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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Jun 25, 2003 13:32:36 GMT -5
I am a 16 year old male and I have a slight problem I was hoping to get answered, seeing how Cloud Nine is like 99% female.
There is this girl who I take Tae Kwon Do with and she is like 13 .. maybe 14. This coming August she is starting in her 8th grade year and I am starting my 11th grade year. I am planning on asking her out, but I am not sure if she is too young.
Anyone have any input they can offer? Also, if you have the same problem as I do, please post it. We guys are weird on these things ...
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Post by busybodies on Jun 25, 2003 14:14:43 GMT -5
It doesn't matter what our opinion is. In the end it's up to this girl you want to ask out. I've had friends who were in the exact situation as you are in (same ages) and they went out for over a year. I had no problem with it, personally, though I knew a lot of other people did. Public opinion is something that has never concerned me, so if it was me I wouldn't give a damn.
What you should be concerned about is the difference in maturity. This girl hasn't even entered highschool. You guys might think along different wavelengths, have different interests. Those are the only obstacles I can see, not a difference in age.
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Post by cheyne fatale on Jun 25, 2003 14:47:21 GMT -5
It really depends on the people in question.
Yes? Yes.
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Jun 25, 2003 15:06:33 GMT -5
See, I agree with a lot of what you said, Busy. I just wanted to see if it would be an all around disagreement with people that way I could get an idea of what to expect. I am glad that neither of you really care. That's 2 for 2.
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Post by Dave Herald on Jun 25, 2003 15:23:46 GMT -5
I agree with busybodies as well, but I'll add my own two cents in also. I'd be a hypocrite if I said I didn't approve, being in a 3, almost 4 year age difference relationship myself.  But really, I don't see 2 years, even 3 as that big a difference at all. Being that you're still a minor, you can't get in trouble for dating her (like if you were 18, it might be a different story), so why not? I say go for it and ask her out if you really like her. You have nothing to lose, and who knows, something good may come out of it. Good luck! |
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Post by pinacolada on Jun 25, 2003 19:05:56 GMT -5
Age doesn't matter provided that the two people concerned are at the same maturity level. I too would be a hypocrite saying that you shouldn't go for it seeing as my boyfriend is 4 years older than me. Who cares what people say, if they approve or if they don't approve, all that matters is how you feel.
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Post by busybodies on Jun 26, 2003 3:50:01 GMT -5
I don't know what advice you wanted me to offer. You asked for input, I gave mine. You can't expect us to disagree if that's not our opinion.
Flaymz, the age gap doesn't matter in your relationship because both you guys are mature adults. It's different when you're talking about teens. No?
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Post by m on Jun 26, 2003 9:03:16 GMT -5
I don't think 16 and 13 is such a stretch, I would be concerned if you were 20, even 18 and she was 13. But as others have said, your interests and life direction are by default, going to take you in different directions. Are you going to be able to keep the relationship during school? Or when you're off to college and she's still in High School, maybe just entering it? And there will be things in your life that may not leave room for her because of the age difference. Just something to think about.
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Jun 27, 2003 0:45:00 GMT -5
Well, the thing is, as far as college is concerned, I am taking two years to get my Associate's Degree at a college that is more local, maybe about a 30-45 minute drive from where I live. After that, I am planning on moving out to get my Bachelor's and then my Master's.
Aside from that piece of useless information, we get along pretty well. I haven't had too much time to actually get to know her, but we have a lot in common.
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Post by Chao on Sept 11, 2003 15:05:51 GMT -5
Well, the thing is, as far as college is concerned, I am taking two years to get my Associate's Degree at a college that is more local, maybe about a 30-45 minute drive from where I live. After that, I am planning on moving out to get my Bachelor's and then my Master's. Aside from that piece of useless information, we get along pretty well. I haven't had too much time to actually get to know her, but we have a lot in common. I know who you're talking about.... go ahead with it,if its what you want to do Screw everyone else... |
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Sept 11, 2003 18:39:47 GMT -5
Chao, you and I already talked about this in school.
But anyway, I am going to wait until she is in high school since she's only in 8th grade right now. Once she's in high school, anything goes.
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Post by Chao on Sept 12, 2003 14:49:49 GMT -5
Chao, you and I already talked about this in school. But anyway, I am going to wait until she is in high school since she's only in 8th grade right now. Once she's in high school, anything goes. Indeed we did.... I would go ahead and tell her or something,so she knows....it would kinda suck if on her first day of high school another freshman beat you to it.... |
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Post by YourCapnSpeaking on Sept 12, 2003 19:08:49 GMT -5
This is true ...
After all, you did not have the balls to go tell her that I thought she was sexy ...
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Post by Frosty The Ice-Bitch on Sept 12, 2003 21:20:24 GMT -5
Well, the thing is, as far as college is concerned, I am taking two years to get my Associate's Degree at a college that is more local, maybe about a 30-45 minute drive from where I live. After that, I am planning on moving out to get my Bachelor's and then my Master's. Aside from that piece of useless information, we get along pretty well. I haven't had too much time to actually get to know her, but we have a lot in common. Up until you said you haven't had much time to get to know her it sounded like an okay idea, remember just because you have a lot in common on the outside, once you get to know somone they might be alot different. I don't know maybe I misunderstood what you were trying to say, But remember that. Besides that, I don't think it's that HUGE of an age difference. It doesn't sound like much of a problem. One thing about waiting till she's in highschool, You might not even like her that much anymore somone else could come along. |
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Post by Chao on Sept 12, 2003 22:11:43 GMT -5
This is true ... After all, you did not have the balls to go tell her that I thought she was sexy ... you just HAD to go and mention that,didnt you? XD |
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