vbkimber07
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 27, 2002 22:03:08 GMT -5
Toxic-- (now I'm giving you advice, hehe!) Hint at the gal you like about a relationship. Girls typically pick up on hints. If she seems okay with it, then go ahead. Sometimes not persuing a relationship when the opportunity presents itself can screw up a friendship too.
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Mar 27, 2002 22:26:38 GMT -5
It's a tough subject. I'm stuck there myself, in the opposite position, though.
Since you know her well, you might have had heart-to-heart conversations with her. Has she ever objected to relationships between friends? Has she ever specified what she looks for in a guy? If you seem to be her "type"-- go for it!
Chances are, if a relationship does happen, it wouldn't ruin the friendship. Of course, you would have to keep up your end of the deal. Most of the time, it is the man who feels awkward and withdrawn. Chances are, you aren't like that. And if she's an open-minded, caring, and forgiving girl, things would turn out okay in the end, whether she accepted or declined your offer.
Any questions?
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Post by x n0ise on Mar 29, 2002 20:56:57 GMT -5
Good job Lisa. Well said! I couldn't have said it better myself! ;D
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Post by excessive_energy2 on Apr 15, 2002 17:19:26 GMT -5
I would go with the hints, just sounds safe, or the talk, you know where you set her down and ask her if a realtionship would ruin your friendship when the realtionship was over, confused?Its cool,I confuse myself.
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Post by Toxic-Avenger on Apr 29, 2002 12:44:37 GMT -5
Thanks guys, I'll keep those in mind.
What do y'all think of these tips?
Woman's Dictionary Tips for Men:
1. "Fine" ~ This is the word women used at the end of any argument when they feel they are right but can't stand to hear you argue any longer. It means that you should shut up. (NEVER use "fine" to describe how she looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.)
2. "Five minutes" ~ This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so women feel that it's an even trade.
3. "Nothing" ~ "Nothing" means something and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with the word "Fine."
4. "Go Ahead" (with raised eyebrows) ~ This is NOT permission; it's a dare! If you mistake it for permission, the result will be the woman will get upset over "Nothing" and you'll have "five-minute" discussion that will end with the word "Fine."
5. "Go Ahead" (normal eyebrows) ~ This is NOT permission, either. It means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care." You ill get a raised eyebrow "Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.
6. "Loud Sigh" ~ This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement. Very frequently isunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are a complete idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing!."
7. "Soft Sigh" ~ Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" are one of the few things that some men actually understand. It means she is momentarily content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe in the hope that the moment will last a bit longer.
8. "Oh" ~ This word-followed by any statement-is trouble. Example: "Oh, let me get that." Or, "Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night." If she says "Oh" before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. She will tell you that she is "Fine" when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least two days.
"Oh" as the lead to a sentence usually signifies that you are caught in a lie. Do not try to lie more to get out of it, or you will get a raised eyebrow."Go ahead," is sometimes followed by acts so unspeakable that I can't bring myself to write about them.
9. "That's Okay" ~ This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding what the penalty will be for whatever you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a raised eyebrow "Go Ahead." Once she has had time to plan it out, you are in for some mighty big trouble.
10. "Please Do" ~ This is not a statement, it is an offer. The woman is giving you the chance to come up with an excuse for what you have done. In other words, a chance to get yourself into even more trouble. If you handle this correctly, you shouldn't get a "That's Okay."
11. "Thanks" ~ The woman is thanking you. Don't faint and don't look for hidden meaning. Just say "you're welcome."
12. "Thanks A Lot" ~ "Thanks A Lot" is dramatically different from "Thanks." A woman will say "Thanks A Lot" when she is REALLY ticked off at you. It is usually followed by the "Loud Sigh." This signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you, "Nothing."
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Post by Larigirl on May 1, 2002 14:49:49 GMT -5
i'd say those are fairly accurate - pretty funny though. i know i've used the "fine" thing on my boyfriend. but he does the same to me except he says "well, do what you want" anyone else get that?
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Post by Dismal.Sunrise on May 4, 2002 8:38:36 GMT -5
Ah, yes, I've gotten that "Well what do you want?" And you know what the usual reply to that is....? "Nothing." *nods head* Yep.
