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Post by -*- Little Miss Strawberry -*- on Feb 21, 2002 10:29:37 GMT -5
I'm sometimes sceptical when I read people saying they don't care about popularity. I know some honestly don't, but most people have a little bit of concern and, if not be popular, want to be liked. There is indeed a difference, but many feel that to be liked is to be popular. I agree with that in many cases.
I don't believe that being popular is to have a boyfriend, and to have crowds of friends around you. If that was the case, then the popular ones in my school would be the ones that throw themselves at boys, get hurt, and have cheap friendships with every other girl in the year who is like them - and fall out every week. That's not being popular.
Being popular in my opinion is to be trusted and well liked within a community/group. Its to be ambitious, friendly and kind. It's not about having a high social life, it's about relationships. Loud people aren't always popular. They just deafen people. Some people have the perception that popular people don't work and muck around all the time. I'd challenge it that those who DO work, and DO have respect from others, are those that are popular.
Using that principle for myself, I am a hard working person who generally is kind, and happy. I smile a lot of the time, and it's interesting because people are always always always attracted to those that smile and are happy. I don't crave attention, I just get on with life. I do have a loud voice but thats because of a hearing loss, not because I feel I need to be heard. I have friends around me because I make a big effort to have friends around me.
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Post by hahaimgoofy on Feb 22, 2002 23:20:57 GMT -5
Sometimes I'm skeptical about people saying they don't care about popularity too, but if they're like me, they really don't. I just think it's stupid. Being a loner, all I really want are some friends, popularity isn't a issue with me. To me, to be popular, you have to dress a certain way, act a certain way, and can't be an individual. If I wanted to be popular, I would totally have to change who I am, which isn't cool. Besides, I don't like the popular kids anyway, they're too stuck-up, rude, and make fun of you just because your not like them. GREAT people... yea. Popularity doesn't matter in the real world, so what's the point thinking about it? I'm not going to try to impress people... if they don't like me, it's their problem. Just like someone said, how is it going to help you? Enough of my ranting, the bottom line is, well, IT DOESN'T MATTER!  |
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Post by x n0ise on Feb 22, 2002 23:59:35 GMT -5
Eh...I could care less about it. I have a wonderful boyfriend and awesome friends. What more could I want? ;D
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Post by vbkimber07 on Mar 20, 2002 22:08:48 GMT -5
I see a HUGE difference coming out of jr. high into high school. As much as I hated to admit it I wanted really bad to be part of the "popular group" up until the summer between my 9th and 10th grade years. Now I realize most of the members of that group are not truly popular, they are snobs and not many people outside their group likes them. I am proud to be part of several different groups of friends, and I consider myself popular with all the people I care about. That is what is most important. It seems like you will never get there, but you will.
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Post by matthewmckillop on Mar 23, 2002 23:43:36 GMT -5
i dont care about popularity. Im popular at my school but some people just use me for what i wear not who i am. My friends are unpopular i dont give a $hit cause they care for me so theyre important they dont care what i wear they like me for who i am voice_of_serinty and sidekick007 are very good examples of true friends. I love ya chrisitna and nikki  |
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Post by tam on Mar 30, 2002 10:35:05 GMT -5
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Post by Michaelangelo on Apr 4, 2002 0:52:20 GMT -5
^^^Sorry to sound awful and bitchy, but truly 'popular' people (you know who they are, even if you don't like it-- there's always one group who everyone knows is 'popular') don't run around going, "Wow, I'm sooo popular!"
Back on topic, I too used to want to be popular. Then in the summer after 7th grade I got together with this great guy I've known for years...and it made me realize that people could (and should) like me for who I was, not how I looked (which was awful, I admit). Ever since then, I've carried myself with pride and have grown into 'myself'. I'm not popular-- I still feel a bit of that old anxiety when I stay in the hallway after school (which is known to be a 'popular' hangout...I hate how I sound like some bad teenage movie!), but now I'm comfortable hanging out with the people I used to be scared of. I dunno what point I'm trying to make here-- sorry. I guess popularity isn't as important as finding who you are and being happy with what you discover.
Love,
~The Kitten~
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Post by zonacruz6 on Apr 27, 2002 18:37:17 GMT -5
I've never really been popular. I used to want to be, up until a year or so ago. Now I realize how awful it must be to have to meet all the requirements of popularity. I'd rather just be me.
