, and then I got together with my boyfriend. From my experiences, all of my boyfriends and guys that I've dealt with have been people I would least expect, it's funny the way relationships and love work.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 28, 2003 20:51:36 GMT -5
Lol that was funny explaining about your ex still being attached. Kinda weird that she is still attached to you even when she has a boyfriend now. Good luck with that! lol
As for me not wanting to be in a relationship right now, I don't know..just haven't met anyone worth taking it to the next level. Ugh, most guys at my school are immature and are only after one thing..not all but most. Believe me I know. Lol.
Hey Pinacolada, I like your screen name (I looove pina colada. And welcome to the boards girl!
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Post by strangelilboi on Apr 30, 2003 14:41:45 GMT -5
Yeah a lot of people around this age are after that one thing! I mean a lot of people, especially parents, assume that its just blokes that are so hormonal. But believe me, when a girl wants it  there's no way to get her off of u! Its the strangest thing that happening brrr.....  I suppose its just that we're all hormonally charged. But then even though we like to look at pretty girls and just dream and drool , we dont even think 'we must get around to doing them sometime'. Anyways thats how it works with the people I know. I mean hey we're all in a for bit of a kiss and a cuddle but as for more than that unless I really like the person, and I been going out with her for long enough for her to want the same, i wouldnt even ask. And most of my friends are the same i reckon. We all luv flirting get kissy-cuddly at parties with girls we fancy but we're still looking. Boys over there cant be that bad, can they? And that immature? Hey pinacolada!!! ;D i get what u mena abt it happening when u least expect it. But i dunno, no girl i've liked has given me even a second glance. Its been like 3 years and not a single date even. Btw that name reminds of the song pinacolada...but then i've never ever had one. I just know its a drink... |
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Post by ThaIceLady on Apr 30, 2003 20:04:29 GMT -5
Some reasons why I don't feel like getting into a relationship right now are that guys talk. "Ohh yea, she let me hit it" or "yea we did this ...." you know? I know I couldn't deal with rumors flying around and all that.
Also, this one guy I knew last year..we were talking on the phone about going out blah blah, and he was talking about how many girlfriends he's slept with and then he said casually, "Yeah, can't wait till we do it" I was like "whaaat noo that is NOT gonna happen" and he said "what? why not?" So yea I instantly lost respect for him.
Also, I don't think most guys in highschool are really interested in a serious relationship. They just wanna play around. so there's my reasons. I'm not saying all guys are like that.
But yea, I also wanna wait til' I move out, because my mom doesn't would be all in my business, and she would sorta look down on me because she feels I should be focusing on my schoolwork instead of boys right now.
Another reason
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I'm sure u are as well....
there's no way to get her off of u!