|
|
Post by cutecowgirl on Jan 6, 2003 16:45:18 GMT -5
HEy guys, Heres the deal. I have this friend who is a guy. And hes like a brother to me. I have a major crush on him. One more trhing hes older than me. Please Help me  CowgirlUp |
|
|
|
Post by iNsAnE.cAnAdIaN on Jan 31, 2003 0:18:02 GMT -5
Cutecowgirl, I have been in this situation too, so Iknow what you are feeing..you are hoping you two could become more than friends but you're not sure if you should risk the friendship by telling him. Since I know nothing of your relationship or either of you it is pretty hard to give good advice. However, this is what I would suggest: analyse the situation. If the friendship between you is really strong, then you should be able to tell him that you want to be more than friends, and whether the feeling is mutual or not you should be able to stay friends. Also, wait a little while to make sure you are not just having a little crush. If you end up telling him and then finding out you really only liked him for a litte while, you, him or both ofyou could get hurt. Life is basically all a gamble. Each decision you make effects something else, so what you have to ask yourself is if youre "willing to risk the chips". I hope I helped, and good luck! Please tell me how it turns out.  insane |
|
|
|
Post by Ich Liebe Rammstein on Feb 1, 2003 12:54:18 GMT -5
Well, what exactly do you need help with??
The guy I've been talking to for a year is 18 and we've only met once and we're in love. . .
And another guy that likes me and that I am friends with is also 18. And I'm 14.
yeah, I just go by the song... "Age Ain't Nothin' But A Number".. but that's just me......
But, if he's like a brother to you, why risk the chance of going out wwith him and probably getting dumped or something?? Why would you risk a friendship like that?? Unless, ya'know, you both like each other, I guess it wouldn't hurt...... *shrugs*
|
|
|
|
Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on Feb 20, 2003 12:13:45 GMT -5
I think it's worth working out how serious this crush is, because crushes can seriously ruin a friendship, and crushes tend to just pass you by like *this*. OK, so maybe they last a year, but friendships - especially if they're like a brother to you - last much longer. Then again, I'm with my boyfriend, we risked our amazing friendship by saying we liked each other, and it's just got better. But I doubt that helps, um... yeah. How much older is he?
|
|
|
|
Post by Stepharoola on Feb 20, 2003 19:00:38 GMT -5
Ask yourself these three questions?
(1) Do I Think It Will Last More Than A Wk.?
(2) Is it worth risking a friendship?
(3) Is he worth the risk?
If you say yes to all three ?'s, I say go for it! Good Luck!!!
God Bless,
Steph
|
|
|
|
Post by Michaelangelo on Mar 20, 2003 20:14:00 GMT -5
I went through the same thing earlier this year (well, the end of 2002). I hate to be a downer, but it's so, so, SO hard if it's not mutual. Be careful, I don't want you to get hurt! I'm lucky in that my friendship survived (although, to tell you the truth, it was a long hard fight to keep this damn friendship afloat). Think long and hard about whether you'd rather have a secure friendship, or a possible relationship.
Actually, screw that. I sound like a grandmother! That's the safe route. What I do is always follow my heart. I'd rather be hurt now than look back and think, What if?
Best of luck to ya, babe.
~Mike
|
|
|
|
Post by strangelilboi on May 31, 2003 14:57:55 GMT -5
Some of the best and most successful relationships happen between friends.
But you have to ask yourself, if the need for him as more than a friend outweighs the value of the friendship.
|
|
insane 
