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Post by CurlyQ_Gal on Jun 29, 2002 19:19:08 GMT -5
I would. And I have. It's no big deal.
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Jun 29, 2002 21:51:50 GMT -5
My parents aren't really racist, but they're prejudice enough to the point where they didn't want me dating anyone in a different race. As much as I hate to admit it, they were starting to push their views on me... It was just what I had grown up with and experienced with my parents, and grandparents, and my entire family.
That's changed though. Ever since I got to know and like this Middle Eastern guy I go to school with, I've realized that race doesn't play a part in love at all... As someone said before, love has no color. (That statement really got me thinking, thanks)
I think my parents have started to change, too... My mom must have noticed that I talked about this guy a lot, so one day she just said to me "You know, you can love whoever you want. As long as they treat you well and make you happy, it doesn't matter what color they are." I'm not sure what gave my mother this epiphany, but it really made my day. I was always pretty ashamed of my parents' views, and knowing that they're changing, and bringing modern opinions into their head, it made me really happy.
Yes, that's my inspirational story. Enjoy.
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Post by bright_angel on Jul 1, 2002 20:22:52 GMT -5
Thats a good story i think ur mum realised that it is ok to fall in love with a different race. I dont care really you are right colour is not love...no matter who u love as long as you love them nothing matters
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Post by methyline on Jul 12, 2002 7:09:23 GMT -5
I already do. My girlfriend is half Bangladeshi and half Irish. I have also dated a couple of black girls since moving to London from Scotland. Women are women regardless of race/colour
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Post by Ms.Thang_Has-It-All on Jul 12, 2002 16:00:22 GMT -5
I'd definetly DATE someone outside my race. I have before, and probably will again. But I don't really want to MARRY NEone, or have kids with anyone from another race.
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Post by NaruNarusegawa on Jul 13, 2002 20:36:22 GMT -5
ms.thang, how come you'd date someone from a different race, but not marry them or have kids with them? I'm just curious.
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Post by Ms.Thang_Has-It-All on Jul 15, 2002 0:49:42 GMT -5
I just want my kids the same race as me.
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Post by busybodies on Jul 15, 2002 5:09:39 GMT -5
^^ Even if you really loved your husband/boyfriend? I wouldn't mind my kids being a different race. Love has no colour and if I love my husband I have no doubt I will love my kids too.
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Post by diamond.in.the.rough on Jul 19, 2002 20:04:33 GMT -5
Sure I would. In fact I have a black guy named Elvis who's kind of expressing an interest in me. As of right now I don't know if anything is going to happen between us but it has nothing to do whether he is black or not.
My dad, who works with Elvis, doesn't like him. Now I know my dad's not racist or anything but I wonder if he would disapprove if I dated him.
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Post by EtErNaLfLaMe on Jul 27, 2002 12:50:43 GMT -5
Ms.Thang... I am totally with you. I would date someone of an outside race, but I wouldn't marry and have kids with them. To answer your question... I wouldn't want kids with mixed races. Why? Because... my cousin is half black, half white. he is only seven years old, and already, he has a hard time with things. Teased and discriminated against. i love himm with all my heart and I would never ever EVER want to put my own kids through that. That's why. I am anything but racist. I just don't want my kids to be discriminated against because they are not all of a certain color/race. Now do you understand?!
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Post by It's~A~Nova on Jul 29, 2002 22:33:51 GMT -5
^That just seems to me like letting prejudice people win. I can understand where you're coming from but...geez.
I've already dated someone outside my race and wouldn't be against doing it again. And, if I loved them enough, I'd marry and have kids with someone of a different race. Love has no colors whether you're black, white, yellow, red, etc. or a little bit of each.
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Post by EtErNaLfLaMe on Jul 30, 2002 23:04:03 GMT -5
I'm not saying that i wouldn't date and fall in love with someone of a different race, I just wouldn't wan't kids of two different races because of all the hatred that would be brought to them. I just wouldn't want my kids to go through that. As for "letting the prejudice people win", well there are always going to be predudice people out there not matter what we do, therefore... I don't think that anything would change if I had kids or not.
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Post by ThaIceLady on Jul 31, 2002 21:22:45 GMT -5
I know I'm getting off topic, cause this is about dating someone outside your race....but I'm a mixed child and I was never confused about who I was or whatever. But I guess it depends on the race??
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Post by dubiety on Jul 31, 2002 22:06:46 GMT -5
i would definitely date/love somebody outside of my race. i have before, and i am the product of a multiracial marriage. i have felt slightly uncomfortable being biracial before, but i have accepted it. its a part of who i am.
i am a different race than my father, and i look nothing like him. whenever i am alone out in public with my dad, people will kind of have a double take. sometimes they have this really weird look on their face, as if they've never seen anything quite like my father and me before. and i admit, it is a rather weird sight: a dark asian girl, with a caucasian middle aged man. i never really thought that it looked "different" before, until people started brining it to my attention with questions like, "are you adopted?" "is that your stepfather?" (mind you, these were people who i barely associated with)
i suppose you have to learn how to all take it in stride. it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks of you, or your family, your children, or your spouse. all that matters, is what you think. love is love, and nobody can really get in the way of that.
to those girls who would only date, but (god forbid) never marry a person outside of their race, can i ask you something: if you love somebody, are you REALLY going to let a thing like race get in the way of that?
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Post by ThaIceLady on Aug 1, 2002 11:04:52 GMT -5
to those girls who would only date, but (god forbid) never marry a person outside of their race, can i ask you something: if you love somebody, are you REALLY going to let a thing like race get in the way of that? Word. I know you are worried that your kids will be discriminated against and will have a hard time, but you can teach them to be proud of themselves. Being biracial is a beautiful thing!
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