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Post by 80s Child on May 8, 2002 20:41:57 GMT -5
I was never "popular" in high school. And how desperately did I want to be popular! I used to dream and fantasize about when the popular girls would ask to be my friends. Ugh... Now, it doesn't matter to me in the least. When you go to a college as large as mine, popularity doesn't matter. I fit in pretty much wherever, and I'm happy about that. As for the years I spent alone, well they didn't go to waste. I learned how to use Internet messageboards, ICQ, email and MSN, as well as a lot of other computer software, and computer skills help out A LOT in the working world. I also have wonderful online friends, whom I wouldn't trade for the world. ;D And anyway, like I said, popularity doesn't matter when you're older. Connections are a great thing to have, but education and other types of intelligence are the most important things. So put that in your pipe and smoke it.  |
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Post by x n0ise on May 10, 2002 17:09:03 GMT -5
I longed to be popular last year....I would do absolutely anything to fit in. I look back on it now and I was so pathetic. I didn't realize how many awesome friends I had....what's the need to be popular if I have them? And now I have a great boyfriend whom I've been going out with for a little over 3 months. I'll admit, he is popular at his school, but that doesn't affect me any. He doesn't 'try' to be popular...he's just so loveable it's hard not to like him. But I'm over the whole popularity thing. I mean, I'm sure I'll have a few conflicts with myself about it in the furture..but I'm just fine with it right now.
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Post by funkygirlk16 on Sept 11, 2002 15:38:16 GMT -5
I'm the middle one, because people like who I am. I hate dictators. I bitc*-slap them. lol.
~*Stepharoola*~
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Post by SunShine on Sept 24, 2002 21:27:50 GMT -5
I've never really wanted to be in the crowd that was considered popular because they were always rude to me. Some of my not so good friends only care about being in the popular crowd and would dump us in a second.
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Post by canadiana on Nov 6, 2002 21:59:08 GMT -5
Haha, yeah, popularity was the cool thing from about grade 6 to 8. I was popular in grade 6. And that sure makes a difference on how I am now five years later.  lol. But in grade 7 and 8, I moved and I was at the bottom of the "social ladder". It was big slap across the face since I was so used to being friends with everyone and such. So it was big issue during those years. I was really sincerely upset about it though. I thought that I wasn't pretty enough, I wasn't nice enough, I wasn't outgoing enough for people to like me. It got me pretty depressed. But things change, as they always do. I'm in grade 11 now, and I have my friends. And I like them. So it's good. Then I have "acquaintances" or people I can stop by in the halls to chat with briefly or something. I'm nothing close to "popular" but I realize in high school, there isn't even a popular group. There are just a few little cliques who think they are, but they're really not. |
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Post by Steph99 on Mar 26, 2003 20:45:55 GMT -5
I admit - I'm popular, but now don't start stereotyping me right away to be some wind-up doll with a china face. I'm totally not like that.
First of all, I do not try to impress people. It seems that people think I'm actually cool, so I'm well known. Not really popular i guess but a wide spread of people are friendly to me and are nice and like me.
But, I could care less, ya know? I mean, I have my closest friends - I wouldn't care if I was not a social butterfly or anything of that sort, as long as you have a few friends - it's alrite.
Uhm, Michealangelo said something like "I can't stand tose people who go wahh wahh i don't have any friends". Well, there maybe no excuse for that @ your scool, but my school has less than 200 students and there isn't really any "cliques" at all... just the left out. (which is about 2 people i can think of).
Love yah,
-Steph
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Post by strangelilboi on Apr 30, 2003 14:57:35 GMT -5
I wont say I'm unpopular and I wont say I am either. It just seems to depend on a lot of things. I mean I know so many people and I have quite a few really decent friends. And people generally seem to be quite civil to me.
But then I find a lot of people will hate me all the same. Nothing i seem to do is good enough for them. No matter how nice and honest i am. No matter if i get on decently well with the most popular person in the world. They just hate me and it hurts.
And much as I try not to car about being popular it hurts that I'm not. What worse is being hated? I int annoying in the least and i desperatelay try not to be, but they still persist. And times I am reluctant like hell to go to certain lessons.
I'd say although I'm well known and generally well-liked no one wants to be me and i int popular.
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