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Post by tam on Jul 15, 2002 14:47:03 GMT -5
Too true! Esp the loud and soft sighs! they all sound kinda right, except for the 'oh' one...I've never heard of that. I wish there was something like that on how to take a hint for some guys! I've noticed that the girls usually want to be friends but the guys seem distant... It's strange that they sayt they don't want to ruin the friendship. (I say they b/c toxic seems to be speaking on behalf of the male population of this board, the rest are quiet..)
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Post by thevoicewithin on Jul 27, 2002 17:13:55 GMT -5
John you always come up with great witty things to say! Any girl would be crazy to not want to date you!
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Post by x.just.a.little.grL.x on Jul 30, 2002 19:20:32 GMT -5
Hah, that's pretty funny and ironic actually..I've used most if not all of those word/actions/meanings today..on well..my used to be guy Maybe if he had payed attention to the signals, he woulda seen this coming Haha..Well, even though he's a nice guy, I'm a happy single hunny, woohoo!!
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Post by RebDoMINe on Aug 8, 2002 21:56:32 GMT -5
lmao, those are ADORABLE!
Another thing guys need to learn, in my opinion...if you're not as cool or popular as a lot of guys, quit whining that no girl could ever like you. If you're going to be withdrawn and ignore all the signs that someone DOES like you, you'll end up alone anyway.
I have seen countless guys who are convinced that they'll always be alone and drop so many bad vibes that the girls that like them just give up. Don't worry so much!
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Aug 8, 2002 23:22:02 GMT -5
^^^Yes, so true!
To all the wonderful men out there who insist on hiding themselves... If you're not as "cool" or "popular"... Be proud, my insecure friend! You find more important things than smashing soda cans on your head and getting down the pants of your bimbo-of-the-week.
Truthfully, there are two kinds of teenage relationships that take place.
--The "Popular" Relationships. They last about a month, maybe less, rarely ever more. Chances are the girl has done something sexual with just about every guy she has come in contact with, and her "boyfriend" of the moment knows absolutely nothing about her.
--The, erm, "Unpopular" relationships. The guy and girl have known each other for a while, they know a lot about each other... He's not popular or quarterback on the football team, but he knows her birthday and her favorite movie. She doesn't pride herself on her collection of designer nail polish, but she's intellegent and wonderful, and they make each other completely happy.
So, you don't have the girls crawling all over you... It's a good thing. You have a select group of girls... Girls who will see you for you, and that's more attractive than any star football player.
I am never attracted to popular guys... I want someone I can have a deep conversation with, and who will treat me with respect.
Hopefully any man who reads this is no longer misinformed...
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Post by thevoicewithin on Aug 9, 2002 20:38:44 GMT -5
Lisa and RebDoMine: Agreed completely! My best friend Alan is convinced that no girls will ever like him, and to tell the truth, I like him! I think he knows and I have dropped numerous hints. But still, he continues to be withdrawn about them. My friend Kristine told me he liked me too, so I know he is insecure. Go for the girl you like guys!!!!!!!!! If she doesn't like you back, then she isn't worth your time!
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Post by Bruised Evening Sky on Aug 18, 2002 1:29:59 GMT -5
Alright, here's the thing that really gets me. I have two brothers, 21 and 20, and they ALWAYS complain about how girl mess with their minds and play games, and then just plain use them. My bros are funny, nice, good-looking guys who shouldn't have to experience that, which I know, but every time they bitch about this I want to scream because there's that one girl in the corner who's not a knock-out wearing provacative clothes, but has a good taste in music and movies and is intelligent enough to use four-syllable words in their sentences. Why don't guys ever give THEM a chance?
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Post by RebDoMINe on Aug 22, 2002 16:45:26 GMT -5
^^Some guys are into girls who dress provocatively, and have half a brain. But if they're going to be into girls like that, they shouldn't be surprised when these girls turn around and mess with their heads.
I have a rule. Any guy that would respond positively to a girl giving him a stupid line, approaching him because of his looks, or flirting pointlessly, is not my type. Neither is a guy who does these things. I am not flattered when some guy I don't even know asks me on a date (not that it happens often)...I'm a million times more flattered when someone who already knows me fairly well likes me. It means they like me for the person I am, not for the person I look like.
It makes it a lot easier to find someone with half a brain. If your brothers wouldn't concern themselves with picking up perfect looking girls and start thinking about girls who they get along with really well, a real relationship can come of that.
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