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Post by x n0ise on Apr 24, 2002 15:44:03 GMT -5
'I love you!'
Doesn't it bug any of you guys when someone carelessly says, 'I love you' when you know he doesn't mean it? I bugs me like you'll never know....
One of my friends goes from boyfriend to boyfriend. They each say 'I love you' to her, and when they break up she crys and crys for days and days. She's all like, '...and he even told me he loved me!'
Now, it pisses me off that people(not only guys)use those 3 words carelessly. They don't actually know what it means, and they aren't very eager to figure it out either. Love is not something to play around with. It's some serious emotions. My boyfriend of almost 3 months hasn't told me 'I love you' yet. And I don't want him to say it unless he really means it, otherwise heartache will just occur. Same with me, I won't tell him until I mean it either. And then my friends have boyfriends of about 2 days and they're already telling each other 'I love you'. I don't think they see how serious these types of emotions are.
Comments, questions....please post your opinion! ;D
*EDITED because I was being sexist...eek!*
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Post by LisaRocksYourWorld, yo on Apr 24, 2002 16:31:58 GMT -5
I really dislike the L word. Yes, I believe love is possible. However, I think it's almost impossible in middle school, and very hard to find in high school.
I have yet to experience love, the same with all of my friends, regardless of the boyfriends and "loving relationships" they have.
Okay, the feelings I have for my crush (if you've been keeping up with it, which I'm sure you haven't) are... well, indescribable. I won't go into any pathetic details, but to make a long, long story short, I would literally do anything for him, our friendship and my feelings are so strong. I don't consider that love. Mainly because it's one sided (or so I think), and I don't even think one can contemplate what love is until they've actually experienced it.
"I love you" has no meaning. Player-guys say that to me every day, I don't take it seriously. Sure the attention is nice, but I know it's completely meaningless. It's like saying "I'm sorry." You find yourself saying it a million times a day for various reasons, but it never means anything.
I guess when you are older and in a committed relationship, "I love you" would have a real meaning. For now, I stay away from the L word. I think there's lust, infatuation, adoration, admiration... Those come easily, love is hard to come by.
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Post by Larigirl on Apr 25, 2002 18:59:37 GMT -5
I hate it when people say "I love you" when really they are just experiencing lust or whatever.... although, i tell my friends i love them, but that's not like romantic deep oh-i-want-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you type of love..... it's like, I'll-stay-with-you-and-be-a-good-friend type of love.
i told my first boyfriend that i loved him and he told me too... BUT we talked about what *kind* of love we were referring to and we made it very clear that it wasn't like "true love" or whatever.... and i'm glad i never told him that i truly loved him because not that i've found true love, i know what it is and i didn't have it with that first guy.
my guy now is so special to me. we've been together 2 years and will *hopefully* get married someday (i'm 19 so really, this isn't just wishful thinking).... but yeah. i'm glad i reserved those words for the right guy.
EDITED BECAUSE I ACCIDENTALLY CUT OUT A PART BEFORE AND IT SCREWED UP WHAT I WAS TRYING TO SAY! oops!
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Post by It's~A~Nova on Apr 25, 2002 21:50:53 GMT -5
[glow=pink,2,300]'Love' is not a word I throw around and I wouldn't date a guy who told me he loved me after a few days. I think 'love' is way over used. Especially in middle schools and high schools. At that age, how can they (including me) know what love is?
I've been dating a guy for about 5 months now (after being best friends for 5 years) and we haven't said 'I love you' to each other yet. We say we love seeing each other and love being together but not 'I love you' yet. When we finally do say it though, it'll make that much more special since we waited. [/glow]
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Post by Royal_Princess112 on Apr 26, 2002 10:49:49 GMT -5
i agree w/ u guys 100%! when i was younger, i used to believe in *Love at first sight*, but now that im older, i believe in *Lust at first sight* because it takes a LONG TIME to actually LOVE someone. personally, i've chosen to stay away from the whole "teenage dating" scene. i just don't see the point of putting so much time & effort into a relationship like that, if you know it's not gonna last very long...i dunno. maybe it's just me...
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Post by zonacruz6 on Apr 26, 2002 12:58:02 GMT -5
I have a friend who claims to be in love with her boyfriend. But, just yesterday, she gave me a note saying she doesn't even know if she loves him anymore. If that's the case, it was never love. Love is hard to come by, but I think it can be felt at any age.
I know I love Mike. He is the epitome of everything I've looked for in a human being. so what if I'm only 15? If what I'm feeling isn't love, then I don't know what love is. Because my feelings are so strong, and I would do anything for Mike. I want him to be happy more than I want myself to be happy. I love being with him and hearing his voice. Seeing him upset turns my happiness to misery, but seeing him happy can also turn my sadness to joy. I have known him less than a year, and we already have a great friendship. I know his good traits, and I love him for them. But, I love him even more because he has flaws, too. I don't see him as perfect, but no one is perfect. Is that not love?
I don't love Mike as in "I want to be with you for the rest of my life." He's my first love, not my life destiny. Maybe we'll be high school sweehearts, or maybe not. But, I know I love him. I'm positive.
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Post by x n0ise on Jun 4, 2002 22:18:05 GMT -5
My boyfriend of a little over 4 months, told me he loved me a couple days ago. It was so special. And I know he meant it too. He used to be a player and has never said that to any other girl before (he doesn't even say it to his sis, bro, or ma!). So it's not something he would just play around with. I didn't say it back that night though.
A couple days after that, we were alone and I wanted to tell him that I loved him, because I truly do. It took me a few minutes to get it out there, but I finally said it. It's a lot easier to think it than to actually say it. But when I said it, the moment just seemed so magical. It's a feeling that I'll never forget when he said, 'I Love You, too.' The emotions of love are so strong...it's almost magical.
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Post by Spazmatikal on Jun 6, 2002 22:27:50 GMT -5
my boyfriend and i tell each other that we love each other. we have since pretty early in the relationship... but because we both felt it. and we both still do, at such strong amazing levels. i didn't know it was possible to love someone as much as i love my boy, and each time we say it, it has so much passion behind it. the cool thing about it is that it just keeps growing... aww. i like being in love. but yeah, it totally bothers me when people throw these three words around when they don't really mean it. love is special.
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Post by *foxxykiwi* on Jun 29, 2002 19:36:34 GMT -5
My boyfriend and I say that we love each other, because we do. I never told anyone else that I loved them, because I didn't. I have had boyfriends that meant a lot to me, and they told me they loved me after like 2 months .. and I looked them straight in the eye and told them that they don't love me, they don't know what love is and neither did I at the time. But now that I found it, it's special.
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Post by Frosty The Ice-Bitch on Sept 24, 2002 22:20:36 GMT -5
A friend of mine recently had a boy friend that she said she "loved" but they broke up today. she was very sad he told her he loved her yesterday and today said theat he just didn't like her anymore and just wanted to be friends for a while sssooo
Ya i don't think you should just throw around the love word!
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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on Oct 3, 2002 16:24:41 GMT -5
Its something that sadly has no significance. Like I'll come out with "I'm sorry" to get myself out of trouble, "I love you" is something quick and just used by guys. I haven't told any guy apart from my brother than I love them. It's three words with massive meaning.
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Post by funkygirlk16 on Oct 15, 2002 14:59:14 GMT -5
I especially hate it when a guy tells you he loves you just to get into your pants. Being a viegin, I haven;t done anything like that. But my cousin is infatueted with this guy @ the skating rink, and all he wants is sex. She completley melts over him. Can't she see that he's with a dif girl every nite? ~jenny
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Post by tootrickyforyou on Oct 19, 2002 13:13:51 GMT -5
*Growls*. I hate, hate, HATE guys like that! There's one I met on the internet that I'm supposed to be meeting soon, and he tells me he loves me...he doesn't even know me! He just said it for the first time two nights ago, and I'm going to have to talk with him sometime today. You guys are right. Saying "I love you" is NOT somthing that can just be played around with and used casually.
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Post by Starr on Dec 3, 2002 21:32:44 GMT -5
I think that there is only one person out there you are meant to love... Just to sum it all up I believe in soul mates and that there is true love for everyone IF! you deserve it. And my boyfriend thinks the same thing, so it works. We both think that it is RARE! extremley RARE that two people will fall in love in high school. So we have been going out for almost four months, and we dont even USE the word 'love'... we both hate it. Instead we use "That word" lol its kinda pathetic. So we say "I that word that song!!" and stuff. We think the word love gets thrown around sooo much that we dont even use it in normal conversation.. no matter how pathetic that may seem.
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Post by angelprincess <3 on Dec 3, 2002 22:35:40 GMT -5
Me and my boyfriend didn't say 'I Love You' to each other until we had been going out for like...9 months. But when he said it, I knew he meant it and I felt sooooo special.
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